If I provided more.....some feelings would be hurt...suffice it to say...I miss his advice
2007-12-12 19:59:11 · 13 answers · asked by Tammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just real quick...we are not sure if he was murdered or commited suicide...If that helps
2007-12-12 20:12:33 · update #1
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. Speaking for myself, you really never do. There's a hole in your life forever and a part of your past is gone. My only sibling, my sister, died 4 1/2 years ago and I still miss her all the time. I have no one to share memories of my childhood with and so forth. All you can do is take it a day at a time. Pray and try to accept God's will. It's hard and takes a long time
2007-12-12 20:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by Some Guy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"How do come to terms with the death of a sibling especially a brother" - well I can not give you an answer because I am still looking for one myself. My brother commit suicide it is now 3 years and still I can not accept what he had done. I miss him lot - I know it sound crazy but at night when I lay in my bed I speak to him and it let me feel better or I go and visit his grave. I did blame somebody but I let it go because I must go on with my life and if I do not forgive that person I will not go on.
It is a very sad situation not only for me but my parents as well - we are looking after his children 2 daughters. We don't even say his name - if we say his name we all have tears in our eyes. Yes my brothers advice and just being around him I miss it all.
I don't know what to say to you. But if you don't accept the fact he will never come back you will not come to terms with his death. Get one of your friends, family member or somebody to speak to - it will make you feel a little bit better.
Good luck and have the Lord by your side...
2007-12-12 21:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sonneblom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your added information, seems what you need is closure.
It can be hard to deal with a loss and be honest with yourself over the potential reason at the same time. People want to know ..Why? If his cause of death is truly a question, then it may help to eventually know what really happened. If it is not really a question, but simply hard to accept, then getting about the business of accepting what happened will be essential towards finally coming to terms with your loss.
It can be very difficult to accept that the person you went to for advice possibly could not resolve a problem of his own.
It can be equally as difficult to understand why someone would want to take a life and why it was him.
Those of us with no facts are in no position to judge. You are in a better position to know the truth and what you need to do to find closure in your own mind and heart.
2007-12-12 20:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it with others who are willing to listen and share some of your burden. Friends, clergy, counselors, etc. are also good resources. You could also join a support group of some sort. While everybody deals with grief differently, only through time and allowing your emotional self to heal will make things better. Sorry for your loss.
2007-12-12 20:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by B C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im very sorry.Death hurts like anything,it is horrible in anyones life.Losing family ones is a big pain.But this is life we have to move on,these are part of our life.I know how the pain hurts,but we cant do anything we are helpless.Losing bro or sis is very difficult and no one can bare that pain.
2007-12-12 20:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by Believe in yourself 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never going to go away, I lost my brother 20 years ago, and I still miss him terribly. The days get easier and life goes on, but there is always the void in your life of what you miss from them.
2007-12-12 21:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my brother too so I know what you are going through. It helped me to talk to people that didn't know my brother just to let them know what kind of person he was. It also helps to write exactly what you are feeling down in a journal. I'm really sorry for your loss and I hope you nothing but the best
2007-12-12 20:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by 1hotmama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time is the only thing. It took me years to accept my brother dying. He was my closest sibling, we did lots of things together, it was hard to adjust to life without him, but in time, it got easier to deal with
2007-12-12 20:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♠Mrs Reznor♠ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know someone in a simular situation i cant imagine i am so sorry
2007-12-12 20:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
very difficult. if any other sibs or even first cousins ask them to be with you for support. get grief counseling.
2007-12-12 20:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by Nora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋