she isn't happy at all:
she thinks she looks really old & fat so for this christmas i want to get her something or do something for her that makes her happy & not so down on herself??
what could i do??
i was just thinking i would do something so cool that i would mabye make her cry??
is this possible?? lol.
2007-12-11 15:38:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
a happy cry or what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-11 16:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by steven d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes... materialistic things aren't always the answer.
I can relate a lot, my mom who is entering her early 30's has already started thinking she's some old fat hag. And truthfully... people at my school mistake her for me.
I think the problem can't just be resolved even if you did buy her a new outfit or some cool new earrings. It's like anorexic people's problems, they don't like themselves. It's something within their mind that only they can break through. The only solution to this problem is reminding her every so often how great her hair looks, maybe that you're jealous of something she's wearing or how her make up looks. Something that'll make her feel good about herself.
I would say that maybe you could buy her a card with a cute poem reminding her how much of a good looking person she is to you, and no matter how old, wrinkly, or fat she gets... you'll still love her. Maybe take her on a shopping spree, buy her perfume, shoes, get her hair dye, nail polish, take her out to a club or a place to just have fun. If you want maybe even sit down with your mom and ask her about her situation... if she feels comfortable enough ask if she'd like to go down to the store and get her treatments that help fight wrinkles and offer to start jogging with her.
Sometimes, we just need reassurance we're still beautiful in someone's eyes.
2007-12-11 16:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great question! Let me just tell you, that no matter what you do, the fact that you are putting this much effort into making your mom happy will totally pay off...this is so great:)
Anyway, maybe you could think of something she loves that she isn't able to do very often and take her there, or you could put together a little gift basket of things that you know will make her happy (things that are uniqe to her-not just those silly lotions lol!). You could also write her a poem...or just let her know how much you love having her as a mom. I don't know if these ideas helped, but I wish you the very best of luck!!!
2007-12-11 15:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH yes! But - speaking as a mother, our emotions are NOT your responsibility! We can go through menopause - have some depression or anxiety disorders or even just not be able to cope with daily life. No matter our reasons -the cause is NOT our children. Please do not take this on as your problem.
However, you can find a good gift - Find a really great picture of you two together - get it framed real nicely and give it to her with a nice note stating how much you appreciate her.
Give her a "gift certificate" made by you stating all you want is her company going to a mom-and-me movie. Let her know you want to spend time with her.
If she continues to put herself down, let her know how much you need her healthy and well. Encourage her to find a doctor to help so you two can continue to build a great relationship together.
2007-12-11 15:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a wonderful kid for any parent to have. These ideas that are already here are great!
I was going to suggest a scrapbook. Maybe pictures of her and you (and siblings, if you have any). Special times together, or things you remember specifically about her. Put the pictures in and write about the even and why you remember it. Write about what makes her special to you. It doesn't have to be a big scrapbook, just a small one with a few pages would do it.
Whatever you decide, I'm sure it will be awesome and she'll love it!
2007-12-11 16:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is the same...She is really upset with her body and the wrinkles of her face...Now I am taking her to gym or swimming pool whenever I go. Since then she has changed a lot
She also had a facial lifting which she is not satisfied with , So I don't think it is a good Idea to make your mom happy with paying for her liftings !
Once I did a special thing ! I took some photos from our family album , I scaned them and made a family book out of them...photos of mom and dad weding , baby photos of me and little brothers , photos from the first day to school and graduation photos and wrote some lines under them sayin how much we owe her and dady for things they did for us...and I put a nice card in the last page with the signature of all our family members ( my brothers, aunts and uncles ) confirming how much we owe them !!! Some of them had wrote some funny things like the Total Money me and my brothers had to give to our parents for the love they had given to us !! I gave this book to my parents in their anniversary ... I remember they both were crying while going through the pages !
Good Luck !
2007-12-11 16:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by mona_atraki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter gathered things like a band aid and a rubber band and all these little things.. She wrapped them up and each one had a little tag which explained why or how each one had helped her grow up ex: "This band aid represents all the times you soothed my pains with a hug and a kiss" I cried my eyes out for the thoughtfulness and sensitivity.
Another time she just wrote a poem using all the letters in my name. I cherish those kind of things.
You're a thoughtful daughter too, I bet!
2007-12-11 15:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be too late, but photography always does the trick. take a picture that you have of her, and take it to a photo shop. have them brush it up, turn it to black and white, and blow it up. get a really nice frame for it, and give it to her. she will think it's odd, and maybe not like it at first. THEN - write a letter to her. list the many beauties she holds - talk of her accomplishments and her characteristics that you respect and hope to have yourself someday. talk of what she teaches you, what she embodies. tell her how she is a beauty just because she IS a mother. Do it!!! :)
2007-12-11 15:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by ciao! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE HER SOMEWHERE SHE CAN HAVE FUN AND BE POSITIVE ABOUT LIFE. GET HER OUT OF THE CONFINES OF THE HOUSE AND DO WHATEVER, IT DOESNT HAVE TO COST AN ARM AND LEG JUST SOMETHING DIFFERENT FOR HER . GO SLEDDING, ICE SKATING, SKIING, SWIMMIMG, WALKING, PICNICKING, SHOPPING TOGETHER, GET HER A NICE DRESS AND SHOES, HAVE A SALON DO A SPECIAL HAIR STYLE, WE ALL NEED NEW INCENTIVES NOW AND THEN. LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAYS MAKE A POSITIVE OUT OF EVERYTHING AND ADD MORE POSITIVE .
2007-12-11 15:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a day at the spa. Facial, massage, pedicure and manicure. You sound like a good child. My wife just sais that they often have x-mas specials.
2007-12-11 15:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by inja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first quiet down. that's stable to care approximately your mothers and fathers. yet while every physique tells you to disobey Allah (i.e shaving the beard or stoping going to Masjid) then there is not any obedience to the guy. . So obey Allah.
2016-10-01 10:03:39 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋