Family - December 2007

If you had a secret that involved you and another family member, and it was a pretty old one, about 20 yrs or so, would you tell it? This secret would probably devastate some members of the family. I was advised to tell this secret to help me overcome some of the pain. I said right away that I would not say anything, but I have heard the only real way to get over something tragic is to talk about it. What is your opinion?

2007-12-13 00:32:12 · 13 answers · asked by swtme810 2

my brother in law has totally different values to me, and my husband wants to spend xmas day with his parents, my brother in law walked out on his 3 kids [by different partners] and doesn't do anything with them ,but on xmas day he will make a show of giving them hundreds of pounds of presents and make out he is the best parent in the world.I have been very ill all year and am still not well and am depressed , i just cant cope with the falseness my kids will have made all our presents as we havent much money, its making me dread xmas, any ideas[ my father in law is terminally ill and may be his last xmas , so we need to be there,]

2007-12-12 23:08:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a loving husband, everything is perfect but I am not enjoying sex with him, and I feel like it is the same with him please help

2007-12-12 22:35:23 · 6 answers · asked by cecilia 2

I have adhd can some one please talk?
ever since i was a little boy

i never felt loved since as far back as i can remember never dont no y but to this day nothing as changed
i had a dad never there always away as he was a wagon driver and when he did come home i was usualy in bed,

even at the age of twelve i had to sit in bed while looking out the window watching friends play ,and even that wasent good anoth as i was told to get into bed you got school in morning
this was said by my mum who was down stairs with dad or some other bloke who had stayed is this normal ,go to bed and you can have day of school if ya dont tell ya dad

it dident feel right and as i got older this gets worse i just expect all women to be like this

its like someone as printed it in my head out loud "DO NOT LEAVE WOMEN HOME ALONE "because you can bet your last dollar there ******* about

then as time goes on you grow up a bit more get a girl friend some 1 you love but caint trust cause after all if you caint trust your own mum who can ya trust

its like i been shut in bedroom so dont have many friends so at school always my myself so i dont mix very well with other people never quit fit in with anyone properly then i met tina thought she was great but never dare to leave here side due to my past and lord behold she does goes with m8 when im in prison for somthing she did ,"NICE ONE" this really sent me of the rails

went homeless for awhile about 1 year living on the streets caim back met tracy things was ok for a while herre we go again she goes of with stig here x for night

well this is really proving a point

so i go single for a while, then what was i thinking i get talking to tracys sister 1 thing leads to another 12 years later too kids i never wanted as i new i had problems
i always said dont want kids but no i was robbed of my life by sue she said she was on the pill ,any way i stand by here get
good job where on the up ,exept here sister tracy lives next door this waS A LIVING HELL OHHH by the way she lives with my yonger brother james but it aint that bad ever day i come home to ever tracy in house or james laughing joking with my girl

is this normal or just me paronoid ,**** nose but by head shour felt like it was going to pop ether tracy would talk to me to piss sue of or james would be with sue to get to me but i thought **** this its just me

but it got the better of me to the point i just wanted to work drink take drugs always thinking they doing it to split us up because i new tracy still loved me and james had a soft spot for sue ,this went on for about 1 year i caint take this anymore

my head is ****** no real friends no stable home always walking round in a daze feeling like killing myself then christmas comes go out for drink to come back and get told sue and james were kissing at top of stairs in my other brothers house so now what does my head think this must of been going on ages but no they insist it was just a kiss well you keep ya kisses

at this point i left only to think right payback
so i get of with tracy not cause i like her just to get in here head like she had mine
3 weeks will do i was the nicest i could be to here and i new she loved me with all her hart then "POW i walk just to hurt here like she did me what sort of person am i full of hate twisted dont trust no one any more and prob never again so of i go again

move in to my yonger brothers things are ok for about six month single then i start getting feelings for fiona nice lady funny working but abit crazy and anyway a few month go by we talk every night things seem ok taking it slow

whats the problem with this nothing exept me with past thoughts and fiona been sams mum ,um who is sam you think well let me tell you its my yonger brothers girl friend and now im dating here mum for **** sake is this normal answer ,NO

but it felt right we were ok together for a while then i new i loved here and lord help me out pop the demonds no trust always on at her were you been who with caint contr5ol my thoughts in my head

there is no trust in me nowhere if she leaves my side im like a mental bull bad thought after thought running like a steam train no stopping to the point i am now crazy all these uncontrolled thoughts just run away with me and if i tell the truth i now realise i am far from normal fiona nows all my past and tryed to stand by me but at the price of love as now im that paronoid if she walks dog 2 long i think she up to no good i try and try to find the trust but it aint here i now feel it been stolen from me my my family and caint go on living in this shitty world

i caint work i caint let fiona go to work all because i crack up this is so unfair we have tryed for care allowance but been turned down so now we live in our house fionas dauter prob thinks im a total bastard and ever row takes here mums side "caint really blame her for that" but i do i got fiona 2 kids bills no money caint aford to live really so what do i do i have asked fiona to move out as i really want better for her and me i dont want to live feeling she was my carer and it as taken about 1 month of rowing to get her to go not cause i hate here because i love her but no i am not right what woman shoulkd have to live with somone like me sit in a bedroom with me no money no food caint aford to put fire on no presents for christmas

what sort of monster would i be if i had let here stay

its been i night now im hart broke and miss her so much what do i do?? ,i no money, home alone,no family where do i go from hear for the last six hours i have been crying i loved her so much but had to push her away would it really be too selfish of me to end my life

what would my kids think of me family fiona

i really dont want to go on any more but dont have the strength do take my life

2007-12-12 22:02:20 · 3 answers · asked by nocduk1 1

If I provided more.....some feelings would be hurt...suffice it to say...I miss his advice

2007-12-12 19:59:11 · 13 answers · asked by Tammy 2

my parents know this, but they do nothing. I cried so many times and told them i wanted to move out. They were upset and said if i do they'd not support me financially in Uni, or living expense.

Now i've thought of suicide many times and actually did once or twice, but got caught and they tried to not let me do this.

I want to call the police. But do u think it would be too cruel? I mean, he might be stressed out at work, and with a few drinks, he can't control himself.

I never thought of calling the police, until this afternoon, when he strangled me. But i don't want to call the police.

Do u think stabbing myself would be the best and smoothest way to end all this? Cuz i used pills before, got caught, and ended up in the hospital. When my parents took me home from the hospital they grounded me, and verbally assaulted me more.

My grades have always been straight A. Everyone thinks i have successful life. I guess if i die they would realize how successful they are.

2007-12-12 19:41:20 · 23 answers · asked by sunny 4

His wife does not have custody of the child. She rarely visits with her child. When we have a family gathering , holidays whatever, she makes it a point to go get her child, take her away from her real grandparents and force her into our family gatherings. It is uncomfortable for everyone because we have rarely seen this child. And she doesnt want to be there either so it is very uncomfortable for her. We feel that we have to buy her the same amount of gifts that we buy for our children because she is there. Things are short this year financially and we cannot buy her gifts like we have for our children.

2007-12-12 19:14:09 · 15 answers · asked by dawn 2

She always has something negative to say about everyone, even people she don't really know! She gripes that ee spend to much on our children all of the time, which I feel is none of her business! When she comes for a visit, I live out-of-state, she always has to go into my kids bedrooms and see what she can see, then when she goes home, she tells everyone that is ridilicous how much stuff we've bought for our children, and that they don't want for anything they don't already have, things like that. Drives me nuts! Why does she have to be like that? She tells everyone this stuff, even old friends of mine is she bumps into them, people I haven't seen in years!! She recently told my Aunt that my husband spoils me because he takes turns cooking with me, and that he helps me clean the house when I'm sick or don't feel like it, why is it any of her business? Ugh, she's like a mockingbird and I'm sick of her crap!

2007-12-12 18:56:44 · 7 answers · asked by Wutz it worth 2 ya? 6

I havent seen her in 3 years, shes a distant relative. I dont want to upset her but she keeps emailing me alot. What upsets me is that i wrote some emails to her sharing my life with photos and recieved no response.
Shes old, in her 60s , never married, no kids, i feel she was jealous, shes also made remarks in her emails to me putting me down and i had to defend myself..

I tried not responding to her, we had no contact for like a year, then she invited me and my mom for thanksgiving, i had to email her back saying "sorry i have alot of work to do but thanks"... Then she emails me saying "i hope you make it next time with your family at my house and i have alot of projects to do myself"
I felt it was a dig, then i get an email from her saying "Today is my birthday, happy birthday to me,, she sent it out to many people,, so i just said happy bday.
Now she emails saying "I hope i see you all before xmas, my friend is selling nice stuff on ebay"... I responded "yes i hope to see you too

* 11 minutes ago
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Additional Details

4 minutes ago
I said whats your friends user ID?

She emails me back "This is his USer ID (--)
I wonder how old he is? He has a HIGHLY professional ebay account""

2 minutes ago
i think its weird how she emails me, what does she want?

I know shes rude but i think shes off and dont want to upset her, do i keep writing generic emails like i have to her or not respond?

2007-12-12 18:30:16 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-12 18:14:43 · 14 answers · asked by LaLaLa 4

my mom cheeted on my dad...and now shes making up alot of lied about my dad (saying that he hits her blaming scratches that she claims come from my dad) and i know right now my mom will do anything to take me and my brother away from my dad because he is a "dangerous man". i really dont want to be with my mom because she called me crazy saying i heard everything wrong when i heard everything she said to the police. she has turned my grandma and my aunt on her side...saying that my dad saw "visions" of my mom and the guy having relations..so now..my mom sent a restraining order..and she wants me and my brother to go live with her..and also wants one of the trucks my dad owns. i really dont want to be with her...im 17..i will be 18 in august..do i have any say in who i want to go with?? my brother is 11...will he??...does it matter if i dont like her and dont want to be with her??? someone please help...im miserable right now..they said if i refuse before the hearing...they will take me

2007-12-12 16:20:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok. when is it okay to date again? I want a date range...not someone saying when I'm ready...cuz i kinda might be ready....but need advice...

2007-12-12 15:59:18 · 9 answers · asked by austin t 1

i woke up 1 morning and my mom was in my room dancing to fergalicious. so at night i started locking my door so she wuldnt come in. then she started thinking that i was depressed and that i was going to hurt myself. so my frends came over and we were talking and they started sayin that i dressed emo and that i shuld dye my hair and stuff. so my mom went and looked up emo and she thinks im gonna cut myself now. nothing i say to her will make her change her mind. and i told her even if i was emo that doesnt mean i wuld cut myself. i stopped locking my door but she still thinks im depressed. i dont know what to do

2007-12-12 15:47:59 · 15 answers · asked by Holly Golightly 7

so i wouldnt normally complain but, ive just had it. my mom always spends tons of money we dont have on my sister. shes even bought her 4 outfits (shoes, 2 or 3 shirts, pants, jacket, earings, everything) for ONE date with her boyfriend and buys him stuff too. everytime my sister is hungry, sick, or just wants my mom, my mom rushes to her everyneed. yet whenever im sick or need help with my home work i have to beg her to come and help me and even then she is in a bad mood and mad at me for doing so. and tonight my sister and her bf decide to sign on my screen name and IM everyone on my buddy list and tell them weird stuff and really immature stuff and when i tell my mom she gets mad at me. at me! then she goes and apoligizes to my sister and her bf for the way I was acting! and not to mention she favors my sisters boyfriend too cause my sister gets depressed after a breakup and she doesnt want them to breakup. ive tried talking to her it didnt help. im crying idk what to do?

2007-12-12 15:31:41 · 6 answers · asked by Cori M 3

Ok

1. I asked my mom directly if I can have a cell phone and she said "no, I can't think of any reasons of why you need a phone."

2. I made up a list of 20 reasons of why I need a cell phone. I asked her "now can you think of any reasons?" and she said "Nope, I still don't think you need one."

3. Now I ask her directly why she won't let me have a cell phone and you know what she says? either "because I said so," or "because I'm the mom."

Why won't she let me? I am offering to pay the entire bill and for the cell phone, I have almost straight A's, AND I said that if my grades drop, she can just take it away. I can't think of anything, HELP!!

2007-12-12 15:08:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my husband are in need of your help! Ok we have five kids and i am accidentally pregnant with #6 ha ha ha. Ok our oldest is 14 and just started high school and has many friends along with her younger brothers. So we have a slight dilemma... we need to move! Un fortunatly the only place big enough for all of us is 13 miles away! We would hate to have our daughter and sons be taken away from their friends but we need to move! please we need your help!

2007-12-12 14:54:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

for 17 years now, and now my neice wants to work, can she? without my mom losing the check. The check pays for my neice school so they do need it, and my sister don't pay child support so what can my mom do,

2007-12-12 14:23:56 · 4 answers · asked by ? 2

I was gunna bring my camera to school, to take some pics with my friends. I realized there was no room in my bag, so I took my camera out of my case and put it in my jeans pocket. I went to school. Then, on the ride home, the camera was digging into my leg so I took it out of my pocket and put it on the seat. I went inside, forgetting my camera was in the car. My mom then went out to run some erins. When she got home she told me that she ran into her friend from like 11 years ago, and she is now a hooker and is homeless, and is a cocaine addict. I was shocked. Then the next morning, I look in the car for my camera and it's not there. I searched everywhere. Then I see this old gray hat. I asked my mom who's it was, and she said it was the lady that she saw. Apparently she gave her a ride in the back seat. So obviously this lady took it!! But if I tell my parents they will kill me for leaving the camera not in it's case in the car overnight. Plus, my dad just got over something else-

2007-12-12 14:02:15 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

would u allow ur daughter to go on a trip to montreal, quebec with her two other friends for 3 days and they are satying in a hotel? what if she's 18 years old and still lives in your house?

2007-12-12 13:57:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

What Do You Think About This??

2007-12-12 13:55:18 · 12 answers · asked by Ashlee K 2

I am so mad because I know someone has been pretending to be someone and they are supposed to be not like that and they like being deceptive and sneaky and not even get the whole picture before they decide to do this. I am so sick of it. Does anyone have any advice for me? I am so mad because me and this person are close and I can't say anything. I love her to death but she decideds to try to be sneaky and I can't take it. It's not sneakyness in real life too. It's throught the internet.

2007-12-12 13:15:14 · 8 answers · asked by no name 4

2007-12-12 12:53:17 · 7 answers · asked by Me 6

have family always makes comments about my weight

2007-12-12 12:46:30 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

I would like a bit of advice on this topic. It sounds harsh to say, but I really think that my mother has some sort of psychological issue(s) that my sister and I (more heavily on me than on my sister) are target of.

I truly believe that my mother subconsciously tries to make my sister and I have low self-esteem in attempt to have us not be self-reliant.

For example: She does things like saying if we feel good about how we look, then we will get in a horrible car wreck and be disfigured; this will be God's way of "teaching us a lesson".

Or she is constantly thinking I am incapable of taking care of myself and telling me things like "I can't afford to pay your student loan payments". In reality, I haven't asked my parents to pay for ANYTHING since I turned 18. I put myself through college, paid for everything (rent, car, etc.), and never once requested any financial assistance from my parents.

2007-12-12 12:41:00 · 7 answers · asked by abbyful 7

If you read my other post you know I'm a 17 year old female body builder and i armwrestled every family member. I destroyed my brother and mom, I also beat my dad but it was a little tough. Can any other girl do this?

2007-12-12 12:12:49 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im 19 and Im sleeping with my stepfather. He's 37 years old. Im not proud of what im doing but the damage has been not only Im sleeping with him behind my Mum's back but Im also pregnant. My Mum as 2 children to him...I dont know what to do..I want to go for an abortion but I was told its too late to have one now...Everytime my Mum goes to work thats when we make love...while the children are at school...I wanna tell my Mum the truth but I dont know where to start..if only there was a talk show like Jerry Springer that I could tell her the truth..plse help Im in a situation where I cant get out no matter where I turn....

2007-12-12 12:05:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My uncle has not spoken to our whole family for 3 years. We try to help but he gets angry and has a bad temper. He lied to us about his girlfriend cheating on him and it was about the same time he dumped her that he stopped talking to all of us. I need help on other options on how to get him to talk to us. HE NEEDS HELP, he drinks all day and doesn't care about anything. What can we do before it's to late.

2007-12-12 12:02:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

he keeps calling me fat and whore and a bunch of other insulting things... I know I'm NOT fat or any of those other things but i guess it kinda hurts my feelings.. and my parents see it going on but don't do anything about it. what should i do?

2007-12-12 11:28:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i know some people will say that they havent got a dad, that i dont know what im talking about, or be thinking that i overeact
but
i dont care. Hes almost impossible to communicate with, hes totally selfish, i mean that everything i say he relates to himself. Its just so annoying, hes so negative about everything that i do, critism everywhere, yeah! u can critise everyone all the time, but is that a good way to live your life?? no!

Its completely exhausting!

because im his daughter, he thinks i dont know anything, im not claiming to know anything, but everything ends up in arguements!!

does anyone else have this problem?? or am i crazy

2007-12-12 11:14:49 · 58 answers · asked by Sarah W 2

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlFP9.P7.eo3yYt4rBb5yPbsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071201194805AAzlElG
this is what happened to my sister. that's the question she posted wanting help. she just left out a few details:
after her teachers found her, i walked into the room and saw that she had blood on her arm, her skirt was ripped, etc. and i fainted.
she was rushed to the hospital and got stitches
our parents know and have been helping us through it, but its still hard
most of our teachers know about this

even though people have tried to help us, we dont feel any better. my sister, kelsee, especially needs help. i just need some of you who wont judge us to help us out. email us or just post suggestions. just please help!!
my sister's email address is: c.kelsee@yahoo.com
my address is on my profile so you can email me through that.
we are desperate and really, really need help! give me any advice that you have! just dont make rude comments please. thanks.

2007-12-12 11:11:15 · 3 answers · asked by ~♥Heidi♥~ 2