I am 15, my mom is 48 and my dad is 51. About 3 days ago I found out that my mom has cancer. She didn't want to tell me but it slipped out while we were in an argument. She wont tell me what kind but I think it is either live, lung, or breast cancer. I was listening in on the other phone while she was talking to her doctor, and it is pretty far along. I know I shouldnt have listened in and now I wish i haden't but I was really worried. Even though me and my mom havent had a good past and we argue, I still love her and I don't want to lose her. And then 2 days ago we found out that my that has diabetes. He is losing his eye sight and having pancreas trouble. I love him so much too. I don't want my parents to feel bad so I am trying to stay strong. But ive been crying everynight before I go to sleep and at school too.
2007-12-10 04:31:10 · 8 answers · asked by Ohhemmgee_its_Angie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How do I comfort myself and my parents? I am an only child also which doesn't help at all. Ive always known that parents die someday, but i didnt thikn it would be this soon, and I dont want it to be this soon.
2007-12-10 04:31:41 · update #1
Ok there isn't a great way to deal with this. If you all go to church, I would suggest that you meet with the pastor or youth director to see if someone can talk and pray with you and your parents. Also ask your parents to come clean. You have no choice but to grow up and that starts immediately. Also I know you are only 14 but now you have to give in some to keep the peace with your mom. Make sure you take lots of pictures and create memories with your parents now. I know that sounds creepy but at least you are getting a warning. There are tons of people who wish they had the chance you have, but instead their parents were killed in car wrecks, etc.
Do what you can to be supportive and seek out some one to talk to.
2007-12-10 04:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. Everything happens for a reason. Perhaps this was so that the love that was underlying can come forward and help in this terrible situation. First of all, we dont know about the prognosis, so dont panic. Your parents want you to be the best you can be in life, so please continue studying hard to get good grades, get into a good college. Then meanwhile, ask if there is anything they need done and try to help out with the chores( Im sure you already do) . Make the details of daily life be as cheerful as possible.Put a warm smile on . You can cry every night alone but not during the day. Its not fair to your school mates and no one wants to be brought down. Later on there will be time to cry so now is a time for you to shine with love and all of your might to make memories that your parents -and especially yourself-will be proud of. God Bless You
2007-12-10 13:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First step is to realize that parents and kids often have strained relationships. Don't feel guilty about that. Sometimes things like this help both sides to realize what is really important in life and how much everyone really does care, regardless of what is sometimes said.
Secondly, before jumping to any conclusions or sitting back alone worrying, get both your parents together and let them know you want all the facts. Let them know you would rather deal with the truth than possibly worry more than necessary.
There are many unknowns with both diseases, but there are also many successful treatments to control them.
Get the facts first and then decide, with your parents, the best way for you all to deal with it..as a family. No one should have to deal with it alone. Use the circumstances to bring everyone closer.
2007-12-10 12:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you have parents to deal with. I lost both mine. Sit down and talk with your parents. I know when my family kept secrets from me it hurt terribly as I felt I could have contributed in some way.
Make them talk with you and then help them in anyway they need. You may have your parents still for quite a time....then again not...so make the best of it or you will feel guilty when they go.
Support is what all of you need right now and healing too...make things right between your parents and you now before it is too late...then if and when they do pass beyond this world...you can let them go with a clear conscience and peace in your heart.
2007-12-10 12:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by belen2499 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow..I am sorry to hear about your parents. I think you need to see a counselor, maybe your school has a couselor that you can talk to. Talk to the counselor about how to get your parents to open up more to you; you are old enough to know what is going on. Offer to help your parens a little more. This is one way to show you care; help take the load off their shoulders. Just making a meal and doing some laundry is a big way to help! Good luck!!
2007-12-10 12:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by momof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to both your parents and make sure of what you think. As an only child, you need to know what will happen to you if they pass away, you should know that anyway. Anyone can die suddenly, and kids need to know what will happen to them in that event.
You're 15, you're not supposed to be strong and its not your job to comfort your parents, especially when you don't know what you are comforting them about. Sit down and ask them your questions, pretending this is happening isn't doing you any favors.
I'm sorry this is happening to you, its not fair.
2007-12-10 12:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you being 15 doesn't help at all. Since you are so young, it's hard for you to try to comfort your parents and you with something serious like this. All I can say is to just try to spend as much time as you can with them and let them know that you care. Try to fix things between you and your mom since you said that you haven't had a good past. Just let them know that you love them and try your best to be as close to them as you can. That's the only thing that matters....spend quality time.
2007-12-10 12:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww, thats sad i wish i could help you and your parents... thats really sad though if i was granted one wish i would wish for both your to be as good as new. i just wish there was someway though i could help you out. well there is one thing i could do and thats pray for you and your parents. others could also help me pray for you in hopes your parents get well. if you want my e-mails adamdrtbk@yahoo.com if you want to e-mail me
I hope they get better
2007-12-10 12:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋