would u allow ur daughter to go on a trip to montreal, quebec with her two other friends for 3 days and they are satying in a hotel? what if she's 18 years old and still lives in your house?
2007-12-12 13:57:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Depends on her maturity level and how responsible she acts. When she goes out does she check in with you? Does she keep you posted on her where-abouts? Do you know her friends well? The ones she will be traveling with? Does she speak French (Canadian)? If you trust her then let her go. If you have any doubts talk about them with her. Open communication is best.
2007-12-12 14:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by butternbiskits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally myself i did not feel comfortable with my daughter wanting to go off with her friends on trips at 18. I did not approve of some of her friends. But there were the ones i did approve of. The ones i did not like were always the ones that wanted to go on trips. I made the rules while she lived under my roof. She was told if she did not like the rules that she could move out and then take her trips. But not while under my roof. She is past 25 now, living on her own and takes all the trips she wants now. And today she still respects the decisions that i had made back then.
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2007-12-12 22:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 is the age when kids go away to college and generally leave the nest. Are there financial questions involved? Is she spending money that should be spent on other things? Does she have a record of doing insane and irresponsible things when she gets out of your sight? Unless she is really a problem kid of some sort I would let her go. If she hasn't been away from home before three days is a good rehearsal for the real thing. In fact if she hasn't been away from home before, why not?
2007-12-12 22:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lleh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if you're 18 mom doesn't really have a choice. It's always nice to ask her... and she can always give her input... but the final word is that you're an adult. Now if she plays the "My House My Rules" card... you're kinda screwed unless you're planning on moving.
But if it were my daughter... It would depend... On trust level. If she is very resposible and mature I wouldn't have a problem with it at all. But if she is constantly in trouble and making bad decisions then yes there would be an issue. It would also have to be discussed about who she is going with. I wouldn't really want her going with people who I KNOW are just going to get her in trouble...
2007-12-12 22:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on our relationship. IF I trust her, and know her friends pretty well, and haVe phone numbers to all of their cellphones and know their parents; then yes. I'll trust my adult daughter to go with her friends. She's also got to check in with me every night. I would worry about my kids, so they'd need to make me feel secure. This builds trust. ANd I would try not to bother her, because I know she would want to have fun with her friends. If all this were the case, I'd let her go, and pray she's safe and doesn't do anything that she'll end up severely regretting later in life. I'd pray this for her friends too.
IF none of these things are in check with me and my child...then hell no! If she wants to be on her own, then she can move out and go w/o my permission.
2007-12-12 22:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how responsible she acts and not just when she's trying to impress you so she can go on the tip- overall. If she was responsible, I think I would let her, though if she was not, I wouldn't even ponder on it- NO!!! Also, it depends on where you live. If you were close to Quebec, I'd let her, if I was far away- I wouldn't, and if we were kind of in the middle, it would go back to maturity. Think about it.
2007-12-12 22:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by abbyrien01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's fine, however I'm 18 tomorrow so I guess I'm a little biased. However I would say if she really wants to go let her go, she's 18 and needs to be able to live.
2007-12-12 22:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by Meera B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. By 18 I pretty well knew that everything I could teach them I had and that trust goes both ways. Have her call you everyday she is there and make sure she has enough money.
2007-12-12 22:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is 18 and can legally do as she wishes. the part that she is still liviing at home means you have the last word...
would i let my 18 year old go to canada alone with two other teens...
HELL NO!!!!
2007-12-12 22:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was going with a school or church group, sure. Alone with two other 18 year old girls.....no way.
2007-12-12 22:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋