im nineteen [ill be twenty in a few months] and a junior in college. a couple of years ago i went out on new years but i had to be home before midnight so i could see the ball drop and "ring in the new year with the family". last year my parents told me i couldnt go out because we were having a party at my house [it was my parents, grandparents and some aunts and uncles] with the promise that i could go out this new years. i spent last new years in my room listening to music and watching law & order because i was so pissed.
now onto this year. before i even asked, my dad said that im staying home. when i reminded him of last year he responded "do you have it in writing?" understandably, im heated. they claim its a "family holiday", i think its just another day. im allowed to stay out late any other day so its not a curfew issue. how can i convince my parents to let me go out on new years?
2007-12-12 02:52:58 · 7 answers · asked by everyones.aletdown 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
for everyone telling me to move out, dont you think i would have done so by now if i had the money to?
my question had nothing to do with moving out or "maintaining my childhood". i was simply asking how can i convince my parents to let me go out on this one day that they seem to have a problem with. leaving my house without telling them will only lead to more problems. if i wanted advice on sneaking out, i would have asked for it.
2007-12-12 03:14:45 · update #1
the reason they do not want me to go is because they insist that it is a "family holiday."
2007-12-12 10:10:04 · update #2
Your dad is trying to hold onto something that is slipping through his fingers, your childhood.
You can do one of two things. You can invite all your friends to your parents party and celebrate at home. That's what mine did. Or you can tell your dad that you understand that its hard for him to see you as a woman who isn't a child any more, but you are and you are going to go out like anyone else on New Year Eve.
Frankly, its dangerous, ton's of booze related accidents and stupidness cause by booze. My daughters had a party every year in our home to make it safe for their friends, everyone stayed over(girls upstairs, boys downstairs).
I know parents are aggravating, believe me, I'm one, I know. But no one ever talks to parents about the transition from childhood to adulthood and it takes a kick in the head sometimes for a parent to realize that this is the grown woman that I raised and I am going to have to trust that I did a good enough job to let her go and make her own mistakes. Its really really hard. More than once my daughters have had to tell me to back off and let them figure it out. I don't take that personally.
Good luck with your dad, give him a break, he loves you more than life itself.
2007-12-12 03:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there might be another reason your parents don't want you to go out on new years. and that is drunk drivers. it may not be you drinking and driving, it may be another person that is that hits you. is there any way you can sit your parents down and talk to them about why they don't want you going out? and if it's for reasons i said then talk to them about going to a freinds house for a party and stay the night there so you won't be out on the road? or if there is a motel close by a party that you want to go to and walk and promise to call your parents when you get back to the motel and do it. talk to them to try and work out some kind of a deal so you can also enjoy bringing in the new year. i wish you luck
2007-12-12 03:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by yak4the88car 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 ur parents say im not a little kid yeah i know its a family holiday but u told me i could last year ur yes should mean yes if he still wont let u go and says u can go next year get it n writing that way next year he cant use that excuse
2007-12-12 03:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by katy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to ask your parents permission for ANYTHING if you are 19, regardless of whether you live with them or not. Of course they can kick you out, but that would be their choice. If you want to maintain childhood and allow yourself to be controlled in this way...whatever, I find it outrageous that you would even ask the question. If you want to be an adult, do what you want to do on New Year's and don't even concern yourself with their view's on the matter.
2007-12-12 02:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will have millions of New Years to go out once you move out of your parents' home. Spend one night out of the ENTIRE year with your family who loves you. Don't spend it like a spoiled brat in your room - go downstairs and socialize. Can't you give your family ONE NIGHT - especially if New Years doesn't mean anything to you?
In 20 years or 40 years - they will all be dead and you'll be kicking yourself in the butt for not spending time with them. You will miss them all.
Have a friend or bf come over and celebrate New Years with you and your family - that will ease your "pain".
2007-12-12 02:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dina K 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-09-05 09:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by feibusch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't....... move out and get your own place
2007-12-12 03:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋