My daughters father has not seen her in three years. I have since re-wed, my husband is the only father she has known. I have a court order to add my last name bt I would like to change it to mine and my husbands. I have concerns that she my develope issues because she is the only one in our home with a diffferent last name. Where do I start, and begin
2006-11-14 23:13:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will need your ex husband's approval and without it, you will have no success.
2006-11-14 23:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my son's name changed for the same reason. I am unsure about the laws in your state but it may be possible to file on your own which is generally done through the civil or circuit court clerk who will give you the necessary paperwork as well as a court date.
Otherwise, you may need to see an attorney who will fill out the paperwork for you and arrange for a court date.
The court date is rather simple. The judge will ask why you want the name change for your child. He may ask your husband if it fine for the child to have his last name. In my case, he even asked my son, (who was 5), if that was ok.
Depending on how backed up the courts are, it could take 3-4 weeks before you can get a court date. I want to say we we waited almost 3 weeks for our court date.
It cost us $350 to have it done. That included our court cost and lawyer fees. Check first with the court clerk to see if you can file on your own so you only have to pay the court cost.
If not, seek an attorney that specializes in family law, domestic cases or names changes.
Best wishes for you and your family!
2006-11-14 23:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by blessedwife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do this by deed poll the fact her biological father hasn't seen her in so long will help. If she calls your husband dad and looks upon him as her dad that will also help.
If she is old enough to understand she will have to want to change it.
Why not get your husband to adopt her as his own or set up equal parental rights that would make changing the name easier I'm sure.
2006-11-14 23:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her keep his and your name. She needs to know where she came from even if dad is a deadbeat. In the grand scheme of things she will be constantly surrounded by your new husbands love and if explained to her the right way, she should not have any hang ups about having a different name than other kids. SHe IS different but in a good way.
2006-11-14 23:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by BB'sMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does she want? She needs an identity and if she identifies with your new family then complete the process. Does her bio father agree with this or can he be found? Do whatever you believe to be best for her and don't make apologies when it blows up in your face. That's what parenting is all about.
2006-11-14 23:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not be able to do this without the father of your daughter, signing off and allowing this. My advice is to get a lawyer if he is agreeable to that. Other than that, if he passes away, your home free.
2006-11-15 01:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact your local court house. Look for the family law division. Or, most attorneys have free counciltation, ask them about the laws in your area.
2006-11-14 23:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by shepherd169 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant change a birth certificate no matter what.
However you can changer her name by deed poll.
Go to your local court and ask for name change by deed poll.
You have 3 forms to fill in.
However you need good reason!
so think of a good one prior to getting there as you dont want to get stumped by them if they ask you why staight up!
2006-11-14 23:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go to the court clerk in your town, i have the same problem and i was able to change my son's name that way.
2006-11-14 23:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋