When I say what my plans are(driving somewhere, buying something, changing something) he responds with "are you sure?". Even when I say 'yes', he goes on to describe a litany of things of why my plan is wrong or things I "missed". He becomes agitated if I try to explain that's not why I said it or I already thought it through. He won't stop and raises his voice to continue. He says I don't know what I'm talking about.
This frustrating mood change happens quickly and out of nowhere.
Sometimes I hear him out. Inevitably he mentions something that ticks me off but responding only makes the situation worse. He does this with my mother and sibling, too. He will take pot-shots at my mother when others are around as well.
What is going on here?!
2007-12-12 03:11:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him if he isn't paying for it then he shouldn't have an opinion. Otherwise, just stop telling him these things, it is really none of his business anyway.
2007-12-12 03:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Corey D. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your dad is feeling insecure about something. Usually men who are aging are feeling more and more useless and try to build themselves up this way. Take a look at your dad's situation and what is going on in his life and see if this isn't true. Its really hard on the male ego to be replaced by his young son or daughter.
Would it kill you to simply listen to him and thank him for his advice and then just do whatever you want to do? It doesn't have to be an argument, you could just stop competing with him to prove you are an adult.
2007-12-12 11:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you Dad is insecure with himself and uses his family to make himself feel more imporant/better. Has he recently gone through some major changes or has he always been this way?
2007-12-12 11:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by BlueFish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad is a control freak. Just don't divulge alot about your life when you visit.
2007-12-12 11:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people have the need to always 'be right'. Let him 'be right' and avoid the hassle.
2007-12-12 11:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Know It All 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is something new, you might want to talk to your mom about it, she might have more insight about it and can tell you what is going on.
2007-12-12 11:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to be your driver. And you be the back seat driver.
2007-12-12 11:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would just stop telling him my plans...then he cant criticize them.
2007-12-12 11:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by steentheween 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋