My boyfriend and I know many couples that say that they lost their sex lives after they got married. Is this true? If so, why wouldn't they want to have sex with each other anymore? Our understanding is that it's mostly the woman's decision to stop having sex... so ladies, why?
2006-11-13 17:14:19 · 27 answers · asked by Stephanie S 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men, read Heathers response and beware. There are women out there that are like this. They may use sex as a lure but many really can live without it. Find a mate that has similar needs and if sex is important to you like it is to most men make sure she also really enjoys it. After marraige many men and women show their true self and for many men that means much less sex that leads to all sorts of problems including cheating. Women if you are not doing you part to sexually please your man you are playing with fire. Men if you are not doing yuour part to please your woman same goes to you.
2006-11-14 05:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not stop, but slow way down. After you are married for a while U learn that sex is not as important as u thought it was. U work all day, eat dinner, get the kids in bed, and then u are too tired to have sex. If you are not making a baby it becomes another form of work! Whats the point? If you go a while without it, it makes it that much better when U do have it!
2006-11-13 17:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by capellafella2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for two years and in my experience the sex doesnt stop altogether but does decrease. Some weeks we will have sex 4 days in a row and other weeks we wont do it at all for 6 days straight. Sometimes it happens every other day, and other times a lot of days go by in between. the truth is after your married the sex can still be amazing, but like with anything in life moderation will always set in. There is definately plenty of chemistry still as long as your fostering the relationship and keep on flirting, and sex doesnt have to happen 24/7. it's truly a great thing. And you can always keep things spicy, so when you do have sex, it's still as explosive as it was pre-marraige. =)
2006-11-13 18:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by killbillgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things slow down a bit when the kids are small, but as soon as they're old enough for sleepover with grandma or friends, you're back in business.
We've been together 22 years, our son is off at college, and the sex is just great.
2006-11-13 18:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the couple and what they did before marriage. My wife and I were virgins on our wedding night and its been several years now...but our love life has only improved and we haven't lost the drive for each other at all. Sure the frequency might be less but the intensity, the passion, the urgency is still there and she likes it because I take good care of her while we're making love.
2006-11-13 17:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by DrSH 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's not true in all marriages. I've been marrried 5 yrs and we are still as active as when we were dating. The issues you speak of doesn't only happen in marriages. It also happens to unmarried couples who have been living together for a long time.
2006-11-13 17:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a lot of pressure to have sex all the time, but also, after marriage and the initial draw, you feel that sex is always something that you can do at any time. It's now limited between the two of you and is not as exciting, and it simply takes too much time to do. I dunno, if you can keep it alive, as some people I know have, go ahead =)
2006-11-13 17:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by xdannifenx 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it's usually due to children. once you have em your sex life plummits. but after the newly wed stage it comes a point where you dont need to be around each other 24/7 and dont need sex to fulfill your life completely. a different kind of love is forming between the couple.
2006-11-13 17:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by collgegrl11 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 21 years and while both of our bodies have changed, we still enjoy sex a great deal. I think a lot of women who loose interest in sex do so because their men lose interest in them. My wife still catches me looking at her and she still knows that while we often make romantic love, as a man I still lust after her and we still have spontaneous sex... sometimes I just have to have her. I think that lets her know that she still has it!
2006-11-13 17:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
nope!!!! We still have sex like we just got married and we've been married 4 years! My mom and dad are the same way and they've been married 25!!!!
2006-11-13 17:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by Hunters wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋