Alot of my family members were shocked that I did not cry at my grandmothers Funeral . I really loved my Grandmother . At the Funeral I tried to think of something sad to help me start crying . And that did not work . Am I a bad person
2007-12-12 08:04:30 · 11 answers · asked by llgii i 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're not bad at all! You're just numb from this whole experience. Something like this is so hard to deal with - especially if you were really close to her. It's understandable that each one deals with their pain in different ways.
Some have delayed reactions and one day something or someone does or says something that triggers it and it all comes out.
One thing is let people know how you feel, meaning that let them know you are grieving in your own way and have them respect that. You'll be okay. Also, I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-12-12 08:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by Level424me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to cry to show your feelings, your love for your lost grandmother
some of us dont cry when facing really sad situations
besides
just b/c some of your family memebers cried at the funeral doesn't mean that they cared as much as you do
so dont worry
you aren't bad person
when it is time to let feelings out via tears, it will happen
2007-12-12 16:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all...I was close with my grandmother and didnt cry at all at her funeral...which people were staring at me...but I couldnt cry...my grandmother had so much pain and we talked months before and she said she was ready to go! She looked so peaceful in that casket..that it was not sad but a relief
2007-12-12 16:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by so alone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't a bad person, and they are being rude and mean to criticize you.
You were in shock.
This happens to a lot of people.
At some point, it will hit you, and then you'll feel it.
Try to explain to them that this went deeper than tears, and you all need to support each other at this sad time.
2007-12-12 19:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not a bad person.were u close to your grandmother? a friend of mine passed away in september and my great-aunt passed away last month and i didnt cry over either.
2007-12-12 16:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by feeling it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, and your family members can keep being shocked!
You will deal the way you deal. We all do it differently.
2007-12-12 16:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, people deal with things differently.
2007-12-12 16:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by mstuffyakim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it does not mean you are a bad person. it just means that you wanted to be strong for your family. well that is what i think.
2007-12-12 16:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by needsadvice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you handle your emotions in a different way. You know if your heart that you miss her, and she knows too.
2007-12-12 16:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by tightest embrace 0:) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, people have different ways of releasing pain..
2007-12-12 16:08:17 · answer #10 · answered by Me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋