if you have been split up for 10months with no contact but when you meet to talk about the divorse and end up sleeping together and he tells you he wishes he never left you
2006-11-10 05:32:09 · 20 answers · asked by laurenj677 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry kid but take it from a guy that this is a bad situation.
if he loves you then he should love all about you , just not the rumpy pumpy.
he is just using you cos he knows how to push your buttons.
look at the big picture.... why did you split up ? have these issues been resolved.
been divorced myself and hey yeah its scary out there starting again, sometimes its easier to go back to the old and familiar but if its broken a quick fumble every 10 months wont sort it.
if he wanted you he would have done something about it by now, more than likely he has been seeing someone else in this time and has just been dumped.
have some self respect for gods sake woman.
go out and start again, beleive it or not there are some good guys still out there ??
2006-11-10 07:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by charlie_gilmour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that if he still loves and wishes for you, to go back together and not divorce, why has there been no contact for the last 10 months..........i would give it some serious thought, the reason you broke up in the first place etc........you don't wont to bet your heart broken again, go with the flow and see what happens and see how you feel etc...........take each day as it comes and don't rush into anything, good luck and god bless.
2006-11-10 06:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a typical mistake. He most likely didn't miss you, he just missed the sex. The two of you are familiar with each other and so it's easy to see each other and have sex. A loving, lasting relationship is so much more than sex. Don't give it up free again. If you're serious about fixing the problems in your relationship then sit down and have a come to Jesus talk with your partner. Don't confuse sex with love.....Talke to him openly and honestly about the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship and decide together if it's worth moving forward and if you have the desire.
If you do, then start from the beginning as though you first met.....and don't have sex with him....build a relationship on trust, communication and love.
2006-11-10 05:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sex was good and that's about it. Really think about the reasons why you separated and plan to divorce - don't let the warm covers confuse or deceive you - there was a reason for 10 months of no contact. My thought is that both of you are still desperate for companionship - even if from the wrong person.
2006-11-10 05:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awe thats sweet. you should definitily give one more go but communicate the problems that you had before without holding back and try to compromise you dont have to understand each other but just listen to whats going on and try to make one another happy. Its cute!
Divorce is not the answer. If you were to just work out the problems that you had before then you would be better off. All relationships are hard just comminucate with each other people get their feelings hurt because they dont understand what one another is saying. Hang in there you'll get there just dont jump back in without working through things otherwise you'll be stuck in this circle.
2006-11-10 05:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by hmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are confused and no longer know where you stand, maybe have time away from him and think about how YOU feel and whether you really want things back to how they were or whether you want to move on and start again, I think honesty is the best bet, really hope it turns out ok for you.
2006-11-10 05:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by supastar_666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casual sex and your letting yourself get used!!! Yes he will miss you, you were married but that won't stop him from living his single life as soon as you/he leaves. He probably does wish he didn't leave you but if the divorce is going ahead it doesn't look like he's interested in doing anything about it!!! Sorry but you shouldn't do it again
2006-11-10 07:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anna L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called a booty call honey. Let your attorney handle all the "meetings" in court where this mess belongs. Go out and find yourself a boyfriend and forget about your ex. It's just what he should be...an ex.
2006-11-10 05:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by US Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the same way that he does, then why not? If it doesn't work out again you are no worse off than you were before, and if it does...well, then you won't have to get divorced and you will hopefully be happy.
If you don't feel the same way, chalk it up to one last fling.
2006-11-10 05:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by hollym101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember why you filed for divorce in the first place. Unless that suddenly disappeared, I dont see why you would want to try and work it out.
2006-11-10 05:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋