Not to be mean or anything but I hate going to my husband's son's basketball games. I'm a basketball player since I was like 5. So I know what a good player vs sluggish player is. His son is not good. He's 6'1", 13 years old, and very unstable with basketball. My husband and I like to travel along side his parents to the games but by the time I get there I regret going, I get BORED! There was a time I told my hubby I didn't want to go (playing sick) and he called his parents and told them he COULDN'T go because I refused to go. That baby! I was upset that he told his parents that, so I forced myself to go. I hate to lie by being nice and pretend that I support his son but really I don't. His youngest plays better. If I tell my husband what I really think of the games, he'll probably run to his parents with the dramatic news. I like his parents a lot too, they're cool. I don't want them thinking I don't like their grandson. 1 thing I hate is when they boast so much about him. Ugh...
2007-12-13 02:43:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
as long as his son wants to play and is having fun why worry about it you should go just to be a support in his interests whether he is up to your standards or not on the playing field he is just a boy and regardless needs parents support and step parents support too he needs to know that now matter what you will support him even if you don't always agree i know that with my children regardless if they are good at what they do i always support them as long aas they are not hurting anyone including themselves
2007-12-13 02:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I have never heard such selfishness before! My children will always come first and if my husband ever acted the way you are (like a BABY, as you called him) he would be out on the curb with his things, thus freeing up more of my time to watch my son try and improve his basketball skills! Organized kids sports should never be about who is skilled and who isn't. They are about learning, physical exercise, getting on with peers and most importantly FUN! I'm sure if your husband and his parents knew how you really felt, they would be disgusted! And his son would be very hurt. When you marry someone with children, you are signing up for a whole package. Grow up, do whats right as a step parent, and just think of it this way....you must not be as good at basketball as you thought, or you would be in the WNBA right now!
2007-12-13 11:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize that you are competing with a 13yr old?
What kids do isn't supposed to be perfect, in fact I just went through the Christmas "gifts" my kids made in scouts and school and my god they are just awful. But I love them all the same, because my kids made them when they were little.
How do you expect a 13yr old to learn to play better? He has to keep trying and he's not supposed to be good at it. Think about him for a moment, he's 6 feet tall at 13? Just fitting into that body must be confusing and hard for him.
You married a man with children, and you have an obligation to be the best step mother you can be. This is what we sacrifice for the children in our lives, we let them grow and learn at their own pace, not ours.
You need to knock it off, and show some support. Before you lose your husband and his parents, cause I sure wouldn't want you around my kids.
2007-12-13 11:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would it hurt you to go to these games for a couple of hours, to make your husband and his son, happy? It is so much better to do something good for someone than to create negative actions because YOU don't like the way the game is being played.
I go to my grandsons hockey games, and I hate hockey. I clap I whistle, and the two boys loving having me there.
I choose to make people happy, instead of making them unhappy. Negativity is a choice. and you can choose that if you so desire, but positivity is a wonderful way to give to others. What you are saying is, this boy is no good at basketball and so you don';t enjoy the game. For goodness sake pretend to enjoy it, give somebody joy, instead of misery.
We make choices in this world, and I would rather choose to happy knowing that I am making somebody else happy, than to choose not to go to my grandsons game, be uptight and unhappy, and create the same feeling with all those around me.
There is a saying "I would rather be happy than right"
2007-12-13 11:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound selfish you cant even call your husbands kids your step kids you have all ready drawn the line in the sand you all so sound immature compering yourself to a 13 year old how old are you if you cant support the 13 year old do him a favor and stay at home because kids are smart he will see wright through you grow up
2007-12-13 11:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋