Family - December 2007

when my friends are over at my pool and she comes out in her bathing suit they always tell me how hot she looks. i am 16 and she is 15. what should i do?

2007-12-12 10:52:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 19 years old and go to college, but I live at home because my parents are overprotective
Tonight was my 22 year old boyfriend's office xmas party, which my parents knew about for weeks.
My bf and I have been dating 3 years and I have known him for 10 yrs prior to that.
He is always good to them, has even done their food shopping using his own $
I go to school and work part time, and I clean up the house everyday while everyone is out.
Today I got lazy after a long night of work (I work at toys r us) and decided for ONE day not to clean up the dirty house
They told me I could not go to the party as punishment!!
I told them I am going no matter what, and my dad has threatned to either physically restrain me or follow me to the party in his car so that he can humiliate me later
I don't know what to do, my mom is out at her xmas party, I told my bf I would meet him at the end of the driveway
Advice?

2007-12-12 09:46:39 · 16 answers · asked by marm212 5

Help! My mom makes everthing bad even when it is a postive thing. She is so hateful, and says such hateful words even when we try to say something postive she makes it seem so wronge. I need a change in my life but she is the only one that i trust with my kids I have no help from the dad and have no one easl to live my children with that will take care of them, but yet I feel like she is hurting them, cause she says her hateful words around them were they hear can anyone help me?

2007-12-12 09:01:36 · 8 answers · asked by loretta d 1

I live with my girlfriend, her sister, her mother, her moms boyfriend, and his son. My girlfriends sister is 15 and she causes so much drama. And it seems to linger forever what should I do?

2007-12-12 09:00:05 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Needless to say, the relationship I have with my son’s mother has strained me and my new family to the point where I cannot handle it. She is a hypocritical black supremacist and hypocritical Pentecostal Christian who does not preach what she follows.

If I sever my parental rights, could she or the state come after me for child support? If I sever my rights, does that mean I have to pay but can’t see my son?

I signed his Birth Certificate but she moved to another state and I hardly see him but me and my family pay support though the state or her never officially demanded it. In forms of Money Orders and such but what are my options?

2007-12-12 08:58:58 · 2 answers · asked by Bill H 1

Okay. First of all, my life is not doing to well right now. Everything seems to be happening all at once.

I have 2 younger brothers & 1 younger sister. My sister will be 6 Feb 1. She is my life. I love this little girl soo much. Well, she & my 2 brothers are not my bio. moms but, my bio. dads w/ another woman. They live with this other woman, Stacey. My dad & Stacey are now divorced. They live 5 years away from me. My dad is no longer able to see the kids due to his touching my sister just like he did me when I was younger. My dad has also scared my brothers where none of the kids want to see them. I got to talk to my little sister last night and she told me she was writing me a letter. She told me it said "I *heart* you. I love my family. I love my sissy" It hurts me so bad that I can't be there for them. I know what my sister is going through. This made me break into tears. This is SO hard for me. I have no way to get where they are until the spring time or so..

2007-12-12 08:54:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't drive.A while back I had a Dr. appt that my hubby couldn't take me to so I asked my mom.She doesn't have a car so we used my hubbys.It was raining really hard and she was nervous so I told her 2 or 3 times go back I'll reschedual,but she said she was ok. So we come to a low water crossing.She said we'd be ok,but the car stalled in the water. She then tried several times to start it under water.Shes always been around cars so she should know better,but anyway it blew my engine.There was no way we could fix it.I had $1000 in the bank to pay for my husbands R.E. license.I had to buy a new car with the money,which left me with no way to pay for his school.I feel if my kid were in this situation I would help out even if it wasn't my fault,but my mom gave me $250 and said that was more than enough.She feels that she was doing me a favor and its not her fault.My husband feels she is the liscenced driver so shes responsible.I really don't know.Who do you think is right and why? Thanks

2007-12-12 08:46:09 · 12 answers · asked by melissa f 3

My MIL and I DO NOT GET ALONG! So its the same old story, but the children keep asking about her(and my sister in law). My MIL will only accept the children AND her son if I am TOTALLY out of the picture. She is manipulative, controlling, verbally abusive and one-sided. She "has the right to say whatever she feels" including comments about my deceased parents. What is the right thing to do?

The children have contacted her in the past(including while hospitalized-not her but our Diabetic 11 year old). She did not even bother to send an e-card or call his cell phone? What kind of Grandmother and Aunt are these people. They go around telling everyone that "they care so much....it's all HER fault that SHE tainted the children's minds against us".

We have gone over board to "suit" THEIR needs(MIL&SIL)but the blame is always dropped into our laps. The inlaws do not go "out of their way" for anyone except themselves. I refuse to allow their mental, emotional and verbal persist.

2007-12-12 08:45:42 · 11 answers · asked by wlknwtr 2

2007-12-12 08:19:29 · 49 answers · asked by mamajan 1

Alot of my family members were shocked that I did not cry at my grandmothers Funeral . I really loved my Grandmother . At the Funeral I tried to think of something sad to help me start crying . And that did not work . Am I a bad person

2007-12-12 08:04:30 · 11 answers · asked by llgii i 1

Down my corridor there is a flat with a young mum probably about 27 she has a 9 year old, earlier i was sitting on my balcony & i could hear crying i looked over the edged to her balcony & she was crying, i took her a mug of coffee & she told me about how last night her daughter has these tantrums, The mother had just found out her daughters father had stopped paying money into the benefit account, also she was facing redundancy and all her daughter could think about was christmas cards, she is quite a small woman &she said her daughter stood up and pulled a hissy fit, & the poor mother had asked her to do it tomorrow the daughter said no & the mother lashed out slapping her child. I was shocked to hear this becuase i have only known her for a short while but i know they love each other dearly & they always are best friends, she is just worried because she thinks it Child abuse but if it's just that once & even if it's happened before she's not really really hurt, is it Child abuse? x

2007-12-12 07:04:11 · 4 answers · asked by Love_Me_Jaffa_X_O_X 2

I was at my fiancé’s birthday party this last weekend and his whole family and friend were over for dinner and cake. Usually when his family comes over, his sister in law (brother’s wife) comes over and they have three girls, 14, 6, and 18 month.

When my fiancé’s brother and wife are over, they never watch the 18 month who gets into everything. Usually my fiancé, I, or my future mother in law is watching her, making sure she doesn’t climb up the stairs, get into the cupboards etc. while her parents are relaxing and drinking beer. My future mother in law watches the 6 year old and the 18 month for free during the week. I decided to try and not watch the child one time when they were over, and no one else was there that would watch her and she got all the way to the second story, because her mother wasn’t watching her. And whenever her mom and I are in the same room, she would rather come to me because I play with her instead of watching TV and drinking beer while the baby gets into everything. I don’t yell at the baby like her mother does and I don’t spank her like her mother does (which is dumb because an 18 month old doesn’t understand). The baby hasn’t had her shots which she can get from a clinic for little to no money, but they would rather buy beer (they go through a couple cases a week for two of them).

Now all of this being said, I was watching the baby and playing with her, and we were surrounding the table with snacks. Everyone in the family has given her salsa or chili before, so I though I would let her try it because I was eating it and she wanted some. She tried a tiny bit and liked it and wanted more, so I gave her a little more (about the size of my pinky nail). She started to turn red, so I went to get her a bottle with milk…no big deal right? I took care of it and I wasn’t going to do it again. He mom freaked out and started saying thinks like “well I don’t give chili to a baby”, “you’re trying to kill my child”, “she’s going to be in pain when she poops is out later” etc. I wanted to yell at her, but I have enough respect to keep my mouth quiet when company is over…but she just keeps going on.

I understand why she was upset, but she didn’t let it go for the rest of the night. I would have been upset, but I would have let it go and not make the person who takes care of my child while I’m having a good time feel uncomfortable.

If you were that child’s mother how would you have reacted?

And do you think the mother is being ridiculous or me?

2007-12-12 07:03:27 · 7 answers · asked by tightest embrace 0:) 5

OK last time I simply asked her not to do it again after I told her what I saw. 2 weeks later I walk once more into the living room coming home from school, and she is naked on the sofa RECORDING herself having sex. Im 14 she is 16. Our parents are very strict about not having sex until we are married. The deal is my mom was gone on a business trip, and my dad was visiting a friend in the hospital. So its not like they just don't care or anything. I was supposed to be going to a friends house to play but she was sick and called me up to tell me not to come over. I don't know what is wrong with her. What should I do this time? Should I now tell my parents? Oh yeah, and it waasn't even the same guy. She sickens me.

2007-12-12 06:17:03 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

This has been an issue for four years or more now...who is going to have Christmas on my side of the family. My sister has two kids and then there's her husband and my Mom. My Mom resides in a nursing home and is counting on one of us to have her over during the holidays. I'm planning on having her over Christmas Day and I'll cook a nice meal for her. This has got my sister really upset; however, she'll be having my Mom over the Sunday before and my husband, daughter, and I haven't been invited...probably due to smoke. I refuse to go to my sister's house since two CHAIN smokers live there. I crammed everyone into my apartment four years ago, cooked a big meal, and didn't even get one thank you. Last year, I did the same (again no thank you) and everyone dashed out the door after eating nearly all my food and opening gifts....they were only here an hour and a half and I had to let my Mother and brother-in-law back into the building (security locked) six times during that time so they

2007-12-12 06:03:04 · 2 answers · asked by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6

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2007-12-12 03:43:44 · 12 answers · asked by AMBER 1

racism

2007-12-12 03:37:21 · 6 answers · asked by Jeanna N 1

why do you think your parents are bad?

2007-12-12 03:14:36 · 11 answers · asked by Cheonsa 4

When I say what my plans are(driving somewhere, buying something, changing something) he responds with "are you sure?". Even when I say 'yes', he goes on to describe a litany of things of why my plan is wrong or things I "missed". He becomes agitated if I try to explain that's not why I said it or I already thought it through. He won't stop and raises his voice to continue. He says I don't know what I'm talking about.

This frustrating mood change happens quickly and out of nowhere.

Sometimes I hear him out. Inevitably he mentions something that ticks me off but responding only makes the situation worse. He does this with my mother and sibling, too. He will take pot-shots at my mother when others are around as well.

What is going on here?!

2007-12-12 03:11:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

a few months ago we found out that my brothers 20yr old daughter has cancer after doctors have been telling her for almost a year that she's just fine. now we find out that she's in the last stages of cancer and we have until this weekend to say goodbye. how does one say goodbye by this weekend its also my daughters birthday this weekend. please know that this is no joke, most of our family is in denial but i can't hide from reality. i feel like i inhaled now i'm waiting to exhale but i'm so scared of the out come of my feelings if i exhale

2007-12-12 03:04:09 · 4 answers · asked by maxiroots 1

im nineteen [ill be twenty in a few months] and a junior in college. a couple of years ago i went out on new years but i had to be home before midnight so i could see the ball drop and "ring in the new year with the family". last year my parents told me i couldnt go out because we were having a party at my house [it was my parents, grandparents and some aunts and uncles] with the promise that i could go out this new years. i spent last new years in my room listening to music and watching law & order because i was so pissed.
now onto this year. before i even asked, my dad said that im staying home. when i reminded him of last year he responded "do you have it in writing?" understandably, im heated. they claim its a "family holiday", i think its just another day. im allowed to stay out late any other day so its not a curfew issue. how can i convince my parents to let me go out on new years?

2007-12-12 02:52:58 · 7 answers · asked by everyones.aletdown 3

I met my baby's daddy/husband (my actual 1st) 2 years ago playing in a coed softball tournament. I moved in with him really fast, got pregnant, and got married. I'm 22 & he's 32 but whatever. The thing is, 4 months being with him, he never told me he had kids and I discovered that when I moved in and by that time I was pg, so I was in a bind. Right now this whole experience has made me very mature & I'm used to having somewhat of a perfect life with my own parents & siblings, that that's how I want my own family to be. Just me, my husband & OUR OWN kids. I have no room in my heart for his 2 older sons who seem they would be better off with their mother as she's very wealthy but no room in her bank account to want them either. I fel bad & my mom says I entered this relationship being an instant mom to his sons and that's a consequence I have 2 deal with. Am I just being cruel or has any1 in this world ever felt the way I feel? My family accepts his kids but why can't I? trying 2 cope!

2007-12-12 02:41:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

In my dream my daughter of 22 was dead and I was walking naked among my family and strangers. So I went to buy clothes to cover my nudity and I went downtown and I saw a very thin girl waiting for the bus and I tried to take her dress off to put it on me but I am fat and wouldn`t fit. I got into a store and bought a green blouse for 10 bucks but did`nt put it on right away instead I went back home and my mother`s sister told me: " you went shopping even though your daughter is dead?" and I said..well I am naked. people told me: " your daughter lived just a little time" and I answered : " yes, because she was very mean to me and her father". And before my daughter died I was cooking a very strange food and people asked me to finish cooking it and so I did. In my dream I wanted to cry but I couldn`t. I though: oh I will miss her for...and then only bad memories came to my mind. Help me to understand my dream please. Thanks

2007-12-12 02:28:21 · 5 answers · asked by teacher_carmen 2

2007-12-12 01:59:42 · 12 answers · asked by jewelzr4eva 3

I have been married to my husband for 4 years. We've been together for 5. My daughter was an infant when we got together. He has been there for her since the day we got together. Her biologiacl father is a dead beat and has been in and out of her life since she was born. He calls her maybe once or twice a year, and he doesn't help me support her financially. My husband absolutely adores her and he has always referred to her as his daughter...and she has always called him daddy. He would do anything for her. He always makes sure she has everything she needs. He is a father to her in every sense of the word, except biologically. Do you think I should ask him if he would like to adopt her? If so, how? If not, what are your reasons? Afterall, he is daddy.

2007-12-12 01:57:01 · 8 answers · asked by Tristan Robert Due March 20 3

both my older and younger sister are model skinny and have perfect complexions and and hair that can be styled into whatever they want. i must admit i am not THAT skinny but all of my friends yell at me telling me i am NOT fat. but the problem is that my sisters are making fun of me and want nothing to do with me because of it. i am like tender-hearted and a bit insecure and it's driving me crazy to the point where i cry myself to sleep at night. what to do?

2007-12-12 01:55:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-12-12 01:34:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently overheard a short conversation with my mom and dad. My mom is worried about my future well-being, because she believes that Im somewhat slow mentally, and not as keen and too naive. I am not sure what bases she is judging me on, but she seems to always predict that I'll be at my full wisdom in my late middle ages. But I believe that Im certainly not mentally disabled, even if I'm not the most reactive and proactive person ever.
I admit that we dont have as close of a relationship as many other moms and daughters because she is always busy. But we still love each other. My mom and dad's relationship isn't that good, and she said that she stayed because of me. She would praise me for how talented and bright I am, but now it seems to be all on the surface.
She has hinted at that in conversations about my ideal future husband, and she believes that I want to marry my bf (which she doesnt approve of). I just turned 20 and I believe she still treats me like a child

2007-12-12 01:26:38 · 7 answers · asked by pdonyin-0 2

I have a family that seems to never call me until there is a holiday or an event that has me spending money. I got no call for Easter Thanksgiving or New Years. But the call came in when it was time for Graduation and Christmas. There is only one sister who remembers my Birthday. I am not going to there little party this year how should I tell them. Or do I just not send them any thing at all. You see I don't care any more.

2007-12-12 01:20:13 · 4 answers · asked by alrac042 3

She is very good person,beautiful and love me!!!!
I m very happy!!!!Very,very happy. :)

2007-12-12 00:42:16 · 14 answers · asked by V385 3

my routine and standard of living. when i get a job that requires my home phone as well as cell i put it but i have told her thousands of times not to answer the phone or to tell them i am not home to reach me on my cell. but no matter how many times i tell her she cannot let the phone just ring. she always comes to my room banging on the door and wakes me up. now i have to work nearly 12 hours because of this. how do i get her to understand? if i was living in my own home i would give the caller id one glance and either unplug it or roll over and go back to sleep. but once they ask u one the phone it's hard to talk your way out of it. my grandmother doesn't understand how employers like to take advantage of employes. how can i explain it to her so she won't answer their calls.

2007-12-12 00:21:20 · 4 answers · asked by cajunbaby 6