Family - December 2007

well, i just got my school report back, (1st year of highschool) and it turned out really good. i got good comments and good marks. my dad is extremely pleased, hes rewarding me $250. and i showed my mum and she was pleased as well. she looked a bit down when she told me that she never got good reports. now she dosn't look so pleased and looks a bit annoyed(i can just tell when she is annoyed, it's in her eyes and tone) with dad being so proud, coz he can't shut up about me and stuff. i wouldn't call this jelousy i dunno it's just she is down about me getting really good reports because it makes her remember how her ones were. how can i cheer her up?

2007-12-13 13:21:16 · 3 answers · asked by Your A DWARF ON STILTS!!! 4

I'm only 16 and I feel like I have no power over what happens to my Grandma. She's very old, and there's no question that her eldest daughter (my aunt) is brainwashing her to get her will changed. My mom had 10 brothers and sisters. She was the youngest. She was so far apart in age that she was too young to understand what her sister was doing...at first. What my aunt would do (still does) was she would become good friends with elderly people. She would take care and befriend older people. She'd take them to get alcohol when nobody else would, she'd take them shopping, drive them places and pretty much replace their children in their life with herself. That was fine...but, she started to convince them to change their wills so she could obtain their money. They would leave their money to her when they died, and leave their children nothing. My mom's older siblings were, as bad as this sounds, paid off not to speak of it. They got a portion of the money to keep quiet....continued!

2007-12-13 12:57:24 · 1 answers · asked by Laney 2

2007-12-13 12:53:55 · 4 answers · asked by x_Three Days Grace_x 4

I'm 25 and I have huge student loan. I moved home after university, and found a job I really enjoy (I can see myself doing this for the rest of my life). However the job is only part-time, I can not get full time status until the company I work for "gets to know me". So my plan was to live at home, help pay the bills, and put as much money on my loan as possible. But my Mother recognizes no privacy. She still treats me like a child. She goes through my bank transaction slips, goes through my room, looks at anything that I keep private, asks nosy questions, and tries to influence my career decisions. I ignore her, but she knows people I work with, and she uses them as pawns to get me to make career decisions that she would have made. When I have talked to her, argued with her, or ignored her, we have huge fights, or she plays a guilt trip on me. I have thought about moving out to the city, but then I would lose everything I have worked for, and enjoy. What do I do?

2007-12-13 12:43:46 · 6 answers · asked by the_scarlet_cardinal 1

I can handle my anger really well. But sometimes i just go crazy like i hit stuff and i feel like i wanna pull my hair out and mess up everything i see. But i try not to. Plus im only 13. I get fed up with my mom all the time. She really pisses me off. She yells at me when i dont even do anything. Like shes gonna be nice to me then in like 2 minutes she yells at me. But is it bad to control your anger? Because what if i control for so long one day i might go crazy. Is that possible?

2007-12-13 12:37:06 · 5 answers · asked by Kristy H 2

There is this party I want to go to this weekend. It is just like a regular party, except the guy I like might be there. I really don't even know if he is coming. Also one of my best friends that I haven't really been able to hang out with that much is supposed to be there. It is just a normal 14th birthday day for one of my friends. No alcholol. No drugs. No anyhing like that, just like all the other parties I have been to. Also, I haven't been to a party in over a month!! He told me he wasnt letting me go because he doesn't have a good feeling about it?!?!? I don't get, he just randomly decideds not to let me go to parties anymore?? It make NO sense. Help?? What do I say to him?

BTW- I am 13.

2007-12-13 12:33:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 20 years old. I am the youngest out of 3. My parents act like i'm 12 years old and still give me curfews which is ridiculous even though they deny it. They complain that i go out too much and when i get home at around 11 or 12 they complain. I am sick and tired of getting treated like a child..i've told them that they treat me like a child, but they are so hard headed that nothing goes through their head. Its like they want to protect me from the 'bad world' and it seems like they think i havent been exposed to anything...my brother and sister seem to do nothing about it and it seems like they can put up with it..but I always end up arguing with them.

I have no idea what to do at this point. Any suggestions?

2007-12-13 12:29:37 · 4 answers · asked by vinyldeejays 1

2007-12-13 12:26:13 · 7 answers · asked by mebarsky 3

I'm 25 years old. Got married. Have a great husband and amazing daughter. I'm the older daughter and my parents always call me to do "something" with my brother and sisters. Even my mother calls me to deal with my father or my father call me to deal with my mother. How many marriages do I have? I'm getting nuts!! Please good advices.

2007-12-13 12:26:05 · 3 answers · asked by Mar 2

2007-12-13 12:25:12 · 5 answers · asked by mebarsky 3

I am 28.
I found my biological father 2 years ago. We met, things went well, I thought he accepted me, even liked me. I wanted to get to know him, and for him to know me, and for me to have a Dad.

We have had a few outings, spent time with each other, and I've even been to a family reunion. He hugs me and tells me that he's glad that I am in his life. He has called a couple of times, but it seems that the longer time goes on, the less I hear from him. He forgot my B-day (in Sept), and did not call for Thanksgiving. He had the year before.

It's just seeming like I'm doing so much to stitch us back together.

As the holiday season is here, I am feeling Father-less, and really want him around.

My dh says to just let him go. He has had his chance to have me as his daughter now (twice) and he isn't too eager to take it.

Is DH right? Do I have to come to terms with rejection, again? Or should I keep going?

Thanks for your opinion. It hurts, be gentle.

2007-12-13 12:17:03 · 9 answers · asked by glitterybunnies 2

2007-12-13 11:50:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

me & my husband don't get out much...so usually he is on the xbox & i am on the computer...but he stays up late & has time for the xbox then , i just want us to be able to have a conversation....i get off the pc to be with him, but i think he rather stay on his xbox...i am getting angry at the technology!...anyways its making me feel like s* it

2007-12-13 11:36:43 · 4 answers · asked by yahooligan 6

okay i have enough money saved up to buy the phone and everything but my parents won't let me get it because they think someone will STEAL it. i'm 14 and they say it's for older people. they also say they don't want me to have tv/internet on my phone, but you don't even HAVE to get tv OR internet on the phone. is the phone worth it if you dont get tv or internet on it? they also said i could get a sidekick instead but i don't relaly like those... they don't think 'm responsible enough to have that phone but i am i would neva eva lose it. how an i convince them to let me buy it?

2007-12-13 11:23:19 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am publishing a book on poetry. Because I am really good. I didn't want my mom to know. My sister Kim blurted it out and then I was thinking KIM SHUT UP and my mom said sarcastically - ya uhuh But it sounded like ya right that will never happen. My mom is always putting me down like always what I am doing wrong. When what I did wrong wasn't anything at all barely anything. And I stopped fighting with her about 1 year ago. I will just be honest. Let her yell at me and not yell back just talk. I will accept my punishment but I feel she has been doing everything wrong. I was an accident , My mom had me because of beer , she was drunk and she still doesn't think I know. Sometimes I feel I am better off without my parents. I am not going to run away but I wish she wouldn't yell at me because I have so many more important things to worry about. School , my broken heart , Homework , Friends , Family deaths , Divorces , just everything , she doesn't believe in me enough to even care

2007-12-13 11:22:28 · 3 answers · asked by Katie S 2

I am the second oldest of five. I asked a question before on Yahoo! Answers about my being overprotective of my baby sister. So many have said that my siblings and I are on equal ground.

Would you really agree with that? Whenever my younger brothers and sister crack an attitude with me, I scold them with a firm voice telling them they need to treat me with honor and respect because I am their older brother.

My little sister used to treat me like her same-age friend or something. I swiftly reprimanded her for her attitude and reminded her that I am her older brother. She is 11 and I am 20. That will always be the case.

Am I being too domineering?

2007-12-13 11:14:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sometimes i like my sister, but she's constantly stealing my stuff like nintendo ds cellphone,etc. and losing it!!! I REALLY hate that!! I'm so overwhelmed by this person...how do i deal with it?
ugh!! shes SOOOOO irresponsible i'd like to tell her to get a life and move away to russia and freeze to death there.
and my mom also blames me she says that i "let her take it"
WHY WOULD I?!!?
and u no wat the stupidest thing is??
shes 2 years older than me..
anywayz this person is seriously disturbed.

2007-12-13 11:09:39 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-13 11:06:48 · 22 answers · asked by oranda lady 3

My house (im 13) is clutter central!! there is not one clean and simple room. my house isnt really dirty, its just so packed with stuff and unorganized. my mom has a shopping addiction, and i just cant seem to help her get rid of anything. everything she gets, she cant give up. and nothing matches. oh and shes bipolar and has depression, so she gets mad easily.

2007-12-13 10:48:40 · 9 answers · asked by Confetti! 2

Very critical spirit. Enjoys belittling even children. Argues just
to argue. Seems to be intentional with her disrespectful remarks. Like looking for a fight. We are the only family. I don't believe there's a choice in whether to include.

Last Christmas, I spoke exact examples of the misbehavior.
And the 'victim' mentality continues.

Has anyone encountered this? What have you done?

2007-12-13 10:43:31 · 10 answers · asked by sotiredofhis 1

My father went into rehab in june and hes been out since september. he still attends AL meetings... but ever since this past sunday hes been acting strange... the last i saw him was on sunday night and he came home today (thursday)... he hasnt gone to work in the past four days and i think hes doing what he usually does when he starts drinking/smoking alot.... now my family starting to have the same problems again.. what can i do?

2007-12-13 10:38:52 · 4 answers · asked by Emma :) 1

in May 2006 this psycho woman my mother met online came from Troy, NY to our house in Maryland one night while my father was out of the house, and they made us pack up, abandon the house and our stuff, and move to Troy, NY all in 1 night. My brother is 23 and has autism, my sister is 20, and I am 21 and in college in Maryland. But none of us can drive. In August 2006 my mother reluctantly agreed to take me back to MD for college, but her friend came along and yelled at, and nearly killed me the entire way while my mother did nothing but look sad. Once in MD all they did was drop me at my father's mother's house and then my mother immediately drove back to Troy, NY. And in June 2007 my mother's mother, to whom I was very close and who was already in very bad shape from worrying about my mother had done, finally died. So my mother, brother, and sister are in Troy, NY, and none of them even came down here for the funeral,

2007-12-13 10:37:49 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother has found himself in a challenging situation. I don't want to get too involed but I want to support him, and his wife. His mother in-law is a very controlling and insecure person, according to her daughter. I have met her a few times and agree there is something wrong with her. She has gone behind her daughters back and doesn't respect choices they have made. When her daughter attempts to be firm and make her wishes known, her mom turns the situation around and makes her daughter feel guilty and depressed. This is affecting the relationship between my brother and his wife. There are children involved, and they are concerned about what she does around the children. This issue is getting worse and bringing alot of stress to our family. My brother wants to tell off his mother in-law, and tell her to butt out because she isn't listening to what her daughter wants. I don't think this is a good idea. I think this is the daughters responsibility and not the son in-law. Please help.

2007-12-13 10:29:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay my mother in law drives me crazy she has hated me forever i dont think sheever like dme but anyway my main problem is she always ask's about our money how much we have did we pay the house payment my hubby just changes the subject does not talk to her baout it so how do i tell her that we dont want top talk about money with her or anyone else for that matter

2007-12-13 10:26:12 · 8 answers · asked by samantha k 1

My parents have extremely high expectations. Their 1st son is an angel sent from heaven. Amazing grades with AP classes, great athlete, obedient. But here comes me, I have mathmatics disorder, I'm lazier, I'm not as amazing of an athlete but I'm extremely talented in music and art. I can't meet their expectations because I'm just a normal teenager who wants to have fun. So in their eyes I'm rebellious and disobedient. And the reminders are constant. I feel like a terrible person I've been taken to therepists and taken pills. They show they care for me that way, but I'm still depressed. I have always been overshadowed by my older brother and my parents have left me feeling worthless and the feeling of "I'm never going to be good enough." People forget about me. I do great things but they only focus on him. But what makes me feel even worse about this is that I have so much, parents who care to take me to therepists, a home, dinner. But I'm still sad. Now, do I sound ungrateful to you?

2007-12-13 10:17:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'll give you the "Readers Digest" version: My Dad's rich, I'm not. He doesn't really care about me, and I don't really care about him. We still exchange xmas presents just to keep up appearances. Every year all he does is send me $200, and I kill myself trying to come up with something, ANYTHING that isn't the same old crap I get him every year (booze, cigars, last year, if I recall correctly, I got him Omaha steaks). I haven't the care or the energy to try anymore. Anyone have any ideas?

He's retired so he doesn't need a tie or anything like that.
And a picture of me is out of the question because despite how many pictures my sister and I have given him over the years (school, my wedding and such) he hasn't put one up in his house. He only has pictures of himself and wife #3.

I should just send him a check for $200, shouldn't I? That would be funny.

2007-12-13 09:58:19 · 6 answers · asked by Dolyn 6

My ex-stepmom (she was my stepmom for 17 years from the time I was 1 until I was 18 and is like a second mom to me) just lost her new husband (together for just over 5 years) yesterday to a sudden heartattack. She's now a widow at age 41. I don't know what to say to her. I haven't called because I'm scared to. I have no idea what I can say to let her know how sorry I am. Any insight? Thank you.

2007-12-13 09:57:34 · 25 answers · asked by SouthernMomma 1

2007-12-13 09:46:46 · 3 answers · asked by ecbarre 1

Ok my life is in dissere ( not sure if that's the right spelling , or the meaning for that matter )

I am 25- I have no life. - My parents are to blame- But I just wanna survive now - Forget them !
I am sick and tired of my father who is an emotionally abusive a-hol@ , and my mom just goes along with it as if there is nothing wrong.

Now my brother . he's the biggest a-ho#e of all of them ,( Also an emotional blackmailer like my mom and dad ) Recently my dad tried to get mad at me for the simplest thing and then he chased after me with a knife scaring me . So i called the cops on him . They came and arrested him and found out the knife that he was holding.

This happened few months ago on september.The Court gave me an order of protection against him . Today I was talking to my mother after along time because I was in serious need for some money and she helped me in the morning. I took the help only because I felt like using her once for everything I went thru and

2007-12-13 09:32:01 · 6 answers · asked by sum142121 1

My in laws just informed me that they would be coming for the weekend and I have a ton of stuff to do. 2 parties (1 is really important) a ton of shopping and errands as I have been out of town. My husband has the same. Now, we'll waste a day cleaning and all that.
How much is one expected to give up for a last minute visit? Also, any tips on appraoching them about this being not enough notice? It's sort of happened in the past.
Thanks for any advice :)

2007-12-13 09:29:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous