If you mother started screaming at you, literally out of the blue, how would you react? She was pissed at my step-dad, but took it out on me. he started screaming at me and telling me that I was going to fail at life and I was going to be living with her my whole life and I was going to be broke like her, which she is not, we just dont have a lot of money. She told me I was never going to make it out of this town, which is my goal. I dont want to stay here my whole life. All that just came out of nowhere this morning. I was speechless at the time, which just made her mad. Now im sad and pissed at her. How would you have reacted? I dont know what to say to her later.
Sorry, rant over. Help?
2007-12-11 00:33:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think your mom doesn`t mean to yell or as you think , hates you. Because of the difficulties in life , she tends to be irritable , all the time. Why don`t you ask help, from some elders , for example your grandmother , or a trustworthy neighbor , or if you are a christian, you can consult to a minister, or a priest , to administer , counceling. I think she needs help, spiritually .
And the thing that she told you that you would not be successful like her , if you ever leaves town , maybe your mother is lonely, what she express , and is telling you is the opposite from what she is thinking. actually she doesn`t want you out of her life. Your mother is very lonely especially , she thinks that you are planning to leave her in the near future, Now she needs understanding, specially from you. If you insist on treating her badly or giving her a cold shoulder, surely she would get worst , and its very difficult for her to recover . She needs the help from her family the most.
Another reason why shes like that , is maybe because , she is in the menepausal period . Even if she is still young , these body changes on woman occurs , especially if she in a very depressed time or stressful period in life . Sometimes it leads to depression . So please take care of her , she needs it now , and immediately.
2007-12-11 01:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by nattienes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how old is she?? If she's about 35+ then she could be going through a patch called the menopause, if so then she'll need to either get over this time of life or have counselling. She could also (again depending on her age) be going through 'that time of the month' and usually girls and women have moods swings then and say and do thimgs they don't mean- hope I helped!! Good Luck x
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2007-12-11 01:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by CuteSylveon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you put it into perspective for me when you said she was pissed at your step-dad.
That would tell me that her blow up at you, really had nothing to do with you at all. So put your mind at rest over what she said.
After you both have had a chance to cool off, sit down with her and calmly tell her how you felt when she took her frustration with her husband out on you.
If she truly listened to you she will be able to reflect back what you said to her in her own words.
You will feel much better about what happened knowing that she heard & understood how you felt at that moment, even if she doesn't appologize for it.
2007-12-11 00:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom "kicked the dog" and the dog was you. That means she didn't feel safe letting her anger out on your step dad so she turned around and blew the gasket in your direction.
Not right and not fair, but it happens. When she has calmed down, tell her that you understand that she was angry but you didn't do anything and blowing up at you wasn't right. Tell her that you don't know what the future is, but you love her and will do the best you can to make her proud of you.
2007-12-11 00:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you and as a mom i guess i have done the same to my daughter, and after i always feel real bad, I know we shouldn't take our crap out on our kids but we do. I sure hope after she claims down you two can talk about it. I know when i do i always end up telling my daughter that i'm sorry.And i do hope you can prove to your parents how wrong they are about saying you wont ever make anything of yourself.And you wont ever get out of your town.That is something you NEVER say to your kids no matter how you feel. They are so wrong for that.I believe you should always encourage your kids even if you are having a bad day, that is what i do for my daughter never put her down.Will i hope you can talk to them later and i do wish you all the luck.....
2007-12-11 00:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Toni A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of someone taking things out on the wrong person? Unfortunately, that happens alot in parenting. I'm sure once she calms down and thinks about it, she'll feel bad. Until then, just smile and stay out of the war path :)
2007-12-11 00:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by glassesguru 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't know how i would react i would chill or stay over at a girl friends house.
2007-12-11 01:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...she took out her mood on you!!! Better hope she realizes that and apologizes...stay mad until she does..no call for that treatment!!
2007-12-11 01:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by madsmaha1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i hit my step dad and now am on probation i hate when my family does that but pretty much now i own them i say jump and they say how high cuz they are afraid depending on how you feel bout this guy i would hit him
2007-12-11 00:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by floridalionpurple 1 · 0⤊ 6⤋