My mother divorced my dad 10 years ago.I am a teenager now and i had contact with my mother for all the years they were divorced,up until now.My mum moved to a different country got married and started a new family.It just came out of nowhere and i don't know what i did to make her abandon me.I've been getting really good grades at school and i've been receiving so many awards for my achievements but,its only started to hit me now that i have nobody to be proud of me.My dad is working all the time but he still doesn't have enough money to support me and my brother.I don't ask my dad for money and he still finds it very hard to save.I blame my mother now because she divorced my dad and took his house and car and all that he owned.So my dad has no time at all for me.And i used to be so happy,but now i'm always gloomy and people tend to see that side of me and don't like to talk to me much.
The school phoned my dad today because i started misbehaving in class and he didn't care....
2007-12-13 19:17:22 · 9 answers · asked by iLikecheese 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
nope you are not being neglected.... you are not a child ... I took some time and read some of your answers and other questions.... your not a child... you may be a teenager but you are old enough to understand that your dad has to work and life is not always fair.... you said the school called your dad and he didn't care... why did you act up ? why didn't you behave like you should... sounds to me like you are trying to be the center of attention and not getting your way...
suck it up and do what you know you should ... help around the house get good grades.... in stead of winning...
as far as your mom.... if you had this great relationship with her and you were so close this was not out of the blue...she did not just up and leave you... you are just not happy with her decision... as far as no one to be proud of you .. in the grownup world there is not always someone to be proud of us we have to be proud of our ourselves ... in your other answers your talking about sex and blow jobs....not a child ... get off the fence either be a grownup or a child....
2007-12-13 22:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by chralissia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the loss of a parent is very difficult, just as the loss of a spouse is difficult. unfortunately there is not much you can do about your relationship with your mother at this point. while i don't think people should stay in relationships that they aren't happy with, they should not run away from their responsibilties.
i think that you should definately keep getting good grades and awards, however do it for yourself. in life you can't expect everyone to applaud you for your achievements, you know how exceptional you are so pat yourself on the back.
i think it might also be a good idea to talk to your counselor or maybe a teacher or adult friend about your situation. it helps so much to get the feelings out there and maybe they could offer advice.
since you spoke of financial difficulties, now that you are a teenager it would be a good idea to get a job that could help you contribute. i'm not talking about working every night of the week, but maybe you could mow lawns, babysit, or walk dogs, on the weekends to earn some extra cash. This will make you feel good about yourself too, it's always great making some money of your own. Don't keep misbehaving and acting out because you want your father's attention, this will only make things worse between you.
Definately talk to someone IRL to get the support you need. I'm sure you are all going through a tough time. I am so sorry that this happened but you can get through it. Best wishes.
2007-12-13 19:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by Abby Kasa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is your mother. You did not do anything to make her abandon you. Do not think that. Do not be unhappy because you think it is your fault. It is not. Why does your dad not have time for you? Is he at work or is he out? If he is at work I would give him a break, he is trying to support the three of you. Are you close with your brother? You need to be there for each other. Help each other through this and be each others cheerleaders when you need one. You and your brother do need more attention than you are getting. I would have a talk with your father about all of this. Stop misbehaving in class. You are there to get an education, make the most of it. I hope things get better for you.
2007-12-13 20:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is such a tough condition that u r facing now. I feel pity 4 u. I agree with Beejay. U have to make ur dad feel happy about ur acheivements and ur good marks. Ask him about his daily routine. Ask how was his day. Just think tht u have atleast a father and can depend on him but ur father, he have no one to tell his sorrows and his sadness. So make him feel that he has atleast one person to tell his sorrows that is YOU. Dont tell that ur father is not caring u at all. If ur father doesnt care u then ur father might have married another person and left u alone. U should not b a gloomy person tht ur condition is like this. Just think of others who have no father and mother and still they live in such a big society. Be the way when u were b4. Do not misbehave in class. Dont make ur father more upset. B a gud girl. I wish u all the best for ur future and live happily. I hope this note helps u and give u refreshment.
2007-12-13 20:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rock'n'Roll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop acting like a spoiled brat; yes your mom took off and re-married; there's nothing you can do about that; but are you being neglected in whose book yours? Little Girl you are being neglected when you wake up in find yourself in boot camp then you can say you are being neglected; but the truth is you have a father who you acknowledge is doing all he can do for you and your brother; so why are you misbehaving in school; Be thankful that I am not your step-mom; cause if I was you would seriously be in some body's group home of boot camp; don't nobody want a spoiled kid so give your dad a break; stop whining and do good in school; your brother is depending on you.
2007-12-13 22:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Juanita T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I think you are just experiencing the reality of living in a single parent household in the modern world.
What do you expect your father to do? If he is working all the time, then obviously you all need to cut your expenses drastically and live within your means.
How can you expect your father to "SAVE" if he is struggling to provide house, foom, schooling, etc.
What else are you going to do? You have the option of making the best of the education opportunities given to you now or blowing it all away.
Face it, your mother has gone for whatever reason. it is just something you are going to have to accept and move on in your life. Perhaps one day,you might come to understand why, but acting out isn't going to change it and will only make it worse.
Have you sat down and calmly talked to your dad. Perhaps make him aware that you don't need as much junk as you have and can live simpler.
2007-12-13 19:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Terryc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be worried about your dad not so much about your mom right now...for your dad to not care about your behavior at school would be a wake up call to be more respectful to him ........... help him around the house ..and use your manners ..ask him how his day has been........... your dad could be experiencing depression as it would be stressful working and trying to make ends meet so you and your brother have a roof over your heads............ even if you know your dad has had a bad day at work why dont you make him a cuppa when he gets home ?do something anything so HE feels that the work and effort he does is appreciated and then you will be happier too.
2007-12-13 19:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to note your plight in life at this young age. But do not lose your heart dear. Study well and you can be on your foot and show the world that honesty, courage and wisdom pays for oneself. Please go to a good counselling centre who can guide you the correct way to solve the current issues. Please be on the side of your dad and he will also sincerely try to help you. Your mothers interest in life are different and obviously it was a mis match.
2007-12-13 20:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by villager 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m really sorry for wat happened to u...but den dats wat is life....take it in a positive spirit.To mould iron in good shape first it is heated n den beaten hard so that it gets da perfect shape.....u r facing hardships today cuz god wants u to b a better person tomorrow......ur dad is working so that he can save some money and give u a brighter future and someday definitely he will be proud of you.Don't feel gloomy.Keep on going da way u've been going and the world will appreciate you.Just wait n watch ur life changing.......
all da best buddy.........;)
2007-12-13 19:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋