Family - December 2007

I went to a party,
And remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom,
so I had a sprite instead.

I felt proud of myself,
The way you said I would,
that I didn't drink and drive,
though some friends said I should.

I made a health y choice,
And your advice to me was right.
The party finally ended,
and the kids drove out of sight.

I got into my car,
Sure to get home in one piece.
I never knew what was coming, Mom,
something I expected least.

Now I'm lying on the pavement,
And I hear the policeman say,
the kid that caused this wreck was drunk,
Mom, his voice seems far away.

My own blood's all around me,
As I try hard not to cry.
I can hear the paramedic say,
this girl is going to die.

I'm sure the guy had no idea,
While he was flying high.
Because he chose to drink and drive,
now I would have to die.

So why do people do it, Mom
Knowing that it ruins lives?
And now the pain is cutting me,
like a hundred stabbing knives.

Tell sister not to be afraid, Mom
Tell daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven,
put " Mommy's Girl" on my grave.

Someone should have taught him,
That it's wrong to drink and drive.
Maybe if his parents had,
I'd still be alive.

My breath is getting shorter,
Mom I'm getting really scared
These are my final moments,
and I'm so unprepared.

I wish that you could hold me Mom,
As I lie here and die.
I wish that I could say, "I love you, Mom!"
So I love you and goodbye.

2007-12-12 00:00:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have written in before about how my partners parents accused me of making up the fact that I fell pregnant and had a miscarriage (also saying that I am thus 'sick in the head and should be institutionalised').I have had to contact my dr and get her to write me a letter confirming the above actually happened, she was horrified at what was going on and made me cry because she asked me if I was okay.She is one of the first people to ask me that And I'm not. She also asked if I needed to talk with someone - & I do. It makes me feel sick that I should even have to give a letter to them proving I lost their first grandchild. Why should I have to keep on proving that I lost my baby? I am still battling to deal with it (it is my 2nd miscarriage and I know the hurt never entirely fades away) myself and now I am having to defend myself and what happened....I am so hurt. Now is the time when I need support from people, yet instead I am having to defend myself. I don't know what to do. :( .

2007-12-11 23:51:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister and her husband came to stay with my husband and I for a few weeks, I am usually always signed in to my email. We left somewhere, when we came back, the computer was on, and when I looked through my "sent" folder, most of the message were marked "read", and I had not read them, nor my husband. Obviously, they must have read them, and probably my inbox ones too, I just can't tell because they were already marked read because I had read already them. So what should I do? I'm signing out until they leave, but should I say something? I would never snoop through someones things, I would even feel bad about opening someone's medicine cabinet or drawers in the bathroom ! (I know people who like to do that out of curiosity.

2007-12-11 19:49:24 · 12 answers · asked by latitude 4

Ok, This is going to be a bit long b/c there is alot to explain.

My little sister and her 2 yr old live with me and my husband and 3 kids. We gave a bedroom up for her and her son to have. (the biggest in the house)
My sister is working (as a stripper) she leaves this house everday @ about 1 or 2 pm and doesnt come home until 2-4am.
I have her son this whole time.
I do sleep till noon everyday and she wakes up with her son and my 3 yr old around 9 or so.
She does very little housework and contributes very little $$ to the house. She has asked me to set an amount for her to pay weekly for house and babysitting.
I hate to do this b/c it makes me feel like she is a boarder. But, she will not do anything otherwise. I also need help around the house, considering there are 7 of us in a 3 bedroom house.
Should I expect her to pay and help? or just let her pay and me do all the housework and childcare? I thought w/ us being family that it would be easy and set. But I was wrong.

2007-12-11 18:32:12 · 11 answers · asked by stacie m 4

When girlfriend get mad or frustrated or played with her and joke to make fun of her without anger , she gets angry and slap , push my head, want to hit my face and then later say oh she's joking. What do u think?

2007-12-11 16:49:23 · 7 answers · asked by pro 1

with the holidays coming up, i let my emotions get the best of me. i have decided to write my estranged father. a little background info: im 21. he mvoed out when i was 9. before that, he was a very abusive man to my siblings, mother, and me. my siblings sometimes contact him, and know that he is a drug addict on the brink of suicide. ive held a grudge for so long, but i know if he did die, id be devastated and probably never forgive myself. so ive decided to write him a letter for christmas. in this letter, i want to make a few points. one being that i love him. another being that i want to work on our relationship someday but that im working on mine now. and i do want to tell him to clean his act up. do you have any ideas/suggestions on what to say or how to say it? is it beyond my limits to tell him to clean up? i really have no idea and id rather not tell my family to ask them for help because theyd be critical and what not. any help is so appreciated! thanks!

2007-12-11 16:45:39 · 9 answers · asked by Brittany 2

My girlfriend of 2 and a half years called me tonight. We were having a good converstaion untill she asked me "would you be mad at me if another guy gave me a back massage?" So I replied "who gave you a back massage", and she said "Just tell me if you would be mad." I finally got her to tell me that a guy mike at her work gave her one, and she told me "it was so nice he went all the way down and *signs*". I told her I was dissapointed because I don't want other guys touching her, and if she wanted a back massage she can ask me for one anytime. But she says her back hurt and I told her that was no excuse because mine hurts as well as I do heavy lifting at my job and I have been sleeping on the floor for the past for nights (I'm waiting for my new bed to arrive) and I havent asked anyone for a back massage but her. It wouldn't have made me as upset, but I know that previously while we were dating a guy from her work has hit her butt, flirts with her, hugs her, and as she says "made her" kiss his neck. She is a hostess at a restaurant so I don't know how he could have "made her" kiss his neck.. but I am getting mad about all of this that is going on at her work. Do I have a right to be upset or am I overreacting? All I told her is I don't want other guys touching her but she wouldnt agree to it..

2007-12-11 16:18:11 · 13 answers · asked by Maxwell 1

2007-12-11 16:16:26 · 10 answers · asked by marilyn b 1

it just seems like everthing i say the in-laws have a better story.its the hoildays and i know i will see them.what makes it even harder is that my husband father remarried a woman.well my huband brother married the woman oldest daughter.so we get it from both couples.

2007-12-11 16:14:33 · 5 answers · asked by shoe_gurl 1

She doesn't want to participate when it comes to sharing household responsiblity and when we bring it up to her she becomes real rebellious towards everyone. I feel like the only option we have left to do is lock her out of her room until all the work gets done and her attitude changes to everyone. Please give me other options that our available so we don't have to lock her out of her room.

2007-12-11 16:01:30 · 9 answers · asked by rascoe627 1

i am 15 and have ocd and i am a germaphob. i am the only kid still living at home and my parents drive me nuts. they are alway telling me to do things when it would only take them a little effert. i have a job and go to school. it is my responisiblity to clean the house and i do mean the whole house. they live like pigs and i can not stand it anymore. one of the ladys that i work with offerd to let me live with her this summer but i will only be 16. do u think it is wrong for me to want to move out even though i am so young???

2007-12-11 16:00:08 · 4 answers · asked by imurheaven22 2

My grandma passed away a few years ago and her husband took everything. We believe he let the storage shed go and it was auctioned off. My family is mainley concerned about pictures and things like that though some of her things would be nice to have. Does any one have any ideas of what we can do to find the stuff and has any one been sucssesful in finding stuff?

2007-12-11 15:51:23 · 2 answers · asked by passion4ranchin20 1

she isn't happy at all:
she thinks she looks really old & fat so for this christmas i want to get her something or do something for her that makes her happy & not so down on herself??
what could i do??
i was just thinking i would do something so cool that i would mabye make her cry??
is this possible?? lol.

2007-12-11 15:38:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi,

I am typically a t-shirt and jeans kind of girl. I ALWAYS do my hair and I more often than not wear make-up, but I feel I can do all this and still look beautiful with a cute t-shirt and jeans on.
Now, my boyfriend is like this, no matter what I'm doing, if I'm going to the gas station, or even if we're just going to Wal-Mart 12 in the morning, he expects me to look the same way I do when going to school or work. This means I have to wear a fancy top with my jeans or a dress, with jewelry, make-up and have my hair done. What's wrong with me wanting to be comfortable every now and then. I went to the store with my hair in a ponytail and well, jeans and a t-shirt on the other day and it really bothered him. Now, let me make this side note. I hate dresses and his ex always wears them, he has done everything in his power to make me wear them even when I say I'm not comfortable in them he still tries. Also, his ex is ALWAYS dolled up. Is he trying to turn me into her?

2007-12-11 15:34:57 · 12 answers · asked by Tnisha 1

i am 15, and my boyfriend is 17, he is a laborour, so is verry strong. i was sitting in the kitchen at his mothers house (where he lives.) and me and his mother was saying how pretty i was, and that i must get hit on alot by older boys, because i look about 20 years old. then Jonah (my boyfriend) walked over to me and slaped me across the face with the back of his hand. His mother gasped then walked out of the room. she didnt even say anything! This is the first time that he has ever hit me, but i dont even no what it was about. can you please help me, how do i deal with this, and is it normal?

i have a huge welt on my cheek bone, and a horrible purple bruise.

2007-12-11 14:15:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

What's some good memories?

2007-12-11 14:07:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

you might think im crazy but i really want my mom to kick me out so i can be free and do whatever i want but she won't do it. she says she wants me to stay and its against the law to jus put me out. is it also illegal if i run away and my mom doesnt look for me?

2007-12-11 14:05:57 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

I lost my brother 1 month ago today. My mom is adamant that she does not want a "mother's ring" right now - that she can't bear to see his stone there. He was her only son & the light of our lives who left too soon @ 39.

What is a good Christmias idea for my mom without being too emotional, but yet stil remembering bub.....

2007-12-11 13:59:59 · 5 answers · asked by sandypaws 6

I really need some help. I don't want to sound like a drama queen here, but I can't stand my family. Both of my sisters (and only siblings) had moved out by the time that I turned 12 to go to college, and that was when my dad quit his job. Don't get me wrong, my mom can support the family well enough on her own, but he is ALWAYS home. He micromanages my life, one of my sisters is COMPLETELY weird (like she believes in faries weird), and the other one can't seem to stop putting me down. My mom is hardly ever home, and when she is she pretends that she knows me better than all of my friends (and believe me, she doesn't). It's been 2 years since my sisters moved out, and it's gotten to the point that I hardly even talk to my parents anymore, even when they ask me questions. I get so annoied of tehm that my only answer will be a grunt or mumble. I can't find anything to connect with my family on, and i feel retarded confronting them on it. I'm not trying to be a drama queen. Please help.

2007-12-11 13:46:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im a freshman in college, I live with my single mother. My sister is graduating from Syracuse this year. My father doesnt or should I say rarely sends money for help. We just got a bill from pseg and its sooooooo high. My mom began to cry and I feel soooo bad and i get depressed about it because she's such a nice person and I know that it's hard for her- my father basically ruined her life. Ugh he's such a dirtbag. Pray for me that we hit the lotto tonight please.

2007-12-11 13:23:05 · 22 answers · asked by Rumple 3

2007-12-11 13:15:15 · 1 answers · asked by SASHA 1

what i mean is, i hate what they are doing to me. The only family member i can really talk too is my grandfather. my real parents got divorced and i can remember everything! now 8 years later, im still fighting it. my dad and stepmom do nothing but bad mouth my mom when she does nothing wrong. they call her a nazi and it really hurts to hear your own father call your mother a nazi right infront of you. sometimes i wish i could just leave and live with my grandpa. my mom loves me but she too bad mouths my dad. why cant my parents see that all they are doing is pushing me away? im tired of all of this. i have no idea what to do. i was going to move back with my mom (long story) but i am starting to like my new school. i hate my home life though. i feel like they run my life! please help. what should i do?

2007-12-11 13:12:35 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok well my family is having alot of problems financially...(i am 15). I have midterms coming up and i am nervous..my mom was crying the other day because we don't know if we are going to move so we can't get a christmas tree. And my mom usualy goes all out on Christmas. Since i know everything about the family and what goes on (my siblings don't) they were saying that we might only get one present each. I feel bad for my parents more than anyone else because they used to have alot of money and used to buy us alot of gifts on christmas.i know its slowly killing my parents and they think its all their fault.Do you think things will get better. We have been through alot these past years and its only gotten worst. I know it could get worse but this is byfar the worst. Will we win Mega Money tonight? I know things will get better even as bad as it seems because everything happens for a reason.

2007-12-11 12:37:23 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

my brother stole 400 dollars from me a couple months ago. how can I get him to pay me back?
and yes, I have asked him and yelled and stuff, but he wont.

GRR
help

2007-12-11 11:42:49 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok,i'm goth and i'm tired of ppls judging me 4 how i look!TIRED OF IT!!!!!i just wana know y ppls hate us!wtf did we do 2 you?!just cause we dress diff and have a diff life style?!WTF?!i mean,EVEN MY MOM BARLY TALKS 2 ME!!!my bros DONT talk 2 me!(witch i dont mind that tho XD)i mean,y does every1 hate me and ppls like me?!it makes no sense!

2007-12-11 10:19:11 · 21 answers · asked by ♀freak and proud♀ 2

My mother has never been a mother to try to keep her children in harmony, she shows favorites with one of her daughter that has always been with her(she never lefted home)that she allows to run her life giving her rights to make a lot of her decisions, then when my mother argues with one sibling she'll involve the others causing conflict, then turns around when everything is fine with the favorite daughter she will talk to her about the others. Yes, its quite messy, I am glad I was able to move far away from them to help me see, and learn how healthy other families lifestyles can be. My family is very unhealthy mentally there is more drama and I can handle it so I have made up my mind to stay away. When I do stay away they start hunting me down wanting to talk to me (WHICH BRINGS ME DOWN)I think my mother is not sane and my sister too b/c she's learned the disfunctional behavior from my mother. I was an emotional and mental mess b/c of our up bringing which was sad. What can I do?

2007-12-11 10:15:55 · 7 answers · asked by Joyous Dawn in the morning 3

If mother doesn't know who father is, can she give a surname which ever comes to her mind. Assume she doesn't want a child to have her surname or surname of her parents?

2007-12-11 10:12:21 · 4 answers · asked by katya e 1

My parents divorced when I was 6. I had an older half-sister (whom was 9.5 at the time) from my father's first marriage. My mother re-married shortly after and so did my fahter. Thier new spouses really liked me.

My mom had 8 more children with this man and I never really felt loved by her. She ignored me, and was constantly fighting with me. My step-father already had 2 children from his first marriage and they hated my mom.

So my mother and I weren't very close and soon she let my step-mother adopt me, but she still saw me. I felt loved

I just found out today my step-mother died. Now don't say: If your stepmom died why are you on Y!A? The reason is, is because it is my way of grieving. My step-mom was like the only mom I ever had. When my husband died, SHE was the one to confort me.

I told my birthmother and she said if I go to her funeral that she will never speak to me again! I am stuck here because I love my step-mother and I love my mom too. HELP!

2007-12-11 09:53:15 · 16 answers · asked by Dina 3

so i was at track practice and my sister comes and picks me up in OUR car, and drives home because i didnt have my license, and she listend to the station she wanted to the whole way to the school, and when i wanted to listen to a station she got mad and threw a tantrum saying i had an attitide which i didnt till she deprived me of my music, she was being selfish and every time she changed it i changed it back so she was going like 20 mph down the highway, and she kept yelling calling me a brat, and spoiled, and selfish and bitchy when she was being all those things too, and my mom got mad at me for it sayin i should fight with her when shes driving, she said she'd ask my dad.........hes a rational guy....but what do ya'll think

2007-12-11 09:50:10 · 14 answers · asked by Amy 2

2007-12-11 09:32:45 · 5 answers · asked by Vikki J 1