Family - December 2007

They say they didn't know, but my father also threatened me recently that if I continue to tell people about it I will have him to answer too. It was my grandfather on my moms side and my uncle on my dads side. This whole situation has affected everyday of my life since I can remember....even drugs, which I am now sober.

2007-12-13 09:10:05 · 8 answers · asked by lady_billabong 2

Everything has to be perfect and if it isn't she doesn't consider just cleaning it up, she throws a fit. I'm going to her house for christmas with my new six week old baby girl and husband. How do i not step on her toes? I'm very careful and friendlly but it seems like she just sits around waiting for me to make a mistake.

2007-12-13 08:48:02 · 4 answers · asked by justkiddingu 2

help

2007-12-13 08:26:12 · 3 answers · asked by angel004 1

2007-12-13 08:16:58 · 41 answers · asked by pimp 2

theres a women who was found in a park nr me sunday night , shes a mum and wife and its uposetting for the family now and i think they will always now be the family who lost there mum in that way.

2007-12-13 08:11:40 · 14 answers · asked by starcp76 3

Understand that my birthday is on Friday, another cousin's (Jill) is on Sunday and my aunt's birthday is on Monday.

So plans made 2 months ago to go to dinner and a movie (all of us) on Friday night . My aunt and I go out of town for Saturday and Sunday (just us).

As of yesterday, cousin Mary (had her night out in October) says she has to attend her company Christmas party on Friday night. Her daughter is in a school play tonight. She wants to move the dinner to after the school play so that she can come (this means her parents pay for her dinner out). She called her sister who said they could not come if it was on a week night due to kid's tests in school the next day.

Then they decided to have another dinner out for Jill (who's birthday is Sunday) on Saturday night. This totally blows the weekend away out of the water. My aunt and I have wanted to do the weekend away for 2 years now.

Am I right to feel frustrated? What happened to MY birthday?

2007-12-13 08:05:03 · 10 answers · asked by msbettyboop40 4

I bought my thirteen year old cousin a PS2 a month ago as an incentive to having good behavior in school. (I bought it with my return check from college and when his mother got her taxes back next February, she would pay me back for it.)

The rules were:
1)His grades had to stay above an 85,
2)He could not get suspended,
3)His homework had to be completed every single night. I made absolutely certain that he understood these rules completely - more than once! - and he assured me that he did. If any of these things failed to happen, there would be consequences for his actions. For instance, with #1, he would lose the PS2 until his grades came up, #2, he would lose the PS2 for double the amount of time he was suspended for, and #3, he had to complete his homework before being able to play the PS2.

Recently, he was suspended twice from school as well as received an F in English / Language Arts. Both times I let the rules slide. They attended a hearing this morning for his school adm. to vote on whether or not he should attend Warlick ("an alternative school for troublemakers") due to his bad behavior.

I followed the rules I'd set and took his PS2 away until Friday since he was suspended for one day on Wednesday. But his mother refused to follow the rules b/c my cousin had cried at his Warlick hearing this morning! She refused to let me keep the PS2 until Friday because she felt sorry for Matthew and since she was “paying me back for the game system, then it was already hers and she could take it away and let him have it as she sees fit.” But she hasn't given me any money yet, therefore, it is technically still up to me, isn't it?

Matthew doesn't receive punishment for his actions and I am trying to enforce that around here to the best of my ability. Is that wrong? I mean I know I am not his mother but his mother isn't one either! Every time Matthew does something that he knows he shouldn't do and something that he knows is wrong and will get him into trouble, she makes excuses for him and goes blind the faults he makes. I know that no one is perfect but when I was growing up I was punished for the things that I did wrong. Shouldn't he be as well? I live with them and I am here all day everyday – no job yet (help!), recently finished school – and Matthew has no chores, he watches television (satellite/Direct TV), plays on his Gamecube and PS2 for hours at a time, plays on the Internet for hours at a time, goes out and rides his bike without telling anyone where he is going, when he leaves, or when he'll be back. His room is a filthy disgusting mess, he refuses to clean up after or even feed his dogs, and pitches the fit and temper tantrum when we ask him at least take out the trash! It's ridiculous!

Am I being to hard on him for taking the PS2 away, even though his mother made me return it to him? Am I really acting way too much like his mother instead of his cousin? Was I right to stick by my word and take it in the first place, if only just to prove that I was serious about the punishment?

2007-12-13 08:04:37 · 7 answers · asked by Shelly 3

thought of stopping and giving her 5 bucks, she was obvioulsy pregnant, but then I thought what is she is a drug addict? I wouldn't want to help support that. what should I have done? This is a small town and I have never seen anything like that here.

2007-12-13 07:21:47 · 52 answers · asked by amayamom1996 3

i HAVE to get her a christmas gift. she is so ungrateful & hates everything. what is cheap? she deserves nothing but i can't give her coal. i would start world war 3

2007-12-13 07:06:51 · 38 answers · asked by Mandy 1

My sister is thinking of abortion what should I tell her?

2007-12-13 07:03:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband recently told me that he thinks my little brother might be using cocaine. He said the past few days he's seen him, he's been acting pretty weird and that he sweats a lot and it's not even hot. Is that a sign that someone is using cocaine? sweating? Then I was at my mom's house yesterday and she said it was weird that my little brother, well actually he's 17 but he's still my lil brother, that he went straight to sleep, he's usually hungry like a wolf when he gets home. I know that stuff keeps you up all night. I hope this isn't true, my parents are already stressing with my other brother, they don't need more woes, so i'm kinda of hesitant to mention it to my mom. What are the signs?

2007-12-13 06:57:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have myspace. my dad doesnt know, but just a while ago, my stepmom told me that she knows i have myspace and that she has people that are spying on me from everywhere i go. they are in Virginia while im in South carolina. the reason is because im bi but it doesnt mean that they dont trust me. i feel really uncomfroatble becaus ei cant really talk to anyone becaus ethey are sping on me and i dont know why and how

2007-12-13 06:52:13 · 9 answers · asked by junior1592 1

Ok my finace and I work for his parents irrigation shop. My finance is a tech and has been her for 13 years. He works 6 days a week somtimes 10 hours a day. His dad wont hire anyone else so its just him and his dad. They had over 155 clients. My fiance is only making 1771.17 a month. We think that his parents are taking advantage of him and they are not giving him what he is owed. He doesn't get medical insurance. He has had 2 weeks vacation in 13 years. And his dad is giving him an extra 400 because of summer rush but his mom keeps threating to take it away. Im so irritated with this but I can't say anything because I don't want to make confrontation. Help any advice???

2007-12-13 06:48:22 · 6 answers · asked by Erica B 1

I'm a seventeen year old that is in love with a guy older than me, one of my great good friends she is called my wife because i'm bi and she's straight its a little joke me and her have. She doesn't want me to runaway she wants me to stay but its hard not to cry if i do go and when i go...Help Me!!!

2007-12-13 06:46:38 · 13 answers · asked by Babygirl 1

I'm reading a book and the cousins get together as if it's normal, isn't that pretty wrong and incestuous?

2007-12-13 06:33:20 · 2 answers · asked by Its me! 2

My sister has mentioned she had a plan. It's very detailed but when confronted she says that I just push all the wrong buttons and she doesn't mean it.
She's mentioned it four times.
(I've waited five months and it's just getting worse)
My family thinks it just sisters fighting. She lives with me and my family (husband and two small children) and I told her that she has to see a professional or move out.
My family still just sees it as sisters fighting.
HELP

2007-12-13 06:30:43 · 11 answers · asked by Ruth Z 4

It,s been 3 months and he doesn,t seem to be taking me seriously, I need my money. He should be better off than I am. Help!!!

2007-12-13 06:26:48 · 8 answers · asked by susan 2

He is not working and he does not understand how important bills are and to handle business. We do not get along and he thinks that everyone is wrong but him and he will not accept blame for anything.

2007-12-13 05:59:21 · 9 answers · asked by Lynn 1

My oldest brother smokes weed as often as you'd smoke a cigarette, he's 22. He has gotten all of the side effects. when my mum goes out he orders me around, and when i say no he calls me these discusting names, you wouldn't even say it to a family member. He shouts so loud, and his eyes glare at me asif i'm dirt. He'd storm around the house saying he hates me. It gets to me so much, i'm a 14 year old and i am already stressed about another incident that has recently happend. I've had my brother on my back since i was 12, it is always when everyone is out, and he's been close to hitting me as hard as he hits the walls before, but i got away. Is this ever going to stop?

2007-12-13 05:51:36 · 33 answers · asked by lalalalala 1

i am in tenth grade and i am pretty sure its a neccesity
everyone i know has one (not that that really matters)
who do you think is right and why

2007-12-13 05:34:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband's grandmother gave out quite a bit of money this year for Christmas. My husband's check ended up being for $12,000. His mom has the check in her possession, and will not give it to my husband. The check is made out from my husband's grandmother to him. His mother took him to the bank and tried to get him to sign the check over to her. She told him that she was going to put all $12,000 in a savings account in her name so he couldn't have access, and said that he couldn't have any of it. My husband refused to sign the check obviously, but she still has it. My husband and I are both deploying to Iraq in 2 days. She is mad that he didn't finish college this semester, and that's her reasoning to try to take the money. Some of the money could be used right now so we don't have to worry about paying bills online while deployed. She is a lawyer and a judge, but my husband and I are curious. Is it legal for her to hold a personal check from my husband's grandmother to him?

2007-12-13 05:04:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

this is my first christmas married.my hubbys mom and stepdad have invited themselves to stay with us.normally we would be happy BUTthe problem is that we live in a 2 bedroom home our son is 7.so if they did stay we would have to sleep on the bottom of my son bunkbed & he would sleep on top (its a twin).im not trying to be rude or selfish but we really just want our son to run in our room christmas morn. and be excited and wake us up...(also they always wake up a little later & want us to wait)what 7 tr old boy wants to wait around christmas morn?any ideas on telling them they cant stay without hurting their feelings or sounding rude?

2007-12-13 04:14:41 · 18 answers · asked by lisa l 2

I am 28 years old, my birthday is tomorrow and I am newly engaged. This will be my first birthday to celebrate with my fiancé, but my parents want me to spend it with them by going out to dinner – without him. I asked if maybe we could celevrate sometime this weekend like we have done several years in the past (I have rarely spent my actaul birthday with them) but they claim they are too busy and have made plans with a young woman that my dad works with.

They have treated this girl like she is their daughter, even before I started dating my fiancé. They invite her to family events and ask her to do things with/for them that they used to do with me.

It really frustrates me that they want to spend time with me only on their terms claiming they had made plans with this other girl a long time in advance and tomorrow night is the only time they have for me. I really wanted a romantic evening with my fiancé, or at least to thave him have dinner with all of us, but they want nothing of it.

2007-12-13 03:47:41 · 11 answers · asked by Texarican 2

Every morning It takes 10 mins just to wake up my 8yr old to wake up for school. Shes such a heavy sleeper and sometimes I really think she hears me waking her up but she just goes back to sleep and just ignores me. She can even sleep through her alarm clock sounding off for minutes! I know it takes patiences to be a mother but EvERY SINGLE MORNING we have to go through this. It makes me mad some days because this is a routine and I feel she should wake up on her own after i wake her up after a few shakes and scholls to wake up.....Any ideas?

2007-12-13 03:35:09 · 8 answers · asked by sexyexotik 3

What do you all do with an OBNOXIOUS family member ?
Besides trying to ignore her?

2007-12-13 03:10:37 · 14 answers · asked by jalady 6

i met a boy in net since 6 months he proposed me i don't like love but not to hurt him i accepted his love he says that to wait 3 years to compete his studies & my studies and he should get a job to ask my father our caste & native place is same he gave me promise on his mother he will take care of me still his last breath but I love my parents much I can’t go against to them when i use to talk with him i feel that i am cheating my parents to check his character i talked with him through another id much vulgarly he didn't talked with me in that id & lastly he came to known that id is mine and he didnt said any thing even he didn't became serious on me Instead of that he felt happy that just to known about him i had taken great risk for that he felt happy ok i like him but mind says something and my heart says something what should u do if your in my place .

2007-12-13 03:05:12 · 3 answers · asked by harini H 1

Hi,

Is there anything that I could do to try to mend the relationship between my bf and my family.

Here are the facts:
When I was pregnant my bf dumped me and when he tried to get back with me my family (mom and sister) would not let him near me. Out of stupidity and bad advise I terminated my pregnancy. When my bf found out he got really upset at me and my family (mother and sister) but we got back together without my family knowing. Two weeks after we got back together when he was drunk he hit me for doing what I did and I had to tell my father. My father got very disappointment in me and but has been understanding.

Now that we want to try to work it out again I don't know what to do to keep both my family and him happy. I don't know how to approach my parents about me trying to get back with him.

Is there a right way to try to fix this? How long after all this should I wait to approach my parents?

Thanks for your help.

2007-12-13 02:58:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

will you pray for me? My mother died unexpectedly on Nov. 2, 2007, and EXACTLY 30 days later, on Dec. 2, 2007, my brother was killed in an automobile accident. I have never felt such grief in my entire life. We called each other every day; now my phone is silent. When it does ring, I run to it, and then remember that it's not them calling. I have the most wonderful husband in all the world but he can't dry this river of tears. I miss my mother and brother so much, will you please say a prayer or offer me a kind word of comfort? Thank you so much.

2007-12-13 02:57:18 · 21 answers · asked by Laredo 7

Not to be mean or anything but I hate going to my husband's son's basketball games. I'm a basketball player since I was like 5. So I know what a good player vs sluggish player is. His son is not good. He's 6'1", 13 years old, and very unstable with basketball. My husband and I like to travel along side his parents to the games but by the time I get there I regret going, I get BORED! There was a time I told my hubby I didn't want to go (playing sick) and he called his parents and told them he COULDN'T go because I refused to go. That baby! I was upset that he told his parents that, so I forced myself to go. I hate to lie by being nice and pretend that I support his son but really I don't. His youngest plays better. If I tell my husband what I really think of the games, he'll probably run to his parents with the dramatic news. I like his parents a lot too, they're cool. I don't want them thinking I don't like their grandson. 1 thing I hate is when they boast so much about him. Ugh...

2007-12-13 02:43:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have not seen them since July and last night grandma called me and told me about the party but i already have plans to go to a christmas party. . If i go i will see the fam but i will see my dad and we don't speak so that will be funny.
I told mom i am 18 and if i make the wrong choice then that is my problem.

2007-12-13 01:20:10 · 17 answers · asked by carolinagirl 2