2007-12-11 09:32:45 · 5 answers · asked by Vikki J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
From the way you phrase the question, I gather that you and the baby's Mum don't get along. Why not phone ahead, and ask her? You wouldn't want your grandson upset on his birthday by the two of you arguing on the doorstep would you? Don't do that to him. See if you two can't come to an arrangement before you go there. If you both really care for the boy, I am sure you can come up with something.
2007-12-11 09:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you've had some serious issue that has led to you not speaking. I would call or write her a letter. I would tell her even though you two aren't getting along you would still like for her to see your child. Regardless of the situation of the parents, if granny has been good to the child and not done anything to interfere in the parent/child relationship I think it's best to encourage a relationship between them. At least then the child can't blame you for granny not being around.
I'm actually going through this. MIL hates me and I've never been able to please her. We don't get along but I still encourage a relationship between her and our kids. When granny doesn't see them they know it is solely because of her and not their dad or me.
Try to talk to her in advance. You wouldn't want your child to be hurt if she slammed the door in your face. I wouldn't show up unannounced with kid in tow. Best of luck!
2007-12-11 19:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by MISS H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No... you need to call first. walking to the door unannounced is intrusive and just plain rude. my mother did this to me this morning and I did not appreciate it. we were still in our pjs and I was trying to fold laundry, the kids just had breakfast and everything was a mess. My husband just got out of the shower and was in his underwear. She feels it's her right to do this and no it isn't. We are estrange and it's going to stay that way. try other avenues, maybe meet in a public place.
2007-12-11 17:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Diana G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would try to call first, depending on the situation. If you can't call, then stopping by a few days before might be better, so that you don't get your feelings hurt if she says no.
2007-12-11 17:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ggirl99 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as long as there's no restraining order against you, you can try. however, that doesn't mean she'll let you
2007-12-11 18:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋