i want to help my husband stop smoking, need more information on how to make him stop?

Question

i have tried supporting him in best way i can and tried everything i possibly can,but no luck yet.

Answer 1

You can't "make" him stop he will only stop when he wants to.

Answer 2

- he has to want to stop, more than you want him to stop
- once he committs to stopping, get him to go see a GP.
- a nurse will be assigned to him - he will get Niquittin in the shape of patches, or gum, or even better those little tubes that look like tampax, with nicotine bullets, to suck on whilst his need to have something in his mouth lasts - hand to mouth movement. The first 3 days are the hardest
- every week/ 2 week intervals later once he is established, he will have an appointment with the nurse to check the level of carbon monoxide in his body. By doing this on a regular basis, he will be able to see what a great progress he is making, and in time he'll be so proud of himself, he'll wander why he ever smoked in the first place and why he hasn't given up earlier. Not to mention the money he'll be saving.
- do the calc - £5 per pack per day = £150 per month = £1800 per year if my math is right.
- now thats a damn good holiday for you both, not to mention health implications and the fact that you won't be kissing an ashtray anymore.
- good luck!

Answer 3

He has to want to himself, but you might be able to get him into that frame of mind. Guilt is a good one - if you have children, then his smoking could influence them to start - does he want that on his conscience? Smoking is like a slow suicide - tell him you worry about his health and about being left alone in the world. Get him to write down his reasons for quitting so that he can refer back to this when it gets tough. Most people do want to be ex-smokers but they know that they're going to suffer for a few weeks before they get there and it's very difficult to volunteer yourself for suffering. Buy some nicotine gum mint 4mg and ask if he'll try for three weeks or so. Giving up smoking works in threes - the first three hours are the worst; if you get to three days you're doing great; if you do three weeks then your homeward bound. If he does attempt to give up, don't check him constantly - just ask him supportively once a day or so how he's finding it. If he does have one, don't panic. Tell him it's just a blip and encourage him to continue with giving up as all is not lost. Keep him busy as well. A suprisingly good time to give up is when something changes in your life e.g. when you move to a new house. You haven't yet built up the associations with that environment so it can be a whole new start.

Answer 4

I quit smoking last week, doesn't sound like much but it is for me. I gave up because I wanted to, I found the more people went on at me to quit the less I wanted to so the best way you can help your husband is by leaving him to it.

The thing that triggered me was my dad told me my grandad, his dad, died of lung cancer aged 68 (a long time ago even before I was born), I never knew this & I take after my dad so my chances are slightly increased & I want to see my children grow up so I quit.

Your husband will quit when he's ready, get a Quitters leaflet from your GP surgery & keep it in the drawer, when he decides he's ready you'll have it there. I'm using the patches, a lot of people don't agree with NRT's but they are proven to double the chances of quitting & stay quit, Quitters really helps as they praise you up for quitting just for a day & they don't judge you like a lot of non-smokers do.

Answer 5

He won't quit until HE is ready. Anyone who smokes (at least in America) should know all about how bad smokinng is for you, as we are inundated by the knowledge.

Oh, but I did hear this about a good way to stop...not sure if it works, the person who did it swore it does:

Boil an avocado pit in water, until the water turns red. Before smoking, take a drink of the red water. then smoke. Apparently it will make you so sick you won't want to ever smoke again.

Answer 6

Just dont ever nag him, if he feels like a smoke let him have one without nagging. I am quite upset with my hubby, Monday i ran out of smokes, he works nights so he did not know, i lasted all evening through and thought well it is not so hard after all, by the time he woke up the next day at 11 i was very edgy, did not fight with him or argued just edgy, he straigh away went to the shop and bought me some smokes. I was very upset because if he cannot handle me getting edgy and just keeps on buying me cigs how am i ever going to stop. When the cigs are there i smoke them and it is very expensive. Next time he does that i am going to stick the cigs where the sun dont shine on him.

Answer 7

there is no way to make anybody stop smoking but the best thing you can do is support him throughout and with it being christmas i suggest buying him Allen Carr's book 'Easy way to stop smoking' it will not make him stop but it will change his mind set on the whole concept of smoking. Keep supporting him and he will be more likely to do it. Good luck

Answer 8

I gave up smoking 2.5 years ago 'cold turkey' and used the website www.quitnet.com
If you join there and read some of the journals and go to the chatroom there will be a lot of support.

Answer 9

If he wants to stop, great. But if he doesn't leave the poor guy alone. Accept him as he is. Everyone will die eventually and smoking is only one of many things that's "bad" for you. He's a grown man and it's his life. What gives you the right to try to control him?

Answer 10

You can't make him stop - he has to do it himself. There is a good book that worked for my sister called something like The Easy Way to Stop Smoking by Alan Carr.

Answer 11

Just being there to encourage, support, and listen to him. It is hard to do. I quit 2 years ago. He has to decide in his mind to quit. You can't do it for him. I had a heart attack which helped me decide. Hopefully he won't wait for something like that. Get rid of all ash trays, lighters etc. Good luck!