My brother has found himself in a challenging situation. I don't want to get too involed but I want to support him, and his wife. His mother in-law is a very controlling and insecure person, according to her daughter. I have met her a few times and agree there is something wrong with her. She has gone behind her daughters back and doesn't respect choices they have made. When her daughter attempts to be firm and make her wishes known, her mom turns the situation around and makes her daughter feel guilty and depressed. This is affecting the relationship between my brother and his wife. There are children involved, and they are concerned about what she does around the children. This issue is getting worse and bringing alot of stress to our family. My brother wants to tell off his mother in-law, and tell her to butt out because she isn't listening to what her daughter wants. I don't think this is a good idea. I think this is the daughters responsibility and not the son in-law. Please help.
2007-12-13 10:29:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think the two of them need to stand together and tell the mother-in-law to butt out. If she doesn't respect that, then they simply need to stop seeing her and cut off her contact with them and their children until she comes to her senses and listens to what they want.
2007-12-13 10:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by chicklitwritergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE needs to do it in FRONT of his wife and mother in law!
Then tell the wife to choose her marriage and family and GROW up and be his wife and mother of his children, OR go live her mother and be her "little girl' until she dies.
The mother will get mad and boo hoo but eventually either come to terms with the fact that she wont be controlling her daughter's marriage any longer or she will die a bitter lonely old woman in some obscure rest home.
2007-12-13 11:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kind of agree with you it sounds like the daughter is scared of her mum but she really needs to stand up for herself otherwise the mother in law is going to build a wedge between your brother and wife. The daughter will have to be ready for her mum turning things round. Perhaps it may be best if they both stood up to her together and show an united front.
2007-12-13 10:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mother is living with a crazy controlling woman, but she refuses to acknowledge that the woman is crazy and controlling. My biggest fear is that the woman will hurt my mother, brother, and/or sister, as she nearly tried to kill me several times while I was there. But what can I do?
2007-12-13 10:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by The Small Show 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't care. i like the name maria i am blocking u.
2007-12-13 11:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋