Family living with you? Please Answer!?

Question

Ok, This is going to be a bit long b/c there is alot to explain.

My little sister and her 2 yr old live with me and my husband and 3 kids. We gave a bedroom up for her and her son to have. (the biggest in the house)
My sister is working (as a stripper) she leaves this house everday @ about 1 or 2 pm and doesnt come home until 2-4am.
I have her son this whole time.
I do sleep till noon everyday and she wakes up with her son and my 3 yr old around 9 or so.
She does very little housework and contributes very little $$ to the house. She has asked me to set an amount for her to pay weekly for house and babysitting.
I hate to do this b/c it makes me feel like she is a boarder. But, she will not do anything otherwise. I also need help around the house, considering there are 7 of us in a 3 bedroom house.
Should I expect her to pay and help? or just let her pay and me do all the housework and childcare? I thought w/ us being family that it would be easy and set. But I was wrong.

Please be honest and tell me what you would do in my situation? If you have any further questions please ask. I ran out of room to type.

xxooo
Stace

Answer 1

I commend you for taking your sister and her son in, into your house that was already full but had more love to give. Your sister should pay room, board and babysitting fees. If you don't get her in the habit of being responsible in this regard she will be living off of you a nd your husband for a long time. Take the money, pay your bills, hell, do something nice for yourself, I am sure you could use it. Also, while not to be to harsh, start looking for some place for your sister to reside, she is obviously a grown woman, with a job and can afford to stand on her own two feet. You are a good sister, but don't be a crutch for your sister, just as you have responsibilities, she has responsibilities as well. In my world, I believe that grown ups should be treated as grown ups, unless some type of mental handicap prevents them from being one. Get your house back, you have your family to think of, not to shun your sister and nephew, but again you have your family who requires your energy and time. God Bless.

Answer 2

She should be helping you. If she asked you how much she should be paying tell her. It doesn't matter how you look by making her pay and do housework. In the end that money will help with the bills and the extra hand around the house will help u with time to yourself. Make a chart of chores and include everyone that can be included so it won't look like u are singling her out. she should understand where you are coming from u both are grown tell her how u feel.

Answer 3

News flash! She is a boarder. Work out how much it costs to feed the family, divide it up, do the same with bills and expenses, thats how much she should be paying for her room and board. As for the baby-sitting, as long as she is pulling her weight and doing her share so you get to sleep, you could just add a housework roster system for you all to follow, to even things out. I would probably add a time limit to the arrangement though. It would be a shame if it lead to a falling out because the situation went on too long.

Answer 4

She wants to be a boarder or a roommate, so let her be one. She should be paying 1/3 of the rent or mortgage amount, and 2/7 of everything else. Child care you can throw in for bargain rates, you will be lucky to collect the rest. But as a family, you must insist on at least that. Your husband and children deserve nothing less, and you deserve more!

Answer 5

I had the same situation too. I gave up my room for my cousin and her family. But it went well. I just talked to her and told her with all honesty that I also need her help on housework. Tell her to consider your house like her own home. Have a one-on-one talk with her. Make her understand that you need her also. Ask her on how she thinks she can contribute. Meet half-way. Understand her situation. Then she should understand your feelings as well. Express all your thoughts with all honesty and sincerity. Good luck!

Answer 6

Sounds like a hint of "responsibility" has appeared, and you should be more than glad to accept! It will help your family (& hers ) with the EXTRA expenses!! Let her feel the blessing of accecepting the responsilities!! It will help her with self worth, and value her residence with you more!! Don't deny her this!! $100. a week would really be cheap to pay for room, board, and all other services for 2 people, hell, I mite even consider applying for a room there also!!

Answer 7

i'm specific you may stay without them on your existence, yet might you particularly prefer to resign in the finished family members which you have nicely-known all your existence. might you particularly be completely thrilled which contain your self understanding that your mothers and fathers might by no skill returned get to verify you. i don't be responsive to of any rationalization why every physique might even evaluate doing that in case you probably did not could desire to . particularly, I do basically not see any factor or purpose to do something alongside with that. definite, i be responsive to that the bible tells human beings to depart your mothers and fathers once you're taking a spouse/husband, yet that doesn't propose which you completely cut back them out of your existence. I do basically not see a stable reason to try this!! Your mothers and fathers would be long previous quickly sufficient out of your existence after which you will pass over them, while they die. have faith me you will pass over them and want that they might nonetheless be around. Even the shortcoming of a brother or sister may be unhappy. while they are long previous (lifeless) there is not any going to verify and talk with them returned, as that's unquestionably over.

Answer 8

This is what I would do, tell her to get out. First off, it dont work to have a family of 5 AND have live in family. For one, that gives you and your husband no privacy. Second if shes not helping you out, then she should be helping you clean ...who cares if she is paying to live there......that is pure laziness...I had a brother living with me and he worked but he didnt help out with anything and I dont ask for much...just help with the food. All he would do is come home and get on his playstation so I told him to pack his bags and get out. So in my opinion.....in your situation (I have a family of 5 too) I would ask for more help and if that doesnt work show her where the door is.

Answer 9

Its your house so you set the rules of whether you want her to pay, work, or both. Its not unreasonable to expect both. You could also help her set a goal of finding her own place.

Answer 10

That agood question... i would just give her the good life.. and take her money for working and funnest with the children,, you'll easy way with them too... just use your brain.. keep her for bring the money...heheheeh that will be fun