this is my first christmas married.my hubbys mom and stepdad have invited themselves to stay with us.normally we would be happy BUTthe problem is that we live in a 2 bedroom home our son is 7.so if they did stay we would have to sleep on the bottom of my son bunkbed & he would sleep on top (its a twin).im not trying to be rude or selfish but we really just want our son to run in our room christmas morn. and be excited and wake us up...(also they always wake up a little later & want us to wait)what 7 tr old boy wants to wait around christmas morn?any ideas on telling them they cant stay without hurting their feelings or sounding rude?
2007-12-13 04:14:41 · 18 answers · asked by lisa l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
his moms sis lives 1 mile away but they dont want to stay there
2007-12-13 04:15:24 · update #1
You will have to be honest with them and ask them to either get up with the rest of you to see your son open presents or miss out on that part. You could offer to have your son wait to open the ones from them until they wake up. It does not solve the sleeping arrangements though.
2007-12-13 04:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they invited themselves I'd inform them of the sleeping arrangements: you will NOT be giving up your bed and comfort for them and they will be on the couch or floor in the livingroom- tell them to be prepared for an early morning wake up since it IS Christmas. If they object, tell them that you are unable to sleep comfortably in your son's room and that it's YOUR bed. You'd love for them to come, but the sleeping arrangement will be less than ideal. Get a blow-up mattress for the floor if they insist on coming or recommend a nearby hotel.
Blessings to you.
PS. Hold your ground now or you'll have years of regret and imposition ahead!!
2007-12-13 05:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by phoenix4404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let them stay. This is what makes wonderful memories for your son. Having grandparents over is so special for the children and they don't sound like bad people. What's more important? Your son hopefully running in your bedroom Christmas morning, or his relationship and experiences with his grandparents. I think you might want to take a priorty check on this. Make the memories. It will mean the world later.
2007-12-13 04:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do that have to spend the night? They can't just come over during the day and spend Christmas day with your family?
I would tell them at the moment there really isn't enough room for them to spend the night and perhaps they could rent a hotel room nearby. Ask your husband for support on this one.
2007-12-13 04:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kris W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invest in one of those nice blow-up beds ...the one with the frame. You will get oodles of usage out of it in the future including camping and your travels to relatives homes as well. They also might have one. That way you two can stay in your haven and grandma and grandpa can sleep soundly..so soundly they missed who put those gifts unter the tree ; )
It might be nice to have his mom around as moms tend to help out getting breakfast or brunch moving after the festivities. I'd plan your breakfast menu out and ask for her assistance while the guys get all the wrapping paper and bows cleaned up.
2007-12-13 05:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to tell them whats up go stay down the road if they want to see thier grandson on Christmas morning to come down when they get up. Dont let them destroy your 7 year old Christmas.
2007-12-13 04:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Chad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down and tell them NO. Your son is not waiting for them, as all children want to open their gifts as soon as they wake up and you and your husband are not being subjected to sleeping in a bunk bed. If they get hurt, they're not understanding people at all and do not worry yourself over it.
2007-12-13 04:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not check them into the local Travelodge. (get them to pay on arrival, but you can book with a creditcard or online) You may still get a supersaver room for about £19 or £26. They might also appreciate the space to themselves too!
2007-12-13 04:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. They invited themselves. This is going to set the standard. Talk with your husband seriously. He needs to get that his parents are only welcome by INVITATION only. Tell him ( not you) to tell them that that wont work this year. Say you can help them find a motel but it wont work at your house. Do not go into further details since they sound like people who will argue back saying 'oh we will sleep on the floor' or something. You need to guard your privacy or your marriage will fail.
2007-12-13 05:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy way to deal with this-Just say, "Mom and Dad, you know that we don't have a lot of room at the house and we want your stay to be comfortable so we went ahead and booked you a room at the Holiday Inn."
Make it about *their* convenience and don't budge when they refuse. Just smile sweetly and say, "Oh no, we insist. We want you to be comfortable."
2007-12-13 04:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋