My parents came over for Thanksgiving, they came to our house ( my husband and I) it's the first house we have ever bought and we had sunk a lot of money fixing it up. They are raising my niece she's five and extremely hyper and has to be watched often. Somehow when they left we found a small piece of wood missing off of our wooden veneer floors in the living room. My husband was understandably upset and recommended that we go to my grandmothers for Christmas. When I told my mom about it, I was non judgmental about my niece and simply said that my husband had a difficult time with her because she was acting up the whole time. Then finally I mentioned the scratch on the floor and upset my mom. I then stated that I would again talk to my husband and see what he wants to do he said invite them over and we would child proof. When I did they said maybe, then finally they said long enough to open gifts then they would leave. How can I make them feel better? I don't want it to be this way.
2007-12-11 08:09:56 · 9 answers · asked by crymeariver 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I want my parents to be happy, to enjoy themselves but just keep on eye on my niece better. But they seem reluctant to do so.
2007-12-11 08:10:32 · update #1
When you married your husband, he became first. That is you and your husband's home. If mommy and daddy can't respect your home and your family, then they need to be put on the back burner. How can you make your parents feel better while your niece is destroying your home. If I were your husband, I would tell you and them that unless your niece is better supervised, she is no longer allowed in our home. If something gets broken, you two are going to have to foot the bill. Stop worrying about your parents feelings and start worrying about you and your husband's feelings. Your mom and dad have gotten married and did their thing. Now it's time for you to do yours.
2007-12-11 08:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by powrbruh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a hard spot. I understand about the house and having nice things and wanting them to stay that way. You work hard for your money and you want things to stay the way they are. Your parents are hurt. You could all go to someones house that is nutural territory or have you thought about going to your parents house? Children need rules and maybe your parents are just to tired to deal with your niece. Maybe a good thing would be to look into activities you can do with her while she is at your house that will keep her occupied. They have to be able to hold her attention span so don't make then to long.
2007-12-11 08:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lainnjessiesmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm unsure why you would assume it was the child. Frankly if a piece of veneer floor comes off, something is wrong with the floor. I think if this kind of stuff upsets your husband so much, you both need to think seriously if children are right for you. Because there is nothing messier and inconvenient than a child, if its raised right.
2007-12-11 08:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents should understand that you love her and that she is hard work and they should try harder to teach your niece what's right and wrong and explain that she needs to calm down especially when she's in someone elses house. Maybe you should attempt to tell her that she should calm down before she gets told off in school or something. So in effect you're preparing her for the future. Your parents are maybe on edge because of the stress your niece causes within their lives and how hectic looking after her can be. This is hard on them too so let them relax when at your house and you take care of her and show her how to behave in your home =] x
2007-12-11 08:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can replace the wood plank.
I was told Pergo wouldn't scratch or chip. What a load of bunk that was! It warped, it scratched, it chipped off in places.
Your house is going to get wear and tear. It's normal.
But to hold something so insignificant over a child that can't sit still is petty.
2007-12-11 08:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she is at your house just explain to the child that since she cant mind the rules of your house she is to be confined only to rooms another adult is in. Do not allow her to go into a room unless an adult accompanies her there. Dont let her just wander around. Dont let her walk into another room unless she is with an adult who is going to that room at that moment.
The sad thing is that when she reaches the pre teen and teen years your parents will find themselves in a living hell from lack of discipling her.
2007-12-11 08:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you want to keep your stuff nice but if your husband is that anal don't have kids a 5 year old is going to rip and run what a spot you put your parents in no longer will the feel comfortable coming to your house mother of 2 and gran ma of 5
2007-12-11 09:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might say which you're doing the nicely suited element by potential of no longer putting up with your spouse's tantrums. the suitable element to do is to miss approximately them and not provide them any credence. i might think of that the two one among you could earnings on some couple's counseling, if that is accessible. it style of feels that the tantrums stem from some source on her area - possibly she isn't feeling like she gets sufficient interest from you, or she is gloomy with another issues in her existence that take place as tantrums. the significant element is to get to the source of why she throws those suits and attempt to nicely suited that so the suits end. interior the interim, stay reliable and don't permit her derail you and galvanize you into performing like a baby!
2016-10-11 02:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her under close watch it shouldn't be this way but you have no choice. They may let her reck there things but your not
2007-12-11 08:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋