Family - December 2007

When my son is with his father, he feels the need to not act out he's quiet and barely says anything. But when I enter the room or car he feels the need to act out like crying and stuff. I can't understand why my twenty month old acts like his toward his father. Also how can I make his father understand that he's still too young to explain is emotions and mention how he feels so it's okay that he cries. When my son cries my husband will do things like call him "Betty" for whatever reason and tell him he's going to be a sissy if he doesn't start crying. I have a hard time with this because I grew up with parents that constantly put me down and I know how bad it hurts even when you get older. My husbands mom was very nurturing and loving, his father however was a bit on the tougher side rarely spent time with him and such. I think about my son in the future and I want him to be a good husband and parent even though he's only twenty months old now. Please help?

2007-12-10 07:29:37 · 8 answers · asked by crymeariver 5

she been talking about sending me away all just because I didn't like her boyfriend I'm about to be 16 soon very soon and I can't stand my mother I HATE HER WITH PASSION. so many broken promises so many shed tears for stupid things my mother is mentally but I don't care she blames everything thing for her mental illness and takes no responsibililty for any of her actions if I was sent away I wouldn't care because my mother is insane and I can't stand her. about the revenge part when she gets old I was thinking about putting her in a nursing home where she can get abused because she deserves it . I can't stand everything she does she never there for me and nver home all she does is yell and I'm happy when she's not home I HATE HER.

2007-12-10 06:35:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

These family members are actually "step" related and are extremely greedy. They have previously actually sued their own blood sister and mother! Their mother died several years ago and their step-father is on his dieing of cancer, as his care givers (son & wife) we are concerned that when he passes they will try whatever means available to gain financially as they are NOT in his Last Will & Testament.

2007-12-10 06:04:02 · 5 answers · asked by VW 1

I have a sit. and I am not sure how to handle it, I come from a large family. 1 of my sisters are not by blood, her family kinda gave her to us when she was young and was brought up with us. We have always been sisters and that is how we identify each other, her kids are my niece & nephew & vice versa. She has 2 blood siblings but never sees them. In April the unthinkable happened and my niece was killed she was 5 yrs, now people on the outside R telling her how we are not "Real" family and have no right to grieve the way we are. now that there is a lawsuit, people are coming out of the woodwork, and telling her to be careful of US!! While my niece was alive My Sister worked and we took care of the kids more than she did, aside from that my niece was named for me. Noone gave to thoughts to her while she was here and now there are opinions. It is literally killing me because I lost the closest thing to a daughter I have ever had. I don't know how to handle the hurtful things.......

2007-12-10 05:59:30 · 3 answers · asked by peacefulflower23 3

still live at home with your oldies? i do :( i could of moved in with a friend but they wont let me till april when im 18!how crap is that?

2007-12-10 05:54:02 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-10 05:46:55 · 15 answers · asked by jb n 1

my borhter-in-law and his wife have a 9 month old son and leave him with her mother every weekend so they can get hammered. her mother by the way has and still is raising raising 5 girls. yongest to oldest... 8, 10, 13, 16, and 21. all but the two youngest are having sex, and the 16 year old just gave birth to her second child. besides that the language that that woman uses isn't the best for any kid to pick up.
I have offered so many times to watch their son, and so have his (and my husbands) parents have also offered to watch him.
They still leave him at her mother's.
and all this so they can get drunk!
what should i do?

2007-12-10 05:43:30 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2

I noticed this wonderful man one day in the park playing with his young son. Not only did he seem like a devoted dad but a genuine nice person to everyone he met(helped a old lady with her car) One day his son came over to see my dog and we had a little chat. I found out he was newly divoced and lived in the same area as I did. We ran into each other a few more times and he asked me over to his place to watch a movie we both had been talking about. When I got to his place we spent 2 hrs just talking about me where I grew up,what I did for work,hobbies ect HE was the one asking and seemed so interested in my life. He then asked if he could kiss me and one thing lead to anouther and we had s@x. After that everything changed. He turned cold and rude. When before he would cling to every word i said now he could hardly be bothered to look at me when I talked to him. Nerver calling to take me out only calling when he wanted a booty call. Plus i just found out he has/had a gf all along

2007-12-10 05:42:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

so my brother has been with this girl for a little over 2 years but she has created all sorts of hell in the family so we all made the decision to not have her in our lives but we still want contact with my bro but she answers his phone deletes his messages checks his e-mail and the deletes them she has full control over his life and is making him pick her over his family how do we get through to him that she is controlling and manipulative how can we get through to him and let him know he deserves so much better??

any advise????

2007-12-10 05:36:31 · 11 answers · asked by Babygurl 1

I have a daughter who is 4 yrs old who asking why her bio-dad(Vinny) stopped visiting?Her bio-father wanted to keep the fact that he is my daughters dad secret so he asked if i would refrain from having his name put on the birth certificate and to allow him to send me CS under the books.I agreed to these conditions because i did not want any problems but for the past 6 months he has stopped paying CS and seeing his daughter( he used to stop by once a month).Only a select few that include my mother(probably my dad) , me, my daughter but she's not an adult,my long term bf has an idea but turns a blind eye and Vinny himself are aware that my daughter is his.I suspect my daughters bio-dad Vinny is married or engaged now how recently though i am not sure?His cell phone number has been changed do i call his home phone which i recently looked up or pay him a visit in person?I dont want to mess with his personal life because for all know he might have another child?

2007-12-10 05:19:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My step-brother is being really mean.. I put "Audrey Hepburn" on my myspace an he started saying i didnt know she was and said i needed to be original..... Im so feed up with his ****!! I dont know what to do? And its not just that we have had some other conflicts in the past and iv had conflicts with his girlfriend...... I love him and i dont want to stop talking to him but thats what he is causing me to do.... Please HELP!!!!!

2007-12-10 05:14:52 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 15, my mom is 48 and my dad is 51. About 3 days ago I found out that my mom has cancer. She didn't want to tell me but it slipped out while we were in an argument. She wont tell me what kind but I think it is either live, lung, or breast cancer. I was listening in on the other phone while she was talking to her doctor, and it is pretty far along. I know I shouldnt have listened in and now I wish i haden't but I was really worried. Even though me and my mom havent had a good past and we argue, I still love her and I don't want to lose her. And then 2 days ago we found out that my that has diabetes. He is losing his eye sight and having pancreas trouble. I love him so much too. I don't want my parents to feel bad so I am trying to stay strong. But ive been crying everynight before I go to sleep and at school too.

2007-12-10 04:31:10 · 8 answers · asked by Ohhemmgee_its_Angie 2

2007-12-10 04:16:41 · 14 answers · asked by c2_army 1

First of all this man is my uncle, my deceased dad's brother. Before he even moved in with my mom he overnighted me a very nasty letter and then expects me to like the situation. Next he moved in with my mom, who is on a limited income due to disability, and chose not to work for a whole year allowing her to support him! In the end he decided to attempt suicide and he was forcably moved out after that. I reccenlty found out they are seeing each other again and sneaking around! I have already told my mom if she were to ever see him again I and my family would not be a part of her life anymore. It is not because I do not want her happy but how uncomfortable we are when he is around. I want her to be happy but I hate the secrecy. What do you think about me distancing my family from this man? (I do not think he is mentally or emotionally stable)

2007-12-10 04:15:28 · 8 answers · asked by Mellisa J 2

well im only 15 yrs. old and stayed home because i was sick but as i was laying down just a few minutes ago a thought went through my head and i was like when i get older and propose to my future wife im going to do it around christmas time and when she gets stuff out of her stocking christmas morning she will pull out her ring. I think that im goin to do this for my future wife

Now is that sweet or what. if any guy has done anything like that let me kno what your wife said...
and girls let me kno how you would respond


Thanks

2007-12-10 04:14:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Dad's wife is trying to find her Fathers Will, the thing is Her father passed away but her sister hid the Will from the family. This took place in Delaware aprrox 5 to 6 years back. Is there a site that you can goto to find the Will? Or a "Person" That could help her on the phone?

2007-12-10 04:08:48 · 10 answers · asked by embracedb4 3

When my fiance and I first moved in his sister really didn't like me. Me and him were fighting all the time and she didn't like how I was treating him. At first I understood why she was being the way she was, but then my fiance and I worked things out and our relationship became stronger than ever. After that she and I became very close, until after a road trip we all together which my fiance and I paid for. She started being rude to me again and started spreading lies about me to friends and his family. Well last month we found out she didnt pay her half of the rent so we were going to get kicked out, so my fiance and I moved out. The day we moved out she paid her half of the rent. Now my fiance and I are not speaken with her, but she is still spreading rumors about me and saying very hurtful things. My fiance has confronted her, also so have I and told her to stop but she continues. I don't want her to ruin my relationship with the rest of our family.

2007-12-10 04:08:08 · 6 answers · asked by stellar23_45 1

nothing but work, pay my bills, and live normally, but my sister, brothers, and mother, all still think I am the same, if I switch jobs, they say "oh did you get fired from drinking? or don't eat that cake, it has alcohol in it, or like recently, I had a hernia operation, and at the family barbecue they all thought I was in the hospital for alcohol treatment, it makes me mad, they don't visit me because they think I am wild, if they were to stop in they would see me sewing or cooking a nice meal. anyone been labeled for life, like me?

2007-12-10 03:52:32 · 5 answers · asked by kathleenhorn55 1

My nephew is coming up from Alabama to sepend the holiday w/ his father, my brother-in-law. In the 10 years that I have been dating/married to my husband, I have probably only met his nephew 2 or 3 times & the last time I saw him was like 4 or 5 years ago. Well he's coming up & I have no idea what do get him. I don't know him at all. All I know if that his mother & her family are loaded, so I'm pretty sure he already has everything. I don't want to spend alot of money (more b/c I don't have any, rather then b/c I don't know him) but I don't want to look cheap.

Also, should I send him back home w/ a gift for his 12yo, princess sister who I have never met in person? I've never gotten these children a present before. They have no relationship w/ my husband at all....infact, they refuse to even call him Uncle.

What do you think?

2007-12-10 03:43:57 · 20 answers · asked by autumn 5

I had 7 kids in bolivia. in 1993 we came to the united states to see if we could do better. we lived in Pittbergh for 3 years before moving to va. My oldest daughter got pergent when she was 17;. when we moved to va i told my told my oldest son to drop out of school so we can meet hands meet, because i was only working in mcddys which paid me $5.80 an hour. my other daughter also got pergent when she was 18;. my son had 2 duis and spend some days in jail for that. my son jose is doing good he works in a auto shop. My younger son Jack got arrested in july for stealing a car. that was not the only time he got in trouble with the law he was also in trouble with the law when he was younger. My youngest daughter mary hates me because i gave out a baby for adoation because he was M.R. was i a bad parent. when i was working they taked home taking care of each other and sometimes my sister took care of them but not so much. what could i be done so i wasnt a bad parent

2007-12-10 03:36:50 · 15 answers · asked by gloria.ortea 1

I hate my mom .Why? Because it's a never ending battle of aguments ..Nothing I do is right. It;s never good enough for her and she goes to the extreme with punishments and (becuase we have help from our "case workers") when she tell stories I swear she makes it sound 10 times worse then it really is... and my brother could get away with murder..yes I know he younger so i knwo that ordeal but its ridiculious..If i forget to undload the dishwasher I get my phoen taken away.... but GOD FORBID that brother even do chores..he never gets chores..and when he gets a very small easy task he whines about until I end up doing it any way..she won't listen to me about it being fair and she complains that we never do chores unless its a punishment or were brided but its not like I can go out and hangout with my friends ever. They always have to come over to my house because I am obvious gonna do something wrong..my mom has serious issues with trusting me..if I screw up even a little bit. Help plz!

2007-12-10 03:14:09 · 11 answers · asked by scarred_soul_princess 2

Last Christmas I gave my sister in law some very nice things from Bath and Body Works. It was until just recently I saw the same items that I gave her in my other sister in laws house when I went to visit one day. Turns out she regifted my gift and gave it to her sister (my other sister in law). I'm extremely hurt and am offended she didn't tell me she didn't like the gift. I'm hesistant about getting her a gift this year and would really like to know how to handle the situation. Do I confront her or not? Please help! Thanks.

2007-12-10 03:10:45 · 15 answers · asked by Shortie Cake 2

My boyfreind and I have a joint account, we are planning on getting married. His ex called and asked for money to buy Dylon christmas gifts, She has been remarried and divorced she has another son with anonther man and this boy is physcally handycapped my boyfreind told me that she can't get a job because this boy is handycapped. But I have come to find out that the boy is always at her freinds house, which is my boyfreinds sister. While she goes out and does whatever and not working. My boyfreinds son doen't even live with her he lives with her mother in another city. So she is getting Child support for both boys and disabilty for the one boy and doesn't work. I myself can say No or Yes to this Question, So what do I do? The thing that upset me the most is we were out the other night and we ran into his ex, so it is hard to say yes when she was out partying. But I can't say no because Dustin owes he a little of back child support. So what do I Do?

2007-12-10 03:02:54 · 14 answers · asked by Gillian F 1

I've been in a relationship with this GREAT woman thats younger than me by 5+ years for almost 2 years. Shes smart, she attend Northwestern University Grad school. shes funny and more importantly shes CHRISTIAN. I'm currently in the army reserves stationed in Iraq for most of our relationship. I'm coming home for 2 weeks for vacation then I go back. My family HATES her and send her emails and phone calls threaten her to stay away because they think she's a golddigger. personally I dont think she is but I have been paying her bills like rent and utilty bills which isnt cheap in Evanston IL. I'm very close to my family I have 5 sisters and 4 brothers all older then me. I love my family and I respect their opinion about things. She tells me I should check them about what they are doing to her. I have in small ways but how do you tell your bros- sisters. thats old enough to be your mom and dad to back off? or are they right to be concerned?

2007-12-10 03:01:15 · 4 answers · asked by CONFUSSED 2

My daughter has a piano exam on Wednesday. I am a FRSM standard pianist and am a music teacher, but she doesn't have lessons from me because I'm her mum and she probably won't listen.

She's getting all teary now because she thinks she can't play well enough. Her teacher goes away tonight. What should I do? Should I take her through the pieces myself?

2007-12-10 02:56:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was supposed to get a car when I was 16. They basically promised to me that I would get my dads car cause he was getting a new one. When I turned 16 they sold it.
I got 2 jobs at 17 over the summer and ever since then I had to pay my parents $50 every month. (rent?) I started paying for stuff myself, like for school and stuff. I had a savings account and by the end of the summer I had about $1000. I lost one of my jobs because my mom wouldnt want to take me to work. I t was like 5 minutes away! ( the other job was seasonal) My parents wouldnt let me get a job during the school year b/c they said school was more important. I was still paying the $50. My money slowly slipped away over the schoolyear. In march of my senior year, I finally reached a breaking point of all the stress about money and gettng a car. My sister found my "diaries" in my room and decided to read them. She actually had to find them because I KNOW i hid them. Some of the pages were about me being depressed and

2007-12-10 02:48:29 · 5 answers · asked by Ⓐⓡⓜⓨ Ⓦⓘⓕⓔ Mum of 2 6

My little girls b-day was Dec 9 she turn only 10 all she want it for her 10th b-day to have her nails done pro. So my sister took her to have her nail done before they left the place they gave my daughter a gift baggy didn't think anything until she got home and ask me what the little bottle they put in the bag was? It took me by surprice why would they give her a small bottle of BRANDY,I was Mad !!! What should i do?

2007-12-10 01:17:21 · 9 answers · asked by BRATZ 1

My daughter is 15 and just moved here to live with me. She lived with her father from age 10 to 15.

We live in an apartment and she mentioned that we might be moving to her father. He said that the "world will be upside down" if he finds out that we have moved into an apartment. He wanted to visit over the holidays, but I have decided not to have any contact with him because of this threat. Any suggestions.

Also, my daughter's heart and mind are always with her Dad, grandmother and friends from the other state that she moved from. She gets up in the morning or comes home from school and talks on the phone for about 1 hour. Then, she starts her homework.

I don't know how to change her focus so that its not so much on her past life. She keeps saying "I hate it here." Then, she pushes me or throws a plate on the floor that I am eating. I get upset with her then. I don't know how to handle her?

Its a difficult situation. I feel like a failure.

2007-12-10 00:43:51 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

i wanna go to the movies after skool with my friends..... and the movie starts at 5:30p.m and ends at 7:30pm........ my parents are not alowin me to go and it sucks....even one of my frens calld and told my mum that i wod b safe and that her mum is gonna drop me off wen we finish the movie..........but instead my mum got angry at me and is still not allowin me to go.....wat shod i do ....???.... plzz help...........

2007-12-09 23:58:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I haven't told them and I plan to tell them because i really need help. But how would they feel? would they feel sad?disheartened? If your asking what kind of parents I have, they are very good loving parents who loves me and my sisters very much. I mean I wouldnt want to make them sad right? If they would suffer then I would rather not tell. So how do you think would they feel If I told them I suffer and worry almost everyday of being teased and bullied?

2007-12-09 23:20:23 · 8 answers · asked by George Hide 1