Talking about my sisters problem.?

Question

My sister is thinking of abortion what should I tell her?

Answer 1

Me personally I would never have an abortion, but it is a choice that is available. The only thing I can tell you would be to support your sisters decision no matter what it is. Either way she will need someone to support her. She should definitely talk to planned parenthood before she makes a final decision! If she cannot raise a child she could give the baby life and put it up for adoption. There are many good people that cannot have their own children!

Answer 2

I would tell her to think about it and make the decision that she is most comfortable with and the one that she can live with. Try to be supportive of whatever decision she makes; this is not an easy decision.

Parenting is a serious undertaking, one that takes up a lot of time and a lot of money...and she will no longer be able to come and go as she pleases...there's the baby to consider. Also, if she is still in a relationship, does the father of the baby plan to be involved with the child if she does decide against abortion? Pregnancy can have complications, and the child might be born with special needs that will require even more time and money.

I have known women who had abortions and felt guilt for years later, but on the other hand I have also seen women who caved into pressure to keep the pregnancy and continue to regret having kids at all. Abortion during the first trimester is relatively inexpensive ($300 on average) and can be done in a few minutes. There will be some discomfort, but this will go away in a couple of days. She will have to decide if her own personal/moral beliefs allow abortion as an option.

You might also want to refer her to Planned Parenthood, as they can help her out as well if she decides to go with abortion. There are other agencies listed in your phone book if she decides to keep the pregnancy or opts to adopt out.

Answer 3

This is such a difficult position to be in. I know . . . I was in it 26 years ago.

First of all, I think that rather than try to sway your sister one way or another you should just try as much as you can to be there for her. I don't know if you're like this, Michael, but a lot of men always want to fix things. But some things can't be fixed. Most woman appreciate being listened to without any judgments or opinions being offered. To my, that is the greatest gift you can give her right now.

I'll tell you what I did 26 years ago, and how I felt about it then and how I feel about now. It doesn't mean that your sister will make the same choice, or that she will feel the same way. Everyone's situation is different.

I chose to have an abortion. I felt somewhat pressured into it by my boyfriend who later became my husband who later became my ex-husband. I should have known the type of person he was way back then! He was quite adamant that he was not ready to get married or be a father. He couldn't believe that I actually wanted time to think about it - he thought there was nothing to think about.

I thought about how I would probably be alone in raising this child and I didn't feel ready for that. I thought about how this would probably end my relationship with my boyfriend and I didn't know if I wanted to do that. I thought about what my mother and other people would think.

And I chose to have an abortion.

My boyfriend didn't go with me, he had a family obligation that day. And then afterward he kept calling, wanting me to come over because the family was wondering where I was!!! Can you imagine? Again - how stupid was I?

I remember everything about the procedure but I won't go into graphic detail. I will just tell you that it haunts me to this day. It was so repulsive. And another thing that really bothered me was the other women there. Some of them were married, but it "just wasn't the right time". I couldn't believe it!!! I would have given anything to have been married and had this baby, but I felt that I couldn't. They were just doing this for convenience. And then there were the women doing this for the 2nd or 3rd or 4th time, as if it were nothing. Just like getting a tooth pulled. I was horrified.

And I did end up marrying this my boyfriend, and he turned out to be just as self-centered and selfish and insensitive as he had seemed to be back in 1981. I know now that if I had chosen our child instead of him, that it would have been a better choice. We had 2 children, a boy and a girl who are now 22 and 19. I can't look at them without thinking about their sibling who was never born. Would he or she have been like them? But, on the other hand, if I had chosen to have the first child and never married my ex-husband - then I wouldn't have the children that I have. And of course I wouldn't give them up for the world! So it's really hard to second guess your decisions from the past.

So that's my story. And I know that there are many other women out there who would tell you a different story, and theirs would be just as real and valid as mine.

So if you want to, you can tell your sister about me. But don't present it as a morality tale. It is just one person's experience.

When you are with her, listen more than you talk. Let her know that you love her and that you care about her . . . and that you will always love her no matter what decision she makes. Make sure she knows that you will always support her in whatever decision she makes.

I wish you and your sister the best.

Answer 4

Having an abortion always lessens your chances for having children later in life. Even though it doesn't happen to many women, you could be the one to miss out on your once in a life time chance to have your baby.

There are other options. You can give your baby up for adoption and give your child a chance at life.

If looked at at the religious aspect, God gave you the opportunity to have a baby for a reason, you should not throw that chance away.

Answer 5

Hello
How old is your sister? I ask this question because it plays a huge role in how the solution can be derived. No matter how old she is she will want to feel that she is making her own decision and she should (afterall it's her body... and whatever decision she makes she will have to live with for the rest of her life.

Let her know how it would affect others that she cares about if she should decide to kill her unborn child. She probably is feeling a lot of things, let her know that you love and care for her and that she is not alone.

Hope this helps

Answer 6

Like alot off people on here i absolutely hate the word abortion,,,,they might as well say murder because that is what it is,,,suggest to her that she has the child,and if she feels the same,put the child up for adoption,there are plenty including me,who would love too have a child,tell her too stop and think what she is doing,,there is a life inside off her,,,,when the child does arrive she will see the miracle off giving birth too the most precious thing on earth,,,but please tell her to stop n think xxxxx

Answer 7

support her in having it. tell her how crappy she would feel if she did and all the wonderful things about having the baby. find gals that have had abortions that wish they never did and have them talk to her. Pray with her and pray for her. I will pray for you both be blessed

Answer 8

I don't think there is anything you can tell her the decision is hers to make, really just support her either way.

Answer 9

Yes tell her it is wrong.Nothing wrong with trying to stop her from murdering her unborn child.