My uncle has not spoken to our whole family for 3 years. We try to help but he gets angry and has a bad temper. He lied to us about his girlfriend cheating on him and it was about the same time he dumped her that he stopped talking to all of us. I need help on other options on how to get him to talk to us. HE NEEDS HELP, he drinks all day and doesn't care about anything. What can we do before it's to late.
2007-12-12 12:02:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't help someone that doesn't want help It's almost impossible best thing to do is just keep trying to communicate your feelings for him and let him know your there when he is ready for support.
2007-12-12 12:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by Candace B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he's probably upset about the cheating and taking out on you. He may be upset that the family made it their business which would also explain his lying about it. Did the family tell him she was cheating and he denied it? If so he may not have wanted the family involved.
If he lied and accused of her cheating he could have been looking to get rid of her. It sounds like he's having some emotional issues but he's an adult and not much anyone can do. If he's a danger to himself (suicidal) or a danger to others then the adult family members could have him committed for a mental evaluation. However, this will not be done solely because he is drinking and stuff.
It would be up to the family to stage an intervention to try to make him see his behavior. If he's been estranged from the family for 3 years that probably will not do any good since the only thing they can threaten him with is estrangement. Seems like he doesn't mind it.
I'd say leave him alone. It seems he doesn't want anyones involvement or help. No one will be able to help him until he wants it.
Best of luck!
2007-12-12 20:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by MISS H 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's so sad it sounds , you uncle surely needs help!... why would a loving man stop communicating with his family .. huh!
I think he must have been so much in love with the lady he dated before he ditched her ... could be verse verse..she damped him , when he didn't even expect it ...or she left him for his friend , of which now he can't stand that fact and the more he thinks about it the more he is upset about everything ..i guess !
So really ,between you and i ..lets see if we can try to let him open up and start at least talk to you .Here is the deal .....
Why don't you go up to his house and even if he is not saying a thing to you ....
Say hie ! walk in and sit , see if everything is in place , help him stretch up his house and hide all the bottles that you can spot around the house ... replace them with a pkt of orange juice,ice tea , milk and water .
And prepare a meal or coffee and sit him and you could start by saying sweet things like , i came up here coz we have missed you a lot and things have been so different without you been around ...
you know , you are the only best Uncle i could ever talk to and if you let me i will be so happy coz i do care for you loads .. laugh , make up a sweet story and hear him laugh and who knows things can start from just there ......
So why don't you try going up and show him that you care for his happiness and you want to help him in anyway
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Hope it works out for your family ..... Good luck!!
ciao !
2007-12-12 20:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't speak to my family either but that's because I just want to be left alone, have you been bothering him alot, telling him he needs help? Because that could be making it worse, give the guy some space that could be all he needs.
2007-12-12 20:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by sparrowszealot 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your uncle is being childish and irresponsible. He does need help. Get him to see a therapist. Let him know you all care about him.
2007-12-12 20:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by jamzm2002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your family might have tried an intervention of sorts. Based on his bad attitude, lack of communication, and binge drinking, sounds like it did not resolve anything. It's likely your parents have said you need to get help, he said no, and they said unless you get help we do not want you in our lives.
2007-12-12 20:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by jay k 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone
He's a Grown Man!
2007-12-12 20:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Bolles Harbor Alive-New 360 pg 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋