Our first four years of marriage were good. My husband then became a partner at an accounting firm. He then began to work long hours and on weekends. We stopped going out. I began to go out with female friends rather than mope around the house. I began to drink a lot at night after everyone was in bed. My husband moved out about 7 months ago, saying that it was because of my drinking.
Two weeks after he left, I took responsibility for my issue, started counseling and AA, I have not had a drink since other than near beer. Meanwhile, he became involved with a woman we both know and some other woman that he met somewhere. They split up about a month ago. He wants us to try to get back together. He says that he still loves me and the kids and wants to try to be a family again, including counseling. Your thoughts?
2006-11-10 05:34:26 · 10 answers · asked by terry g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that both of you are at fault for your split. It does sound like it is worth working out. With children involved if a relationship can be salvaged then it is always worthwhile.
2006-11-10 05:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for seeking help for your alcohol problem. The only thing I question is that you prefaced it by blaming it on your husband and his job.
If you and your husband are serious about trying again, then do so, but do so over the course of a year. He should court you and prove to you that he has changed his character. During the course of the year, you can prove to him that you have changed your character as well, because you will be sober. What's the deal with near beer? It's all or nothing, don't lie to yourself and say you can drink near beer.....you know it's simply an open door to real thing. All or nothing.
2006-11-10 05:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely try! Do it for the kids at a minimum. Get marriage counseling preferably faith based.
You have found your errors and made big changes! I am proud of you! Don't stop there, go for the gold.
2006-11-10 05:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and want to make it work then go for it. It is not what everyone else wants or thinks it is what you want. If you don't love him him then don't even try. If you do then who knows they do say that it can be better. Go Luck and think hard before making any decision and do what your heart tells you.
2006-11-10 05:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both have taken responsibility for what went so wrong. Try dating him again and see if the spark is there
2006-11-10 06:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not go for it if you still love him. I'm sure your kids would love to have their daddy back in the family.
2006-11-10 05:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE QUESTION IS, DO YOU STILL LOVE HIM? YES, YOU BOTH HAVE KIDS TOGETHER AND LOVE EACHOTHER. WHY NOT? AS LONG AS THERE WEREN'T ANY VIOLENCE, LIES, & CHEATING WHEN YOU WERE TOGETHER, BEFORE, YOU'RE SAFE TO TRY GETTING BACK TOGETHER AGAIN. I WISH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY WELL.
2006-11-10 05:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u still love him then go 4 it, but i kno i would find it hard to forgive him
2006-11-10 05:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try tequila
2006-11-10 05:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try it
2006-11-10 05:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by szfr8l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋