2006-11-10 04:30:39 · 17 answers · asked by ms attitude 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They were married and it's part of his past. Are you expected to get rid of every picture of every man that you were ever with?
Don't stress over it...everyone has a past. It doesn't mean that the person is their future.
2006-11-10 04:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Get over it. Do you think that photos are grounds to leave .
Those are part of his history. Why on earth would you want him to forget his history?
How many years was he married? Do you expect him to just throw that stuff away and pretend it does not matter.
You might really worry if he has the picture of his EX on his nightstand.
Photos and letters from people who were around before you were are not your business. Are you so insecure that you are worried about a photo of a woman that he already decided he cannot be with?
2006-11-10 13:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. You're not the only one. I found a picture of my boy-friend's ex in his closet, too. I confronted him with it and til this day he says that he doesn't know how he still has a picture of her because he thought he got rid of all of them and he supposedly threw it out the same day I showed him the picture. I'm still with him because there hasn't been any signs of him cheating on me. I've tried so many ways to see if I catch him in anything and so far, I don't see any proof/signs of him cheating. I haven't heard rumors either. So far, people he and I both know tell me that he only loves me and he doesn't flirt with any other girls, especially his ex. He despises her for what she did to him. She cheated on him and more. That's another story. So my advise to you is to confront him with the picture, see what he has to say about it. Then work your way into finding out if he's telling the truth. Ask him to be honest with you because that's important in a relationship. Ask him how would he feel if you had a picture of your ex. Communicate with him.
2006-11-10 12:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I see no reason why he should have pictures of any EX -- you people are correct - it's the past --- so why keep the pictures. I do not think you are reading too much into it. If the pictures mean so much to him to keep, then the reason why should be answered. He should be living in the present and for the future -- not the past.
2006-11-10 13:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by brainfreeze007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard, I know. Mine has one in his nightstand. At first I was pissed, but after we talked about it, why he still had it, why it bothered me, etc. he explained that he didn't really think anything about it one way or the other and that since it was one of her and the kids (one of whom is his, the others he married her with) that was why he had it. I've learned to get over the small stuff and when I am being honest, I still have pics of my exs too, he just doesn't know it! :)
2006-11-10 15:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him why he has them it is the best approch because that is the only way to get a truthful answer. my husband had picture of his ex-girlfriend and i asked him about them and the reason he still had some of them was for his son. he wanted his son to have pictures of his mom and dad together. if it is a problem for you and the two of you have a strong relationship and he doesn't have them for the same reason my husband did than i think if he loves you and respects your relationship he will get rid of them.
2006-11-10 12:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by kayleibunny99 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey. She will always be apart of his life. Do not let yourself get all worked up. A picture is just a picture. What is on his mind is what counts. Its hard to decifer that. Just watch his actions.
2006-11-10 12:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by cb32 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
and your issue with this is?
something YOU have to remember is this, she was a significant part of his life at one point...you don't just forget or get rid of everything she represented just because it didn't work out.
Relax, it is in the closet!
2006-11-10 12:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As long as they're not hanging on the wall by your bed, it's all good! Not to make light of the matter, but really, who doesn't have old pics of their ex?
2006-11-10 12:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel here about this BUT be thankful that he don't carry her picture instead of your picture in his BILLFOLD like my EX did. That is right, my ex bf would carry his ex's picture in his billfold and not mine...yes he is my ex now...good luck
PS he should NOT be hiding them from you at all, makes you wonder what else he might be hiding from you!!!
2006-11-10 12:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋