I am so mad because I know someone has been pretending to be someone and they are supposed to be not like that and they like being deceptive and sneaky and not even get the whole picture before they decide to do this. I am so sick of it. Does anyone have any advice for me? I am so mad because me and this person are close and I can't say anything. I love her to death but she decideds to try to be sneaky and I can't take it. It's not sneakyness in real life too. It's throught the internet.
2007-12-12 13:15:14 · 8 answers · asked by no name 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not friends. This is in family for a reason!
2007-12-12 13:18:54 · update #1
Internet IS real life. So that does not lessen the blow, huh?
Maybe out of love, you should say something. We are admonished to do so often, from the Bible.
If you know someone is doing wrong & it bothers your conscience, approach that person with the info. Maybe a misunderstanding is all it amounts to. Maybe not.
But, if it is leading up to something very bad happening, you may be plagued by guilt, so step up & say something.
Then leave it in Jehovah's hands.
2007-12-13 07:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can see by your question and the way you flew through the sentences that you are very upset.
FIRST: Slow down, breath, get your thoughts clear, PRAY.
Try to look at the situation from both sides.
Why do you think she is being deceptive?
What does she stand to gain?
Is she lying to others or just to you?
How long have you been close?
Do you know her face to face or only over the internet?
2 dimensional relationships are not safe.
As humans, we pick up a lot by facial expressions, body language, eye contact... That is where most of us get the "gut" feeling about someone.
Next, ask yourself some hard questions.
Why is she so important to you?
What do you stand to lose to stay in a realtionship with her?
What is love without trust?
Why can't you confront her?
Is she spiritual? Is she a bible student?
Could she benefit by a calm, inquisitive confrontation by you?
Could she grow and be a better person in the long run if someone she trusts and cares about talks to her about her "problem"?
Do not go at her angry, loud, insulting or the likes. Things might be said that you both could regret later.
There is a reason for the lies. What are they?
You might explain to her that in our life time there are only a few people who touch us deeply. You have deep feelings for her and want to give her the benefit of the doubt so you are coming to her directly to find out why...
Maybe it is a misunderstanding or it sounds worse than it is.
My best wishes on this.
2007-12-12 21:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by I wanna be a fish 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ya know what... my advice to you is to expect these things to happen... i have been cheated on since i was 12 years old... my own father broke my heart and my trust. lol i pretty much just expect everyone to lie and sneek and use me for there benefit. its a protection for msyelf.. because when someone hurts me... i get upset but i still get over it and move on. stay strong and you'll be fine... some people are just out there for the drama and attention. the worst thing you can do.. is not give into it. make sure you stand up for how you feel around them and say whats on your mind.
if this girl did something sneeky and lied and you cant tell her... honestly it sounds like you did something sneeky too... but how you can deal with this?? if it bothers you that much.. just slowly pull away from this person.. sounds like you are close.. just stop calling her as much.. go with your gut.. how do you feel? do you want to hang out with her? call her.. if you dont.. dont. dont pretend to be something that you dont want to be.
i hope i helped you out!!!
2007-12-13 11:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kyrstin 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately sweetie, that's going to go on until this system ends. [liars] I'm sorry that you're going thru this right now...pray to Jehovah and He will direct you in what to do concerning this person.
Agape
2007-12-13 00:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by sugarbee 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are so close to this person why wouldn't you say something to her? tell her the whole picture then maybe she'll stop being sneeky.
2007-12-13 14:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember don't let the sun set with you in a provoked state.
2007-12-12 21:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you confronted this person? Maybe you should tell them how you feel...first calm down and get your mind settled.. say a prayer. :)
2007-12-12 22:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by I_B_WHO_I_IS 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need different friends
2007-12-12 21:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋