I got married young, for my 18th bd I got a crib and a month a beautiful daughter inwhich I adore,anyway she was just a baby 3-4 and her fatrher molested her, the hospital conformed it,@ the time we were seperated. I was tottaly destroyed,more 4 her than myself. Well now she is growns up23 if you call that grown up, 2 girls of her own and 1in the waym,I have never lied about her father nor did I constantaly bring up what he had sone, I found out 2 days ago that she has made contact with him and even meet him,she tells me that she can reamber what happened to her and where a sertin smell or event can set off her reambering,he of course is dening it the courts found that it did happen but they could not prove for absout sertian it was him,they found him not guilthy due to insafent evedince, I have hear through the family that she is making plans with her father to go to fla and meet the rest of them, I really don't believe that she believes me or she's blocking it out, I need help!
2007-12-10 23:18:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As u say ur daughter is a grown up now. She is able to make her own decisions and u should let her. Make ur daughter aware that if she intends on keep in touch with her father that u will be watching very carefully. Let her know that she could be putting her own daughters at risk. At the end of the day he is her father.Be there for her and ur grandaughters. They may need you in the future.
2007-12-10 23:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is probably blocking it out. Sometimes it takes years to come up if ever. If she isn't getting help for the problem she needs to. I'm sorry that you are so worried about this, I would be too. Yet, there isn't much you can do. I was molested too and it took years of counseling and a lot of hard work on my part to heal. I just hope she doesn't leave her children with him! He is the scum of the earth and will strike again if given the chance. I would do some research and give her a print out of some of the things you found on line about molester's and how history repeats itself. Most molesters do not get help nor get better. I think if you give her something to think about before she goes she will be better prepared. Good luck to you and bless you.
2007-12-11 07:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by Rosa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to remind her that child molesters don't change, and she should make sure he's not alone with her children.
However a 23yr old woman with 3 children(where is her husband btw??), is most definitely a grown-up and this is her choice.
Its not about you, let her make her own choices and suffer the consequences.
2007-12-11 08:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 23 so it's out of your hands. Her decisions are her own. The only thing to do is to make sure the father stays the hell away from his grandchildren.
2007-12-11 07:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by wsguy1983 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a grown woman now. If she thinks he did these things to her then hopefully she'll keep the children close by. There really is not much you can do about it now.
2007-12-11 14:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Just tell her not to leave the girls alone with him for any amount of time or reason.
2007-12-13 18:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by angel_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just going to have to let your daughter learn on her own.Tell her that if she decides to do that,then she needs to make ABSOLUTELY certain that her children&she herself will be protected from him&NEVER alone with him.
2007-12-11 09:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Cloud Dancer♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her to be sure to protect her children.
2007-12-11 07:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
she is an adult so she can make her own choice but tell her to be safe good luck :)
2007-12-11 16:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by D-baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definately going to have to sit back and let her learn this one for herself.
2007-12-11 07:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by angelajsk 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋