Ladies, how can you expect to be treated as an equal when so many of you....?

Question

........don't act or think like an equal to men?
Understand that I know this doesn't apply to all women; so, if this doesn't apply to you, and you feel so strongly towards me for pointing this out, I ask you why do you want to defend this behavior or deny its existence? It's not helping anyone to do so.

So many ladies want (demand) equality but they:
-Want to be taken care of, financially and in many other ways
-Want to waste 5 - 10 years with bad boys (maybe have a kid or two), then treat nicer men like crap
-Are unwilling to work on their passive-aggressive, deficient communcation methods with their man in the home

Trust me, these are the main 3.

Be sure to read coconut's answer before submitting yours.

Answer 1

While I am sure that many women will berate you for your post, I applaud you. What you said is quite true. How can women expect to be equal to men if we do not think or act like them? Perhaps that is the problem: we DO think like them.

In regards to your first observation: "Why do women want to be taken care of by men?" History shows that men wanted to take care of their women, that's why women were not allowed to vote for so long. That's why working mothers was unheard of for so many years. Well, now women are agreeing. "Fine," they say, "You wanna take care of me, go ahead."

This addresses your second observation. "Why do women waste their time with bad boys and then treat nice men like crap?" What about the men who waste their time with promiscuous bimbos and then treat decent women like crap? Men want to sow their wild oats. Then they get married. Then they cheat on their wife and sow more wild oats.

Your final question: "Why are women unwilling to work on their passive-aggressive communication with men?" Well I ask you, why are men unwilling to work on their communication? You sound like a fairly well-read man, but you are the exception to the rule. Most men do not willingly share their feelings. They do not cry at movies, gab about coworkers, etc.

Perhaps your next question should be: "Why are men and women so alike?"

Answer 2

There is a very big difference between woman just simply wanting to be taken care of and a woman in a relationship where the man and the woman help take care of each other. i personally think you are confused.

woman and men are two different creatures and there are supposed to be differences. Women can live without men and men can live without women. That is just the way life is.

I dont know what kind of women you have been around, but I take pride in being able to work and pull my own weight in my marriage. Not all women are passive-aggressive and to tell you the truth, the only reason that I may appear to be the weaker one is because my husband (and most men) need to "feel" like the man to be happy. They must "feel" like they are in charge and make all the decisions and alot of women just let their husbands "think" they are so there will be peace in the home.

And as far as your bad boy comment, just because a women is attracted to a man that in your opinion is "bad" doesnt mean she has made the wrong choice. The men that you classify as "nicer men" is just a matter of your opinion...As a woman, and Im sure they will all agree, if I want to marry someone and have 10 kids with someone that one person may calssify as a bad boy, that is my right. Everyone seeks different things in a relationship and it is none of your business who these women you are reffering to date. Sounds like you are a bit jealous of a certain "bad boy" that maybe got the woman you want eh?

Let me take a wild guess here and say that you are single....?

Answer 3

I think perhaps you are the king of passive aggressive behavior. After all, you don't want intelligent women to answer this question, the ones to whom your question doesn't apply...and how do you expect the rest to defend themselves? I will neither defend nor deny its existence. I see it every day and it drives me crazy too! My son has a girlfriend who is exactly what you have described. I certainly don't understand why he puts up with this horrid woman, because he certainly didn't grow up in a home where those types of things happened.

Your question is complicated. First of all, you have to look at the history of men and women. Men made women what they are today. We were kept in the house, not educated like men, lived on what men provided for us...and sometimes those habits are hard to break! (No, I'm definitely NOT one of those who stayed in the mold...I was raised by a very empowering father.) Women see the happily ever after fairy tales and they grow up thinking that's how it should be. Nobody said it was right, and nobody said it was fair, and nobody promised you a fair life either. I just think you need to understand that the type of woman you describe is really the minority and not the majority. Remember, you deserve better.

I can only suggest to you that you might have to kiss a few ho's before you meet a princess. As you said yourself, not all women are like that. I hope you find yourself a real gem one day.

Answer 4

MEN, HOW CAN YOU EXPECT TO BE TREATED AS AN EQUAL WHEN SO MANY OF YOU DONT ACT AND THINK LIKE A WOMAN? UNDERSTAND, I KNOW THIS DOESN'T APPLY TO ALL MEN, SO, IF IT DOESN'T APPLY TO YOU AND YOU FEEL SO STRONGLY TOWARDS ME FOR POINTING THIS OUT, I ASK YOU WHY DO YOU WANT TO DEFEND THIS BEHAVIOR OR DENY ITS EXISTENCE? IT'S NOT HELPING ANYONE TO DO SO. SO MANY MEN WANT(DEMAND) EQUALITY BUT THEY: -WANT TO BE TAKEN CARE OF WHEN THEY HAVE EVEN THE SLIGHTEST SORE THROAT, LIKE THEIR WORLD IS COMING TO AN END -WANT TO WASTE 5-10 YEARS WITH A MEAN SPIRITED WOMAN (MAYBE HAVE CHILD OR TWO), AND INIST ON NOT TAKEN THE FARTHERLY ROLE, OR EVEN PAY CHILD SUPPORT, THEN TREAT UPSTANDING WOMAN LIKE DOGS -ARE UNWILLING TO WORK ON THEIR PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE, DEFICIENT COMMUNICATION METHODS WITH THEIR WOMAN AT HOME TRUST ME THESE ARE THE MAIN THREE. ADAM CORROLA WOULD BE SO PROUD OF YOU!

Answer 5

Well, I am a woman. I completed college before I even thought about getting married, in part so I never would have to depend on a man to support me. I didn’t marry a ‘bad’ boy (honestly, I did date a few, but I never once considered marrying them). My marriage has lasted 17 years, mostly due to the fact that we do communicate effectively, and we were mature enough to fully understand what we were getting into when we got married. Yes, we argue, but we argue like adults, not immature children who result to screaming and name-calling. AND we don’t run out and have affairs because we’re bored (Lord, the people on here doing that!).

With that said…yes, there are women that have the qualities you described. Just look at some on the questions on here from women who’ve only been married a few years and think they deserve alimony for it, and the women on here advising them how to get it (it’s not going to happen!). Frankly, reading some of the questions on here scares me so much I’ve almost reached the point where I’m about ready to advise my sons to NEVER get married.

But here’s the key boys---if you are going to get married, then marry the right kind of woman!

Answer 6

Some women are just too lazy and stupid to be an equal...just like there are men out there with same 3 issues...you can't stereotype all woman based on individuals...I value my independance and and the fact I'm doing it all on my own...those who know me respect me for it. But this is all done by choice. I have too much pride to have it any other way!!!

If you're only meeting troubled women then I think you need to change your strategy. You won't find women like me at a bar or in a club.

Answer 7

You speak the truth.Maybe they should make life size vibrators that can listen to them when they whine about stupid stuff instead of just getting on with it. Maybe there'll be a tsunami that'll wash away all the crap women ok i'm getting carried away.They shouldn't be treated as equals cos they say they don't need a man but they probably have one.These women serve to inspire all lesbos that justify not liking men. But thats women can't live with them can't live without them. A world without women would be painful but it would operate much better and be efficient.

Answer 8

I was married once ( he was a very Nice guy ) Loved him
very much , he died 5 years ago. I have not married again. I worked my butt off sending him threw COLLEGE.
I did not get to go. I have had to work 2 jobs sometimes,
just to make it. I don't need a man to take care of me. It is
not just women that want to be taken care of. Men are just as bad.

Answer 9

Its because the average man and woman think on seperate wavelengths, some women have no idea how to just do something without feeling or emotion, but then some men have no idea how to show feeling or emotion, or know how to communicate correctly....and this is why men and women constantly disagree on almost every level, its not because they arent equal, only because they think differently to one another......

Answer 10

I don't want to be taken care of, the only thing I ask a man to do is reach something on the top shelf that I can't, I did't waste any time on any man, I'm not even sure what you mean by passive-aggresive behaviour.