Understand that my birthday is on Friday, another cousin's (Jill) is on Sunday and my aunt's birthday is on Monday.
So plans made 2 months ago to go to dinner and a movie (all of us) on Friday night . My aunt and I go out of town for Saturday and Sunday (just us).
As of yesterday, cousin Mary (had her night out in October) says she has to attend her company Christmas party on Friday night. Her daughter is in a school play tonight. She wants to move the dinner to after the school play so that she can come (this means her parents pay for her dinner out). She called her sister who said they could not come if it was on a week night due to kid's tests in school the next day.
Then they decided to have another dinner out for Jill (who's birthday is Sunday) on Saturday night. This totally blows the weekend away out of the water. My aunt and I have wanted to do the weekend away for 2 years now.
Am I right to feel frustrated? What happened to MY birthday?
2007-12-13 08:05:03 · 10 answers · asked by msbettyboop40 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would not be upset if Mary did not come. She misses out on lots of family things but she always wants her parents to foot the bill when it comes to eating out. I am ok with keeping it on Friday night if that means my other cousin and her family can attend as planned.
I just feel that we are all changing to suit her as usual. This isn't the first time this has happened. It happened a couple of Christmas' ago when she changed the time we all got together the day of Christmas and some could not come during the new time slot.
2007-12-13 08:15:03 · update #1
"Sorry Mary but plans have been made for some time now. It is unfortunate you will not be able to attend, we'll miss you." Then keep your plans.
I'd be miffed as well, it's not even her birthday but she wants to everyone to switch things around to accomadate her. Who does she think she is? If I've got it straight you, her parents, her sister, your cousin Jill and your Aunt are all expected to change long standing plans, including your weekend away? Not on my watch. That is just plain narcissism.
2007-12-13 08:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Choqs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have the right to feel frustrated but just remember, your birthday isn't only about you. If your famiy is working this hard to find a night that works for everyone, thats kind of flattering, is it not? I know that if my family worked that hard just so we could be together like that I would be excited. A comprimise might be in order.
Try talking and if it doesn't work, maybe you SHOULD just have it the day you planned and hope your cousin doesn't attend the christmas party, or joins you after or before and shows up late, or something. I just wouldn't ditch your aunt for the weekend away despite when you have your dinner party.
2007-12-13 08:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by allie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are totally right to feel frustrated. You made plans, everyone agreed, and one selfish person flipped those plans upside down. These are the people in life who only think of how things affect them and considerations for others are never made. Take my future mother-in-law for example... My fiancee & I bought her a cat for Chrismas one year. (Looking back, this was a bad idea, but regardless...) Her reaction was to leave the room crying and saying "How could you do this to me?" Never once did she ask why we thought a cat would be a good gift for her or politely say "Thanks, but no thanks." She then spent the rest of the day (where we were visiting other family) complaining to everyone what a terrible gift she got and asking why anybody would do this to her. (Not even noticing or caring that this would be rude.)
So, anyway, do what you want to do on your birthday. You've already made plans. Tell Mary that you've had these plans for months and while you would like her to attend, you're not willing to change the plans at this late date.
2007-12-13 08:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Pooty Pootwell 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to you cousin Mary about how this makes you feel and ask you aunt if you can still go out together.
2007-12-13 08:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by luv2tlk22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Idea but looks like Jill got what she wanted so sorry it blew your weekend.
Hope you have a nice birthday anyway
2007-12-13 08:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Irishman D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the plans over 2 months ago. Sorry about her luck. If she can't attend, then she can't attend. Wish her a happy birthday and continue on with your plans.
It is her problem, not yours. So don't make it your problem.
good luck and happy birthday.
2007-12-13 08:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by Fordman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your plans for your weekend away and tell Jill you made plans two months ago and can't change them last minute.
2007-12-13 08:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by txgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are right to feel frustrated you should tell your cousin your birthday is friday so tell her and maybe she forgot about yo which isnt right, or just move your birthday up to Friday or Saturday next week
2007-12-13 08:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want everyone to attend, you'll perhaps have to roll with the changes. if you want to feel slighted and miffed, then stick to your guns and see who shows up. it's impossible to make everyone happy. good luck
2007-12-13 08:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
msbettyb, Blow them off your birthday is your birthday !!!
2007-12-13 08:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋