Family - December 2007

He borrowed $7000 dollars 20 years ago and my mom made us sign an agreement, that magically disappeared. Now I can't get him to repay me. So I tried to start getting even with him, He was moving and wanted to get rid of some stuff from his house, so I told him I would take it and pay him later. It was only $250.00 I feel kind a guilty, SHOULD I PAY HIM OR NO?

2007-12-11 09:12:09 · 11 answers · asked by lilyjo 2

i have 8 sibling most of them 6 and under they drive me nuts and my parents r lazy and i feel like 3 parent plus school and other things so how do i keep from screaming and going insane?

2007-12-11 08:51:32 · 5 answers · asked by craziechickchris15 1

My parents came over for Thanksgiving, they came to our house ( my husband and I) it's the first house we have ever bought and we had sunk a lot of money fixing it up. They are raising my niece she's five and extremely hyper and has to be watched often. Somehow when they left we found a small piece of wood missing off of our wooden veneer floors in the living room. My husband was understandably upset and recommended that we go to my grandmothers for Christmas. When I told my mom about it, I was non judgmental about my niece and simply said that my husband had a difficult time with her because she was acting up the whole time. Then finally I mentioned the scratch on the floor and upset my mom. I then stated that I would again talk to my husband and see what he wants to do he said invite them over and we would child proof. When I did they said maybe, then finally they said long enough to open gifts then they would leave. How can I make them feel better? I don't want it to be this way.

2007-12-11 08:09:56 · 9 answers · asked by crymeariver 5

Today is one of those days that I wish I could have a “pass” and skip it. I’m not feeling well. I feel like crying every 5 seconds. IT SUCKS!!!
I think it’s because of what I heard yesterday from my husband. I discovered that our niece called me STUPID. It made me very sad and upset. It’s not just the fact that she called me that, but how I came to find out and how my husband reacted to it.
It’s known that his sister hates me and has done everything to jeopardize our relationship. I’m not asking him to hate her and not talk to her forever, but I do wish to SEE that he’s upset with the situation or even pissed off at her. Every time I hear something about this situation I always wish it was presented to me differently.
I wish he would come up to me and say “ I’m so mad at …..You are not going to believe what she has done this time….. I called and our niece told me “My aunt is Stupid”. I told her not to say that and once my mother picked up the phone I was outraged. I told her that this has gone long enough and that I was going to speak to my sister. I then called her and let her have a piece of my mind”
I don’t know. Something like that. Do you know what I mean? But instead, I found out by accident and all I got was. Our niece said something very stupid and I told her that it was wrong. So I asked him, what did your mom say, and he said, “ all she said was that our niece grabbed the phone from her purse.” So I asked, Did she hear what our niece said? The response ; my mother pretended that she didn’t hear anything.
I don’t know. I’m so tired of this. I don’t know what else to say.
I feel like crap, I’m scared and disappointed.
What is going to happen when we have kids? I already don’t have a relationship with his family how is it going to be then? Is he still not going to take my side?
I love my husband and do want to be with him forever, I just wish that we could come to an agreement on this….
What do you think?

2007-12-11 07:44:01 · 9 answers · asked by Butterfly 2

He is such a jerk all the time. He constantly calls me fat and ugly and he told me that i would **** up a wet dream. My mother tells me that i take everything was to seriously but he never lets me go out of the house. He always yells at me for not doing things right. He hates all of my friends and grounds me when they call because he is racist. And im really not that ugly.

2007-12-11 07:42:00 · 8 answers · asked by Severus Snape 5

she said it was when she lived withus when she was 14. She since then has always wanted to come spend school breaks with my husbands daughter(months and weeks at a time).She has in the last 2 years begged me and my mom to let her come live with us again. She has been planning on moving in w/us when she turns 18. She has just recently been seeing a councelor and been prescribed 40mg of prozac. And now they want me to just automatically take her side and stay w/them 200 miles away. I told my husband and he seemed sincer when he said he didnt..but she seemed sincere when she cried when i told her if it happened she has 2 stds and needs to be checked.( but she had also had the prozac and I gave her 1 mg of klonopin-which is possible to make her cry that is what xanax does to me)HELP PLEASE!!! I need imput I am going crazy!! I am stuck between 2 people I love.

2007-12-11 07:32:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Now fess up. How many of you automatically attatch the stereotype that I'm just a pms-ing teenager, and the adult is always right? How do you know I'm not abused beyond belief? How do you know that she doesn't come home at arbitrary times to scream at us? And how do you know that the next second she's not trying to win back our affection? Why can't anyone listen?

2007-12-11 07:10:10 · 8 answers · asked by live*laugh*love 4

My oldest daughter is going to her father's this year the day after Christmas (she is 20). It is her father and his wife's 10th wedding anniversary this year - and my daughter emailed her grandmother (his mother) to see if she wanted to help her in planning a special dinner or small get together to celebrate. Her grandmother informed her that her father and stepmother had planned a renewal ceremony for the 23rd (three days before my daughter arrives) and a reception afterwards with the family.

My daughter is angry and hurt - not just because it is happening three days before she arrived but because her father never told her about it. She is on the verge of not even going to visit, but doesn't want her sister to have to travel alone (she is 12). Her Grandmother has basically called her terrible because she is angry and upset --- but I think she has a right to be upset because it was rude/mean not to even tell her they were planning it.

2007-12-11 06:06:49 · 37 answers · asked by Susie D 6

Man, I hate my mom so much. All she does is talking about money. Everytime I have a new job, she starts calculating my paycheck and my expense and ask me to give her more money! What a b--tch! If I want an accountant, I would get one!

Does anyone here actually have negative feelings toward their mom. I have no pleasant memories of her whatsoever. I keep wondering if I would be sad if she passes away!!

2007-12-11 05:57:45 · 11 answers · asked by White Shooting Star of HK 7

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2007-12-11 05:54:16 · 6 answers · asked by Steve C 7

I am 30 years old, and my mother contacted me to inform me what she was going to give my wife and I for Christmas. I feel that the gift is too much money, and the only reason I see for it is because she is spending the same amount on my brother and sister. My parents aren't made of money and I feel that this amount is unnecessary. How do I handle this situation???

2007-12-11 05:40:49 · 41 answers · asked by dilfer99 1

does every living thing in the house come to join you? I get both my children, two cats, 3 dogs and on occassion, my husband. Is this the only time they feel I can give them my undivided attention?

2007-12-11 05:38:56 · 8 answers · asked by Sptfyr 7

Ok help me out here! I go out of my way to do almost anything for my step son who is almost 8 to make him feel special. Don't get me wrong, I make him work for what ever he wants like video games etc by doing chores, and such... but I believe in rewarding a job well done. About 2 years ago I got him a PS2 for xmas (6yrs old now!!) because it was something he really wanted. When he opened it and a few games I had got with it he tossed it down and said that's all I get? Where's the rest of it. NOW this year, I ask him if you got ONE thing for your birthday (which is close to xmas) what would you want. His response.... "I ONLY GET 1 THING!! THATS CRAP" It's not just this, homework is a hassle, bedtime is hell and I am the main disciplinary in our house. So how good does this make me look when I take away his PS2 and empty out his room of everything but a bed. Im the bad guy because his parents don't want to be the bad guy.

2007-12-11 05:26:14 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

She's having surgery today. Her and my brother just can't get pregnant and she's had two miscarriages now. She's having surgery today because her tube is getting bigger and they need to see why.
The thing is these are really GOOD people and they deserve a baby and would make the best parents. My heart goes out to them. I ask for your prayers and bless them in this trying time of their lives.

2007-12-11 05:05:29 · 20 answers · asked by JK 2

what should u do when theres something going about wi ur parents at home?

2007-12-11 04:06:50 · 7 answers · asked by Amanda G 1

Hello

Does anyone know of Indian names for a boy and girl that is actually Indian, but sounds "Western" or non-Indian?

E.g. like Mona, Rita or Rhea or so ..

2007-12-11 02:11:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

There was a time where me and my stpedad actually got along when i was young. but once i hit puberty, he started changing. He started drinking more and became more strict. Most of the time when him and my mom argues, it was over me and the way he was treating me. They would actually get in fist fights when i was younger and then my mom would take me and my little sis to our grandmas house till things blew over. but we always went back to him.

i hate my stepdad because his way of controlling me is by getting in my face and yelling and when i try to say something to him, he will smack me hard across my mouth. I suffer from serious depression and use to cut from the physical and emotional abuse i deal with. I feel my mom has chosen him over me, even though she knows his "parenting techniques"

I think it all started when his brother died in a car wreck and that his other two daughters lived with their mother and never wanted to come see him but every other weekend.

2007-12-11 02:10:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 10years and I have three beautiful kids I lost my mother when I was 20 years so my kids never got to see my mom but there father mother is still living and she is not in my kids life like
i want her to be how do
i tell her how i fill about that

2007-12-11 02:00:18 · 14 answers · asked by p rock 1

I've been caring for the kids since they were little.She asked for them back last year. I also have them on my dhs case i want to remove them but don't know if i should

2007-12-11 01:59:43 · 3 answers · asked by christina w 1

My question is legally can my sister live with me? I am 24 years old, I am a Director of Marketing for a Catering Co, I live in Baltimore Md. My sister is 16 years old, and lives in Texas with my Mom and her step dad. My dad and grandparents live in Mississippi. Will I was talking to my sister and she wants to come and live with me. The reason is because of her stepdad, and stuff going on at home. I told her I want to go to the authorities and handle matters that way. But, she doesnt want me to. So, I am going to respect that. I asked my grandmom if my sister could come live with her (she said she couldnt live w/my dad which is possibly best). I dont think she will get along with my grandmother because my grandmother just thinks she is manipulative and a liar.

So, I want to her to be where she is loved. I know I dont have kids and it is a big responsibility, and i haven't seen her in about 6 years because of my mother but.

Anyways legally can she live with me?

2007-12-11 01:53:31 · 4 answers · asked by sarahglian 2

My mom has full custody. We live in michigan and my dad lives in Ohio. He cant come and fight for custody because he has some kind of warrant for all the child support he owes but he is starting to pay it off and has been since June.

2007-12-11 01:10:28 · 7 answers · asked by ashleigh c 1

To make a LONG story short, my mother has treated me like trash all of my life. She's called me names when I was growing such as vvhore and bi+ch etc. I was honestly a good kid. The kind of kid every parent would have wanted to raise. I never got caught up in sex, drugs or alcohol when I was under her roof. I was my mom's slave --> literally. When I was 18 (hs diploma and putting myself through a trade school), I wanted to have friends to hang out with outside of school. I began having people over. My mom would cause a scene and start lashing at me in front of everyone. One day I had enough when I decided I was going to the movies. She fought w/ me and told me I wasn't allowed to go. I left anyway. When I came home at 4:30PM, she said I was way past my curfew and she was ready to hit me. I told her that if she laid one hand on me I was taking her down. I did not want my mom to "own" me anymore. That's when she threw me out.
No my mom has dimentia and everyone thinks..

2007-12-11 01:08:14 · 8 answers · asked by ★Banäna . Nightmärẹ★™ 7

If you mother started screaming at you, literally out of the blue, how would you react? She was pissed at my step-dad, but took it out on me. he started screaming at me and telling me that I was going to fail at life and I was going to be living with her my whole life and I was going to be broke like her, which she is not, we just dont have a lot of money. She told me I was never going to make it out of this town, which is my goal. I dont want to stay here my whole life. All that just came out of nowhere this morning. I was speechless at the time, which just made her mad. Now im sad and pissed at her. How would you have reacted? I dont know what to say to her later.
Sorry, rant over. Help?

2007-12-11 00:33:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have an relative (by marriage) who dominates all family conversations. They can talk nonstop for hours without noticing that no one else has had the opportunity to speak more than one sentance. Does anyone have a nice way to deflect the conversation away from a motormouth? This person is nice, not overbearing, but just talks and talks...I think they she gets nervous and then doesn't shut up.

2007-12-11 00:32:11 · 7 answers · asked by karen 2

Basically here is the situation... my mum and dad both drink quite a lot, maybe even enough to be considered aloholics but im not sure, anyway they drink every night. I smoke weed quite frequently, because i would rather do that than intoxicate myself with booze, as alcohol turns people into idiots and makes you do stupid things. I would just rather come home in not such a state and have maybe 1 or 2 beers and a spliff than 10 beers and come home throwing up and feeling ill. However last night i had the worst argument so far with my parents and they just dont listen because they drink. They were calling me a ' Smack head thieving addict ' because i took a cigarette from my mum as i ran out. My dad even said last night he would not mind if i came home drunk some weekends throwing up, he would prefer that to me smoking weed. What can i do to put my point across to them, im not a SMACK HEAD, they say weed makes me depressed, but im not apart from when they shout abuse at me. What can i do

2007-12-11 00:24:28 · 10 answers · asked by Rik M 1

Right after my husbands father was born his fathers dad died . So my father nlaw never new his bilogical father he was the only grandson for his fathers side of the family . Well when he died and he was a few years old his mother (husbands grandmother) got with another man and took my father n laws last name and changed it to the new mans last name she got with (so the only living grandson to carry my husbands grandfathers last name was changed ) and it killed the parents of this child to know his only living son carried another mans name they took him away and wouldnt let him see them and brain washed him into thinking that this side of the famil wanted nothing to do with him.my husband had a dream and it was his grand father coming to him crying with a white buttton up shirt on . Went and saw his grandfathers grave for the first time had a picture on it with him in a white button up shirt. My husband is thinking about changing his last name to pay tribute to the man that had his name

2007-12-11 00:20:04 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married young, for my 18th bd I got a crib and a month a beautiful daughter inwhich I adore,anyway she was just a baby 3-4 and her fatrher molested her, the hospital conformed it,@ the time we were seperated. I was tottaly destroyed,more 4 her than myself. Well now she is growns up23 if you call that grown up, 2 girls of her own and 1in the waym,I have never lied about her father nor did I constantaly bring up what he had sone, I found out 2 days ago that she has made contact with him and even meet him,she tells me that she can reamber what happened to her and where a sertin smell or event can set off her reambering,he of course is dening it the courts found that it did happen but they could not prove for absout sertian it was him,they found him not guilthy due to insafent evedince, I have hear through the family that she is making plans with her father to go to fla and meet the rest of them, I really don't believe that she believes me or she's blocking it out, I need help!

2007-12-10 23:18:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK.. My sister in-law lives with us...She is muslim.NOt that it matters or maybe it does,,,She has lived here for two years now...Her husband and her divorced...She was pregnant at the time,,I helped he threw the labor and delivery and we bought her all the baby stuff she would need,,,threw all theses two years..Well She does nothing to help me out..No cleaning.. Not even sweeping nothing...She keep's her own dishes in her room her own toaster and pans and utencils..and even soap...I have nought her and her child clothes and jewelery..and taken her shopping for things...I just do not understand why she does not even help me out....She does not eat what I cook she prepares her own food..If I buy two gallons of milk she will open the new one before the old one is gone...I am so upset ..She sleeps at differant hours than we do...So I hardley get to see my Niece..And to top it off she will keep her door shut all day long and only come out when she thinks I am not around...

2007-12-10 23:06:11 · 18 answers · asked by getagrip 3

I decided to myself that I was gonna live in my van and save money so that I don't have to run to my parents for money. My parents have money (mom and dad are both lawyers) My dad says I'm being selfish and that I lost my mind. My mom ask where will I take a bath and study ...cause I'll be starting college again. I have money now but I don't want to spend it on an apartment. I can't say I have a great plan but am I wrong for trying to do it myself? I know I can do it. I've been staying at a couple different rest stops and truck stops at night, and take showers in the truck stops. I know a lot of people so far there so I feel real safe and they know my situation (it's kinda like home) am I wrong or do you think I could do it? Please give me advice ...

2007-12-10 22:51:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

my dad died just over a year ago..she thinks he trying to get intouch....i dont believe in mediums...i think they are only reading minds

2007-12-10 21:56:56 · 8 answers · asked by Wee Hen 3