5 years ago my marriage of 14 years ended and I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and left with 3 kids. Around the time of my divorce I started to sleep with my driving instructor who later told me that he was living with his girlfriend.
2 years after this I started work and was approached by a 24 year old to have a friends with benefits relationship i'm 35. This was after being friends with him for about 3 months, he knew about my other man but we still had sex. A year on I experienced a manic episode after stopping my meds for a few weeks, I slept with another man I had met in a nightclub a couple of times and told the 24 year old about this but not the driving instructor as I didn't want to lose him. The 24 year old went off the handle and got really upset especially when I said I had unprotected sex, not sure if he is jealous or is concerned about my behaviour.
He is threatening to inform driving instructor and its his fault i am in mess. What should i do?
2006-11-13 23:04:50 · 10 answers · asked by bob n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's your fault your in this mess. Don't try to shift blame to another individual for your poor decisions. Don't try to blame this on your bipolar disorder. I am bipolar and have in the early years gone off my meds, but I didn't sleep around on my wife.
Sleeping with someone is a conscious decision, at 35, you are way past the age to have figured out personal responsibility. This country is going to hell in a handbasket because of people refusing to take responsibility for their own choices and actions.
Sorry, but reality is rough
2006-11-13 23:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's HIS fault??? Who are you kidding you drama queen?! You are at fault, 100%, and I feel soooooo sorry for your kids!!! You are a terrible mother and a bad person that needs some major behavior adjustments made.
I really hope this 24 year old idiot tells your stupid driving instructor and I hope they all gang up on you and tell you that you're trash like you are for sleeping around!!
Go change your life, lady. You bipolar is the least of your problems. Trust me.
2006-11-14 07:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knuckle down and weather the storm, if he tells he tells, what can you do. Unfortunately this is some of the behaviour you have to tolerate from immature young men. What's the worst that can happen? I'm sure the driving instructor will hear you out and if he's worth his sorts he'll understand that given the crap you've had to deal with, you've done pretty well. This could even make him realise that perhaps it's time for a bit of commitment on his part, I hope it goes well for you sweetie.
2006-11-14 07:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take responsibility for your behavior and accept whatever consequences fall to you. One of our responsibilities, since you know you have a mental illness, is to stay on medications.
Another is to decide whether you want to commit to one person or to play the field. Both of those options have their up and down sides. People who like commitment don't want to be with someone who plays the field.
It is not fair to the driving instructor, who you apparently like more.(does his girlfriend know of his bi-sexual orientation?). As for your fling with the 20 year old, well that is the way guys are, straight, bi, or gay. We want to play the field. We want to trade in on new models. Figure out what you want and be honest with others.
Good luck.
2006-11-14 07:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Bob: It's not to bad. From what I can see I would end everything right there. I would collect myself and get my thoughts together. You mentioned Bi-polar, is this a problem with you, since you mentioned it? or did you just mention it?
It looks like you should slow down a little, maybe take a break and start over, maybe a little slower.
2006-11-14 07:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop sleeping around. Sex doesn't validate you as a person. If you want people to respect and love you, respect and love yourself first. About your situation, this is beyond your control since you are the guilty party.
2006-11-14 07:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, you are definitly too old to be in this situation. Why are you having unprotected sex....YIKES! I would look at my life and change it, before I lose it.
2006-11-14 07:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont blame another for your own actions. Stay on your meds. And do NOT continue to have unprotected sex.
2006-11-14 07:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
face the fact that you messed up. it aint no ones fault but your own
2006-11-14 07:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave that fool alone
2006-11-14 07:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋