Family - December 2007

2007-12-14 09:03:32 · 7 answers · asked by southern girl 2

Since it is Christmas I am getting the urge to invite my inlaws over for dinner. The problem is....they always say insulting things and feel very comfortable putting down my husband, son and myself.
I have tried to discuss this with my mother in law. Each time I think we make some head way, it comes around to bite me in the keester, and things get even worse.
Right now we have a quick afternoon planned with them to exchange gifts. Usually an hour is about the max time we can spend together without someone's feelings getting hurt.
Should I let that be good enough, or should I give in and invite them for dinner.
I am struggling with this issue. Part of me thinks we should be the bigger people and have them over.
The other part thinks they aren't very nice folks and this is the relationship they get.
Any words of advice?

2007-12-14 08:57:22 · 10 answers · asked by acea 5

I'm 16 years old my mom will only let me go to a movie, I would like to go out to dinner once in a while with my guy! She also won't let my 13 year old sister really do anything either! I hate to see my sister cry because mom won't let her grow up, it's nothing against mom, it's just she let out brothers (24&22) do a lot more than us! How can I work out my situation and my sister's too?

2007-12-14 08:33:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a restraining order against my daughters father and now he wants custody just to mess with me, his mother is really the one that watches the baby he is not responsible besides that he uses drugs, also he is not even supporting my daughter.

2007-12-14 08:32:05 · 16 answers · asked by peligrosa29 2

2007-12-14 07:25:11 · 12 answers · asked by April 5

my sister in law has two kids 12 and almost 14. they are good kids and she loves them to death. the problem is that she is in her second marrige (my brother) and they just dont want to listen. when they are with their dad he just lets them do what eve they want to do. my family and their mom bust our taills to tell them whats right and to listen, but all they seem to do is talk back and act like they dont care because they know that we would not do any thing to them that they know will make them sad or angry. the girl acts like a baby(12 year old ) and the boy is starting to act like a little thug and a punk. he gets along with me sometimes because although im almost 30, i still live young sometimes. the sister in law is going to break any dsy now because the kids are just treating her like crap. what can she and we do to make them appreciate what they have in life and to change their attitudes. iknow its to late for spankings, so whats next?

2007-12-14 06:13:19 · 11 answers · asked by vaughn favrua 6

I feel completely horrible b/c i am hosting christmas dinner for my immediate fmaily this year. Alll of a sudden I am getting calls from my extended family asking me for directions to my house for XMAS. At this point I want to cancel dinner. I really feel like I have been alone all year (no kids, No husband) and my family has not been supportive in any issues that I have had to deal with. My mom has spoken to me since Thanksgiving weekend because I did not take her side in an arguement. So at this point I do not feel like wasting my hard earned money buying gifts for a bunch of ungreatful people. I really would prefer to find a spa and get away for the holidays. I think that I have spent this year alone and i should just finish it off alone. Any thought,s comments????

2007-12-14 05:44:22 · 8 answers · asked by nyjae 5

I asked my mom this when I was 13 and she said, "If I couldnt save you all, all of you would perish." I could never accept this answer and I still dont. Interested to hear others opinions..

I rather save one child then have no children, but again I am not a parent...so..

2007-12-14 05:37:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-14 05:19:28 · 10 answers · asked by may 1

My mom would have never made me do a girly chore. I took out the trash, mowed the lawn and things such as that. It burns me up to see these women nowadays emasculating our male youth. When I was married, I would never allow my step-son to do dishes, laundry or anything girly like that. I told him as far as cooking and dishes go, those are jobs for girls, maids, and dishwashers. My step-son did chores like trash detail, lawn mowing and polishing cars. My step daughter did dishes, laundry and helped her mom cook.

2007-12-14 05:05:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

This christmas is gonna be crap. My family doesnt talk to each other and this christmas for my christmas dinner, there will be three of us, me, my dad, and my mum i have an older brother but hes going to go out with his mates
What do i do???
How do i get through it???????

2007-12-14 04:20:17 · 11 answers · asked by BB 2

2007-12-14 03:47:44 · 11 answers · asked by Snowflake 2

2007-12-14 03:28:38 · 35 answers · asked by Ivory33 6

would you allow your daughter to go on a trip to montreal,quebec on a bus with two other friends for 3 days staying at a hotel? what if u live within 4hours of quebec? what if she is 18 and still lives in ur house?

2007-12-14 03:26:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a 21 year old woman, and I have a demanding mother. I have not been living with her since July, and I'm getting married in August of next year. While she adores the man I chose to marry, she doesn't like that I have a different way of doing things than her, in all areas of life. To her, even if it works, if she doesn't do it that way, its wrong. She's verbally very critical of me. She's been wanting me to grow up for the last 4 years (I was mentally unstable at the time). Now that I have matured, she wants to rule over me like I'm a child. She's been this way most of my life, it got worse after my father died. Even though I have moved out on my own, I'm still abiding by the morals I was taught as a child. And it goes unnoticed. The littlest things seem to make her not recognize that. I really wish I could have a good bond with her. And I've asked her what I can do, and she always gets offended, like she wants to deny there's a problem, even though I blame myself. Any advice?

2007-12-14 03:20:34 · 2 answers · asked by pocketful_of_sunshine 4

It just seems like todays world is so expensive. where we live, the cheapest apartment we can find is 1,000 a month. Thats fine but we have a baby on the way, due in march. Together we only bring home about 4,000 a month after taxes. I know there must be some couples that can do it, but im really nervous.

We cant afford to live off only my income, but if she works, we will need daycare, and lord knows daycare is like 250 bucks a week, minimum... we dont have any family around here to help us...

has anyone been able to survive off less? i dont wanna get any government help, because im the kind of person who believes in personal responsibility... we wanted this baby and i want to raise a family, i dont feel other peoples taxes should have to pay for my inabilities... i just get nervous

2007-12-14 03:08:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Its my sisters 18th bday and she wants me to go to club wiv her tonight but i have work in the morning at 7.30am proberly wont get in till 4am rather intoxicated too i also have my period too what do u think i should do i wanna go but i dont wanna be a wreck at work.

2007-12-14 02:55:10 · 12 answers · asked by stressed 2

I have never met my biological father,I guess when he found out my mother was pregnant he decided to not want anythig to do with me,he was married to soemone else..ooops! I knew my siblings names and did a search and found a younger brother who is only 20.I asked casual questions and he confirmed who his dad is.Should I tell him Im his sister?What if my father has kept me a secret for 35 yrs? And if I tell him,i'd cause a family fight at Christmas? Or should I jsut bite the bullet and come out and tell him,even if it does cause a fight in their family? I really want to tell him,but what are the consequences? What do I do?

2007-12-14 02:37:53 · 17 answers · asked by greeneyed_blonde72 2

Ok, I will give you the reader's digest edition of my story. I will be 30 years old next month. I moved back home with my mother 2 years ago when my father passed away to help emotionally as well as financially. I gave up my apartment and placed all of my things in her basement(which flooded so I pretty much lost everything. My brother went off to the military shortly after my father died so I knew she really needed me.

I just recently had a baby (he is 13 weeks old) and my mother has volunteered to watch him on her days off (mon & tue) and pick him up from the sitter on wed & thurs (he is with his dad on fri and me on the weekend(I do not leave my son to go anywhere but work by the way)! Anyway, lately she has been throwing in my face the things she does for me and my son. I have never asked her for anything by the way, she just loves to spend money even though my son doesn't want or need for anything. We have been fighting on a regular basis over the smallest of things.

2007-12-14 02:20:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband was helping her come up the stairs and she acted like she was going to fall but when her other son came to pick her up she used her walker and walked all the way to the car in a hurry. why would she act one way with one and another way with mine

2007-12-14 02:13:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 28 years old. My 79 year old Grandmother who raised me has two sisters who have both said nasty things about me. One repeatedly told her and me that I was being dishonest about my work activities, etc (even after I provided proof that I wasn't). the other sent me a nasty email and the ip address was traced back to her. My grandmother continues to converse with them without addressing the issue and says it is not her place to have asked them to stop gossiping about me. In short, she claims they can say anything they'd like about me, but it's not appropriate for her to politely ask them to stop. I'm not asking her to cut communicaiton with them, simply asking her to defend me, but she claims that christian people don't do that. Am I out of line?

2007-12-14 01:56:15 · 4 answers · asked by Miagirl33 1

In example we have adopted 3 boys whos parents gave them up over 10 years ago, one of the children was 3 months old the others were 4 and 5. Thru myspace the birth mother found them and contacted them behind our backs. Thier myspace was deleted but they go to yahoo, aim , inbox etc and just keep making new myspace accounts. We have parental controls set at home but they go to friends homes or library and just make new ones. Thier Birth mother was a horrible person who had every chance in the world to keep her kids, she only wanted 2 of them , she didn't want the brown child , just the 2 blondes. I know they are just curious, but they went too far and gave out thier real names, our address, and thier birth mother posted pictures of our adopted children on her myspace. The children knew they were adopted. Do you think to have a myspace page a parent should have to actually sign something saying it;s ok to have a page or should children be able to continue endangering themselves?

2007-12-14 01:51:01 · 12 answers · asked by nonya b 3

I can't sleep, i have a final tomorrow. My neighbors next door woke me up with their loud drunk sex (what are neighbors for???)
But I realized I want to get pregnant and start a family of my own, a nice big open minded, happy family. *Sigh* anyone thinking about the future tonight?

2007-12-13 22:57:30 · 12 answers · asked by Old Soul 5

my dad is always smoking
i try to get him to stop
cos i don't want him to die
and he always does it around my mum
i'm scared they both myt die and i be left on ma own :( x wat i do x

2007-12-13 22:43:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

who do you think would be the most successful of the 3?

2007-12-13 20:39:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother divorced my dad 10 years ago.I am a teenager now and i had contact with my mother for all the years they were divorced,up until now.My mum moved to a different country got married and started a new family.It just came out of nowhere and i don't know what i did to make her abandon me.I've been getting really good grades at school and i've been receiving so many awards for my achievements but,its only started to hit me now that i have nobody to be proud of me.My dad is working all the time but he still doesn't have enough money to support me and my brother.I don't ask my dad for money and he still finds it very hard to save.I blame my mother now because she divorced my dad and took his house and car and all that he owned.So my dad has no time at all for me.And i used to be so happy,but now i'm always gloomy and people tend to see that side of me and don't like to talk to me much.

The school phoned my dad today because i started misbehaving in class and he didn't care....

2007-12-13 19:17:22 · 9 answers · asked by iLikecheese 2

My husband is always angry with me because when he buys me things for Christmas or birthday, I never like it. If I dont tell him what to buy me, he always gets me something horrible. He has awful taste. When I do tell him what I want he always buys the wrong thing because he doesnt pay attention or wont actually think about it. This has been this way for years, the last 3 years I started making detailed lists like with the extact name of product, the store, the exact size (volume or measurement) and then the price. When I can I even include pictures, but still he always manages to buy the wrong thing somehow and then gets mad at me when I dont want it. He said he is never buying me anything ever again, he will just give me money for Christmas, birthday, anniversary etc from now on. But I wouldnt use it, I never buy things for myself except for basic nessisary items. So do I have a right to be mad about this? Should I just give up and just start saying "I dont want anything?"

2007-12-13 18:07:55 · 15 answers · asked by luv2bablondie00 1

IDK like 2 weeks ago me and mom had started to fight when ever she came home. She'd be mad when i dont pick up my mess or if she gets a phone call from my teacher. She says if i wanna live like some person that will get envoled with drugs, and drinking then i should keep up what im doing. The other day i kinda cursed her off and walked out the door and went to hang with my friends. IDK what to do anymore.. i say sorry but shes like u dont mean it. I cant turn anywhere only to my dad (not my REAL dad but my close step dad) but that'd be worse. What should i do to not come home to my mom screaming at me?


♥Keepin it Melina style♥

2007-12-13 17:23:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter is 17 and every other word is profane. She uses profanity to emphasis the importance of whatever she is saying. The 'F' work and 'C' word are common place. It drives my husband nuts because he feels it is disrespectful. This has been going on for years but in the last few months she has tripled it's use. I am tired of hearing my name (or anyones name) followed by "fu--ing b--ch!" or "C---t"

She has no computer privileges and she has no favors from me (rides, money, cleaning). My next 'tool' is to ban her from eating dinner with us unless the swearing stops completely (I cook dinner every night and we always sit down) Any constructive ideas would be great.

2007-12-13 17:20:57 · 15 answers · asked by t. 4

My mom makes me wear a jacket when it's horribly warm, makes me wear something that looks horribly ridiculous, and every time I try to object, she makes sounds like it's necessary! I really don't know what to do! This problem has lasted for the previous few months. Please help me! Also, tell me how you resolved your problems, if you had one similar to mine.

2007-12-13 17:01:00 · 4 answers · asked by bobroberts 2