can you help me how to cope with stressfull life because of my unfaithful husband?
2006-11-14 22:53:04 · 20 answers · asked by cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, once again here I go with my all time answer to cheating, "there is never an excuse to cheat". The first thing you need to do is to absolve yourself of any and all guilt concerning this situation. He cheated on you and you have to live the rest of your life. Start by recognizing that you are important and that you do matter, don't be down on yourself because of something he did. There is love out there for you if you choose. Take your time to heal and allow sometime for you! relieve the stress with some candles and a bubble bath, ENJOY!
2006-11-15 00:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Up! do not let him see that this bothers you and go straight to the court house and file for divorce and take half his s hit because once a cheater always a cheater. I know from experience they always say they are sorry but really do not mean it. You can show him he hurt you by getting the divorce. Hold your head up and keep going forward, he did not think of your feelings when he was with someone else. Just think about it like this: There is some strong very handsome man out there that is looking for you right now and the passion will be out of this world and you will go to exotic places and be totally in love where it will feel like you are the only two that exist. Don't give up someone out there will love you always and would never have another woman. So file your papers and let the sun shine down on you because you will come out so much better, maybe the next one will have lots of money and take you where ever you want to go.Good Luck
2006-11-15 07:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go get a good lawyer, and make sure that you are taken care of for a while. Don't feel bad about it, because he is the one that made the big mistake. Hold your head up high and proud, you are better than both he and she are. It is going to be rough for a while, I won't lie to you, but it will get better with time.
Don't stoop to their level. It is OK , even expected to be sad/angry/confused/humiliated etc, but just remember that you are a good person, and refuse to drown in it.
I would also make sure that you go get a doctors exam to make sure that you do not have any STD's and also think about getting yourself a counselor or someone qualified that can help you through this. If you need someone to talk to you can always drop me a line.
2006-11-15 06:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by kimberly b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating doesn't always mean breaking up. You be the judge about the state of your relationship. For now try to get into you and don't make any permanent decisions. Does he want to break up? You said he has a woman ...is he planing on being with her? In that case...file for a divorce and get some counseling. This too shall pass.
2006-11-15 07:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by BB'sMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you file a case, you must do something. take a look in the mirror. are you desireable? are you sexy? if you were a man would you want you? if you answered yes to any of these then go file your case, but if not. then think about what i wrote. you expect your man to make love to you and only you and its very possible youre just an oink? i dont feel bad for you if this is the case. because im in the same situation. my wife is a fat oink and everytime i cheat on her she gets mad, i tell her over and over to lose weight but she refuses to listen, so oh well. ill get mines somewhere else and thats reality. cause it dont turn me at all, its like doing a baby elephant .
2006-11-15 06:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't do anything in the spur of the moment. You may regret for the rest of your life. You don't tell us the details - maybe there are hopes. If there is still love, ther is also forgiveness. I know it is not easy to forgive, I have been there myself but don't do something in a hurry that you may regret later on. THis may be just an affair, without any consequences....or maybe not....but you have to find out before you file for the divorce. THink about that. Good luck.
2006-11-15 07:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by blueyes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, first you must contact an attorney, then make an appointment to see a therapist so you can talk this out to an impartial person. Your husband is breaking the LEGAL contract of marriage he has with you, it would be in your best interest to get representation ASAP.
2006-11-15 06:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by cereal_killer034 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an insensitive bastard! Enjoy your new freedom and do whatever makes you happy, you don't have anyone to check in with now. Put yourself first: spoil yourself at a hair Salon/ and or a Day Spa.. If you can't do an all day thing at least get a pedicure and a massage. Then organize something fun to do with all your close friends something you will enjoy!
2006-11-15 06:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by hotbitch69_xoxo 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is never easy although the advice I can give is tell yourself over and over that you deserve to be treated better and that he is scum. Also, remember that you will get past all the hurt from this.also, he will cheat on his new girl, once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-11-15 06:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. i am going through this and it hurts. i find other interests. go to church and find some support there or other good groups that understand.go bowling and keep your mind busy. you are better than that man who hurt you.he is unworthy of you.time heals the pain and you will grow stronger.if you have good friends that you can talk to do that.
2006-11-15 07:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋