2007-12-13 08:16:58 · 41 answers · asked by pimp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is necessary. I am a mother of three and rules for my kids are set in place for good reason. For either their safety or teach them discipline or respect or even dignity. There are other many many reasons why we have to be firm and strict at times, but I can honestly say that my motive for this is for the sheer concern welfare and well being of my children
2007-12-13 08:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good parents are sometimes strict as without structure and rules children don't learn right from wrong. Children also do not have the maturity to make certain decisions and so it is the parents job to make those for them. This can appear to the child to be a parent being strict, but usually the decisions are made with good reason.
If it's a school night the strict parents have a curfew. What child is going to go to bed or study without a parent making sure they do so.
Being strict and making tough decisions and sticking to them is part of the job description when you sign up to be a parent. Many of those that have gone off the rails or ended up being bad people just had lousy parents!
Your really only a good parent if at times your kids think your mean.
2007-12-13 08:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are trying to keep you from making big mistakes. It is fine if you make some as long as you learn from them 9the mistakes). If you parents for some reason don't think that you will make an acceptable choice they might step in and even be strick if they have too. They would much rather that you disagree, or even dislike them for this dicision rather than having you hurt to the point that it could effect you for life (a police record) I know it is hard to believe but parents are usually smarter than they act. Who knows what lurks in their dark past, maybe they tried it themselves and learned the hard way. I am sure that you could start a conversation them asking why, and they would probably tell you. The one thing that is important on both sides is to be open and honest and really listen to what the other has to say.pp
2007-12-13 08:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i really dont know why my parents are strict...I am not strict..yet, since my little one is just 6 months...but I would be just to protect her since I do not want anything bad to happen to her.....If I understand this as being a 17-year-old mother...then I guess parents that are much more older will understand even more why being a strict parent helps
2007-12-13 08:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by pink_tinkerbell7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents are strict because it is a dangerous world out there full of vipers, users, (and folks who call themselves "pimps") who would seek to derail the plans of our children...getting an education, establishing a moral center, finding loving suitable mates, and becoming productive members of society...in favor of trying to get what they can get, then they bounce without trace like cockroaches when the lights come on.
So, being strict early on protects everyone: it protects their future, it protects the clowns I would otherwise have to kill defending my kids, and it protects me from experiencing prison time. See?
2007-12-13 08:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother myself, I would do anything it takes to keep my child out of trouble. Its just a parent thing when you have children you will understand. When I was younger and before I had my son I didnt understand why my parents wouldn't let me do this or go here or there but now I realize it was for my own good. Your parents prob want you to make more out of your life..and have the best of things. You will thank them when you are older.
2007-12-13 08:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by ~* Amber *~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents are strict because they try to protect their children. They've been there so they want to keep their children from making the same mistakes they did.
2007-12-13 08:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by smilegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they care.
Because they have lived longer than you and know the consequences and don't want to have to see you go through it.
Because they want you to be proud of yourself.
Because they don't want you to have more on your plate than you can handle.
I could go on, but I'll tell you this. You will never understand until you become a parent yourself. After I had my first child, shortly after getting home with her, I made an urgent phone call to my Mother to apologize for all the times I made her worry.
2007-12-13 08:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents attempt to set boundaries or rules to ensure that you are safe, or gain appropriate social skills or don't do something that will get you in trouble or make you look silly. For the most part they do this out of love, and ok sometimes they will get it wrong but no one shows you how to parent, its learnt as they go along.
2007-12-13 08:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All parents want to protect you from what they preceive as being determental to your health as their child. Whether that is physical, emotional and/or anything else. It is their sole job in life after having kids. It's instinctual!
But if you, "the child", are smart, you will invoke a high level of trust with your parents, so that the restrictions are not as heavy. Get my drift?
2007-12-13 08:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋