I am the second oldest of five. I asked a question before on Yahoo! Answers about my being overprotective of my baby sister. So many have said that my siblings and I are on equal ground.
Would you really agree with that? Whenever my younger brothers and sister crack an attitude with me, I scold them with a firm voice telling them they need to treat me with honor and respect because I am their older brother.
My little sister used to treat me like her same-age friend or something. I swiftly reprimanded her for her attitude and reminded her that I am her older brother. She is 11 and I am 20. That will always be the case.
Am I being too domineering?
2007-12-13 11:14:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To be clear, they do show me respect. It's just some random outbursts from them that anger me.
2007-12-13 11:20:39 · update #1
I am only a year younger than my older brother. I take control of most situations involving all of my siblings however.
2007-12-13 11:40:06 · update #2
You are older and there for set an example for them to follow! So no you are not equal. You're more mature and understand a little more about life and whats going on. You're doing the right thing as long as you don't abuse your siblings. Good luck. :--#)
2007-12-13 11:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You and your siblings SHOULD all be equals. You are being a little domineering-I mean, most kids want their older siblings to be friends, not just a third parent!
You don't need to be reminding your siblings that you are older. Again, they want a friend-not a third parent! When your younger siblings get to go out with you, they want to have fun, not feel like they're just on some "field trip" with their teacher. There's school for that!
They should only have to treat you with as much honor and respect they treat their other siblings-however much that may be. You have to let them hold hands with you and not push them away. It sounds like you are taking advantage of being older which doesn't seem fair to me. Younger siblings normally want their older siblings to be fun and outrageous who let them do things that their parents won't normally let them do. Now, you don't have to go as far as that, but you've already gone too far with the older brother thing. Be your sibling's friends-not their worst nightmares!
2007-12-13 20:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
its one thing to be protective and she should treat you with respect but she doesnt have to honor you because your older. She is your sister and she is going to give you attitude and she should treat you like an older brother and if you havent noticed thats how brothers and sisters act with eachother. you dont have the right to disipline/reprimand her because that is the job of the parents and in all actuality she didnt do anything wrong. Get off your high horse and have some fun with your sister.
2007-12-13 19:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by Ohhemmgee_its_Angie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are children, you are an adult, if you want respect you have to earn it, it does not come to you automatically just because you are twenty and the older brother, when they crack an attitude remember when you were that age and make allowances, they must not be allowed to get away with bad stuff but do not set you self up as a judge and jury just because you are the older brother
2007-12-13 19:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An 11 yr old does NOT understand what a 20 yr old understands. I know this upsets a lot of you younger kids but thats the facts.I have been 11 and I have been 20.
I wish more kids had older brothers like you son.Keep up the good work!
2007-12-13 19:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow! It sounds like you may have been at least 3-or more yrs younger than your oldest sibling; and have identified with your parents--the Authority Figures!! To expect your younger sib to treat you with that kind of exaggerated respect seems to indicate that your parents were/are very authoritarian--and you are, too! That seems really very rigid to me, for you at 9 yrs older than she! I'd say, "Ease up!!" Just enjoy being a mentor/advisor to your younger sib! She looks up to you!!
2007-12-13 19:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by Martell 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you need to realize that even though you are older, your brothers and sisters see you as an equal. i understand your point of view but unless you are the only father figure there , they will probably not give you the respect you are seeking.
2007-12-13 19:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your younger sister and u both lack maturity at this stage. she is too young to under stand. U r becoimg mature day by day. u must under stand that she is not fully mature to under stand all these thing. u should not scold her but ignore her if u have felt bad for her any particular action. u do not know u some actions are not liked by parents, friends, teachers, boss, etc also but they very often ignore because of maturity.
2007-12-13 19:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by anil g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you and your siblings are equal
and no you arent domineering
you are just protective
which is totally normal
as long as you dont put a leash on her LOL
2007-12-13 19:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey im 11 and my brother is like 20+ and I use to bug him ALOT. Until he whipped me and moved out, LOL
JK ;)
YOUR TO DOMINEERING WATEVER DAT IS lol im jk i no wat it is im not stupidd DUHHHHHH
im studying this textbook its about medical stuff CUZ I WANNA BE A DOCTORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR B-) i think its AWESOME
2007-12-13 19:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋