2006-11-14 23:20:38 · 13 answers · asked by MV 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I certainly wouldn't worry too much. You know if you stress too much your baby can sense it and then he/she gets cranky. Just explain to your husband that your moods have nothing to do with him it is just your hormones playing tricks on you. I am sure he will understand, after all it's his baby too. Congratulations and good luck with your new bub .x
2006-11-14 23:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations,You have already achieved level one of pregnancy self awareness.
Recognition of your moodiness is a big step toward understanding. Step two is to arrange a code phrase for your husband to use when your, er, discussions, begin to spiral downward. Something like " lets table this until later". Walk away and revisit later when you are both in a better mood. This will do wonders for both of you. The most damaging aspect of pregnancy is not understanding that your hormones and body are in an uproar. They will be like that for months.Not seeing that your condition is causing you to be less than pleasent is an issue in itself. There is no way for husband to deal with that. If you can avoid the conflicts which come with that special irritability you are 3/4s of the way to full enlightenment.
2006-11-15 08:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about how you are feeling. Let him know it's scary and that it's bothering you. When you feel one of your "moods" coming on, warn him. If you've said or done something that you regret, apologize. Think before you talk or act. If you're angry or upset with him, think about it first and decide if the feelings are valid. If they're valid, talk to him about it. If they're not valid, let it go.
This will probably get some controversial feedback, but understand that your HUSBAND is also going through a rough time as well. When you're feeling up to it, let him know how very much you love him and appreciate him. It doesn't take much to make his day and make him feel special as well.
As I get older, I get more and more moody around my time of month. I always let my husband know that it's coming. That's all I need to say. He knows that I get edgy and really can't control that, so he's much more understanding during that time.
If your husband is a caring, sensitive man, he will appreciate you talking with him about your feelings. My husband and I are close because we do talk about the things that "set us off," and apologize if we over-reacted and ACCEPT one another's genuine apologies, let it go, and move on.
2006-11-15 08:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by mom of five 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling (and I'm not pregnant). Always try to remember that just because you are going through certain things, it doesn't give you the right to take things out on others (sorry, I know this is not what you want to hear). Let him know how you are feeling, of course. But also take accountability for your own actions. Even though you may not be able to control your feelings, you do still have control over your actions. And if he loves you he will get over it when you slip up. All the best.
2006-11-15 07:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by tcom1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to have at least some affect but thats okay,its short lived and he'll get over it. Besides,just because your the one carrying the baby and dealing with the hormonal issues,why should he be in the clear. You are both pregnant,let him share in on that experience. Your doing a heck of alot of work and then youll do alot when your in labor and alot during those midnight feedings(if you nurse). Dont feel bad.
2006-11-15 07:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put in a disclaimer every day...that's what I did. It's not apologizing but it's making others aware that your emotions and hormones are not your own and you should only be held accountable for what you do 3 to 6 months after baby (I'm stil putting in a disclaimer and my son is 41/2 months)
2006-11-15 07:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by BB'sMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very common when you are pregnant, instead of you taking steps your husband should try to understand this fact.
I think your husband should be asking this question not you.
If you go to any doctor, he will ask your husband to deal with this situation not you.
I am sorry to say this but your relations seems strange to me, if you are afraid of affecting your relations. What sort of relations you have.
2006-11-15 07:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, each day or everytime your with your hubby just give him a "mood update". You have to have very open communication throughout this time. He is going to have to be very understanding knowing that your hormone fluctuations are going to be a bit extreme now.
2006-11-15 08:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by poulin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be quiet as much as you possibly can because in your insane hormonal state you may say things out of emotion and not necessarily mean it. God bless with the baby.
2006-11-15 07:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do you and he will deal with it without whinning since he helped you get that way.
2006-11-15 07:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋