2006-11-13 22:29:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, do it when you're ready
2006-11-13 22:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Velouria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word: yes. It's very important to make love to your beautiful new bride...especially on the wedding night! If she is a virgin then it's extremely important--she's been waiting for you! Even if she's not a virgin, the wedding night is meaningful. It's your first time together as husband and wife. She's yours forever, but that doesn't mean you should take her for granted.
My husband and I were married 2 months ago. Our wedding day was intense and hectic--we left the reception at 10:30, we were so tired! But we still managed to have sex afterwards. It wasn't the greatest, but it made me sad to even think about not doing it!
2006-11-13 22:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by Pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not important have sex with your wife on the first day of marriage. If things move to a pass and if there is a spontaneity, it is fine. What is more important is that you talk to her, hold her hand, give a warm caress, reassure her, treat her as your friend, and confide in her, you will have immense pleasure.Sex is not going to be so transitory. You will have in plenitude with her and she will reciprocate in profusion.
2006-11-13 23:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both men and women are under pressure about having sex on the 'first night' but if you both are virgins, than it can be a very unnerving experience as you both will be nervous
but dont worry. as long as you two respect and understand each other you will be fine.
one thing you need to remember is you dont HAVE TO DO IT on that first night itself. if one of you feels too nervous or 'not ready' then its perfectly fine to wait for the next night, or the one after that. sex is always better when both people are relaxed and calm and wedding day brings lot of tensions and emotional rollercoaster (esp coz she leaves the parents house) so you should take into consideration her state of mind as well.
its quite possible that you both will 'do it' the first night, as it is the expression of your love and commitment to each other but dont force yourself or her. communication is most important.
i suggest that you talk to her about it. tell her that you are really looking forward to your first night together and really want to make love to her, but at the same time you dont want her to feel pressurised and you both will only go at the pace that she is comfortable with. she will really appreciate this if you say this.
also tell her that you want to know how she feels and if there is something she wants to talk to you about your first night, then she should...
its also a good idea to discuss about family planning / what kind of contraception you will be using. she may go on the pill or you can use condoms
its always best to talk about these things so you both are comfortable with each other
good luck and congratulations on your wedding !!
2006-11-13 22:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
days are gone when both didnt know each other till they get married. Now a dyas u have enough time to know each other before u get married. I know people, they plan well to make their first night memorable since it comes only once in everybody's life. Healthy sex life is one of the essential requirements of successfull marriage life. The first night is called "Suhag raat". Next night is never called "Suhag raat". If u want to keep the meaning of "Suhag raat" , it shold be celebrated with good amount of sex. U have lot of time to prepare your selves for this night. both of u can make good planing to make it really successful by having good sex that night. Best luck.
2006-11-13 23:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by alnoor_vasayain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good evening Indiaaaa..... yes not important to have sex with ur wife on the first day of marriage. Because first day is totally understanding day in which u have to tell about ur family tell about ur self. when first day will come u will forget everything.
2006-11-13 22:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by aadrish 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think so.
U and ur wife will be tired after the looooong ceremony and all...why risk it that day????
If ur performance is BAD that day, think how ur bride will feel and what she will tell her friends...!!
Ur married life will be ruined by one failure on ur part...
So you take a call now!!!!!
2006-11-13 23:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a physical need of your body similar to food which you eat if you feel hungry.Sex only when combined with love can enrich your marriage.If love is not involved in the act it is animalistic.
2006-11-13 22:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and take it easy. Both of you are not running anywhere so take it easy. If you're not too tired, make the most of the wedding night besides you have the rest of your lives to enjoy yourselves.
2006-11-13 22:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be frank enough nowdays most of the people dont do it on the first night cause they are too tired of customs and rush of shaadi. generally people have after the first night, so dont worry, u will not be the only one, join the club.
2006-11-14 01:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Hidimba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the opportunity, but if she's not comfortable with it then don't pressure her. The next night could be just as wonderful:)
2006-11-13 22:30:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋