When my son is with his father, he feels the need to not act out he's quiet and barely says anything. But when I enter the room or car he feels the need to act out like crying and stuff. I can't understand why my twenty month old acts like his toward his father. Also how can I make his father understand that he's still too young to explain is emotions and mention how he feels so it's okay that he cries. When my son cries my husband will do things like call him "Betty" for whatever reason and tell him he's going to be a sissy if he doesn't start crying. I have a hard time with this because I grew up with parents that constantly put me down and I know how bad it hurts even when you get older. My husbands mom was very nurturing and loving, his father however was a bit on the tougher side rarely spent time with him and such. I think about my son in the future and I want him to be a good husband and parent even though he's only twenty months old now. Please help?
2007-12-10 07:29:37 · 8 answers · asked by crymeariver 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
personally i'd slap him... your husband.. not the kid. what a bully he is. tell him its not manly to pick on a baby. you could always take the lil one out alone.... but DO tell your husband he isnt helping the lil one. he'll make him a cry baby. tell him being nice to his son will work better than threatening him.
sorry but he sounds an ****.
2007-12-10 07:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by genkilady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very common and nothing to worry about. A lot of it has to do with attention seeking and separation anxiety. The best way is to let your son know that he doesn't get attention for crying and behaving inappropriately unless something is wrong like he is hurt.
If he is trying to talk to you or ask you something but can't because he is crying talk to him like an adult and tell him ,"Mommy can't understand what you want when you are crying like that." or Don't pick him up until he quits crying or throwing a fit. Explain to him that he doesn't have to do those things to get your love and attention. He may be a little young right now but he will understand eventually.
2007-12-10 07:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is feeling comfortable and safer with you than with your husband. Even though your baby is only 20 months, he can still pick up on things. He knows that when his father is saying these things and acting the way he does it is a negative reaction. He could be slighty scared of him. Your husband should never say these things to your child. This will cause problems for your child somewhere down the road. Ideally you want them to be close to one another, but if he keeps up this attitude, it will never happen.
2007-12-10 07:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by Teakatoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your son acts that way towards you because he knows you will pick him up and give him something to be quiet.
And then your son is quiet around your husband because he gives off a different energy, like "stop your damn crying."
It's no different than being at work. You can pick up on those co-workers that like you and those that don't.
2007-12-10 07:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because of the fact we fathers manage our infants like human beings, quite than some thing to administration and yell at. If he desires to bypass to college devoid of under ware or positioned his shirt on backwards or roughhouse with different boys or brush his tooth after (quite than earlier) taking a tub, I enable him. i seem for the thank you to declare "definite" as in lots of cases as possible. maximum mothers I see are nagging and correcting and yelling over insignificant habit. Heck, it annoys me just to observe. i won't be in a position to think of anymore what it is going to be to be the object of such trivial pursuit. enable the minutia bypass--concentration on what's substantial and you the two would be happier. Edit: maximum the folk misinterpret your question. He acts up around the mummy, no longer the father.
2016-11-14 08:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels safe with you and not with his father. He acts out with you because he can. His father belittles and mocks him so he just tries to stay out of his way. Your husband is displaying abusive behavior toward your son. I'd keep an eye on that if I were you.
2007-12-10 07:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by LB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is pretty normal. I don't like his father's approach at all. Explain to him that his son is never going to feel like he can talk to him if that's what he gets (put down for it). At least he has you to listen to him and empathize.
2007-12-10 07:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by tshnobodysfool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a guy thing.
2007-12-10 07:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋