my wife's best friend and i both admitted to eachother that we are attracted to eachother and now i cant get her out of my mind.Plus I really dont think im in love with my wife anymore.I am totally torn and dont know what to do.
2006-11-10 04:51:30 · 15 answers · asked by john J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
true it could be lust but whatever it is im totally not sure what to do.I really have the hots for her and she does for me sometimes things happen in life that is hard to figure out and we never felt this way before i cant make a decision and yes i have alot to lose trust me.but maybe its just the little head thinking right now.I hope this passes i cant let it consume the way it is.
2006-11-10 05:40:15 · update #1
Please, you are in lust with her I am doubting that love has anything to do with it. You and your wife need to try and rekindle your marriage.
2006-11-10 04:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you need to seriously think about what you are about to do. This is physical attraction. If you think the grass is greener on the other side, then you are seriously mistaken. The best friend might be good for sex, but what about the other things that are important. How would she be in those situations? Stop thinking with your private part for a minute and really analize what you are getting ready to do. You stood before GOD and committed to being with your wife and forsaking ALL others, for richer or poorer, sickness and health, til death do you part. GOD is always watching everything we do. Is this best friend really worth burning eternally in hell for? You don't even know this best friend well enough to say you love or don't love her. Buy a porno and take your wife out and learn each other again. Sex is only going to get you in trouble with the best friend. Good luck
2006-11-10 13:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to re-kindle your relationship with your wife and bring back the sex/sexy into your marriage. If you give it a good try and realize it is not going to work out, then be a man and ask for a divorce so both you and she can move forward with your lives(she deserves that much from you!!)
As far as her best friend.....it's LUST not LOVE, and if you detatch yourself from your marriage you'll see the friend doesn't want to be with you all the time. I'm also sure the sneaking around you both have to do right now adds and heightens a lot of the excitement to the relationship, which will disappear if you were to leave your wife and enter into a relationship with her.
2006-11-10 13:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you and wife are bored in the marriage. You are probably "in lust" with your wife's best friend. Think for a minute and put yourself in your wife's shoes. How would you feel if your best friend is in love with your wife and your wife felt the same about your best friend? Also Think about this for a minute, what do you think of a woman that is attracted to her friend's husband? That should tell you A LOT about her. If it doesn't tell you a lot about her, let me tell you. She's sleezy, trifling and if you all hook up, she will probably run to another man and do the same thing to you. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
Try to figure out what happen to make you fall out of love with your wife. Try to talk to her about those issues in hopes of saving the marriage(if you want it to be saved). In the meantime, you need to tell your wife's "so called friend" not to visit the home anymore.
If you don't want the marriage to be saved then be honest with your wife so that she won't continuously be lead on and that way she can move on with her life with someone that love, be in love with, and respect her and her only as a wife. Good luck
2006-11-10 13:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's your pecker talking, man.
Sack up and tell your wife "I don't think I am in love with you any more."
3 hours later, after *that* discussion starts to die down, add some fireworks by saying, "Oh, by the way I have the hots really bad for your best friend." Free entertainment for the neighbors!
But if you were a grown-up you'd say both things to her. Otherwise you are a sneaky little b*stard immature teenager with hormonal control issues and a lying streak a mile wide.
2006-11-10 14:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife's best friend is not even her friend let alone her best friend. You both are lusting rather than what you perceive to be love.
You know the old saying "you don't know what you had until its gone". You may find yourself without either of them if you continue this destructive behavior.
You should be honest with your wife, if she stays with you count your blessings and she will most likely dump the "not so good friend" which is a Great thing that will allow the two of you to move forward in a positive way.
The best of luck with your choices as they will guide your future and shape your happiness.
2006-11-10 13:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by smilealot 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry John, lol you can have yor wifes best freind cause 5 ta 1 says your wife is gettin tagged by your best freind, and if not then ill be a nice guy and drill her for ya,,,,,,,,,,,
2006-11-10 13:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you talked to the bf? Would she be willing to loose her bf? for you? think long and hard. Why did you marry the woman? Don't do anything out of lust.
2006-11-10 12:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a cold shower, whack off and snap out of it! You keep this crap up and you're going to find yourself in a world of sh-t! Don't do it!
2006-11-10 12:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your wife you dont love her. it's best to be honest. dont try to hide things from her it will only be worse in the end if you do.
2006-11-10 12:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by yensenm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋