My sister read my emails?

Question

My sister and her husband came to stay with my husband and I for a few weeks, I am usually always signed in to my email. We left somewhere, when we came back, the computer was on, and when I looked through my "sent" folder, most of the message were marked "read", and I had not read them, nor my husband. Obviously, they must have read them, and probably my inbox ones too, I just can't tell because they were already marked read because I had read already them. So what should I do? I'm signing out until they leave, but should I say something? I would never snoop through someones things, I would even feel bad about opening someone's medicine cabinet or drawers in the bathroom ! (I know people who like to do that out of curiosity.

I use yahoo mail, and not all of the message were read (i.e. -messages to friends were read, e-bills were not). Yahoo mail does not automatically mark sent msgs "read"

Dale P - I agree a guest should be able to sign in to check e-mail, but its very simple to click "sign-out" and then sign in to your own email without reading someone else's.

Answer 1

Wow my sister-in-law used to do that but it was going through my letter mail. Well needless to say we don't see each other anymore she lives in another state. This is a polite thing if you get a funny joke and they are over at your house and you feel they did it again, tell her you wanted to show her this joke on the Internet and ask her if she heard it or saw it yet. Maybe it will stump her for a minute, then you can mention something like wow that was weird this e-mail is opened and I never read it, wonder how that happened. Maybe she will get the hint that you know something is up but don't have the heart to come out and accuse her of going through the emails. But yes that is very rude. Good luck

Answer 2

Your sister is a snoop and why did she have your password or why didnt you log out? Anyway let some time pass. Then call and ask if you can see her. ( Dont do on phone) Then apologize and say what you said here about how you feel sorry and would like her to know that you love her . MEANWHILE, you learned a very valuable lesson. Never write anything on paper or email that you wouldnt want printed on the front page of the newspaper!

Answer 3

If you are using Outlook, the mails are set as read by default. Its only the inbox that shows unread mail (unless you manually mark as unread). The only time sent mail is unread is if it is sent as an auto-reply (like out-of-office reply, but you create it specifically for a user)

If in doubt, set the auto computer lock to a few minutes.

Answer 4

well its a bit of a tough one because it is not written in stone that she did look through your emails. but on the other hand if the messages are marked as read then someone must have looked through them...i would say just leave your computer on again, pretend to go out then have a look through a window or something and see if anyone/she is looking through your e-mails, if she is looking through then you have the right to ask her about it, you could even have her arrested for breaking privacy but i dont think you would want to go that far

Answer 5

Change all passwors then remember to sign out whenever you have guests. I would tell sis that your computer is no longr to be used by anyone other than you and your husband, so she may want to get a laptop before her next visit. I doubt she will have the nerve to ask you "WHY?"

Answer 6

Let it go and remember to sign off your computer next time you have guests. You can also set up your screen saver to require a password.

If a guest wants to check their own email, they should be able to sign into their own account.

Answer 7

well,it won't hurt to ask,just ask in a non-judgmental manner.she's your sister,it won't be too difficult,right?just ask your sister when you're alone (not in front of her husband).but don't forget to say it's alright,it's really no bother,you just want to know if your messages were read by any of them.and tell them you hope it won't happen again.just the fact that they turned on your computer without your consent(considered a personal gadget,right?),they should have apologized to you.it's better to bring this up the day they're leaving,so it won't feel very awkward afterwards.

Answer 8

If you're using Outlook, all of the messages in your outbox are automatically marked 'Read' - It assumes that you read them whilst you were composing them...

I'd not confront anybody with anything just yet...

It's a good idea to close stuff down when you're not using it - Especially if you're paranoid and/or delusional

Answer 9

If your guests read your mail knowingly, it shows their bad manners.It shows their poor mentality. Just forget the hole episode. You need not fall as low as them. Now onwards keep your password unknown to them.

Answer 10

Maybe this is a bigger deal to you than it is to them.