She always has something negative to say about everyone, even people she don't really know! She gripes that ee spend to much on our children all of the time, which I feel is none of her business! When she comes for a visit, I live out-of-state, she always has to go into my kids bedrooms and see what she can see, then when she goes home, she tells everyone that is ridilicous how much stuff we've bought for our children, and that they don't want for anything they don't already have, things like that. Drives me nuts! Why does she have to be like that? She tells everyone this stuff, even old friends of mine is she bumps into them, people I haven't seen in years!! She recently told my Aunt that my husband spoils me because he takes turns cooking with me, and that he helps me clean the house when I'm sick or don't feel like it, why is it any of her business? Ugh, she's like a mockingbird and I'm sick of her crap!
2007-12-12 18:56:44 · 7 answers · asked by Wutz it worth 2 ya? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother lost her job like 6 months ago and it was because of her need to constantly start crap with people, which is why she was fired. She cannot get alone with anybody! She even drives my Dad nuts! For the past 6 months, she does nothing! My parents are like 65 years old, my Dad is a very active man. She doesn't cook for him half of the time, she doesn't clean the house very well anymore. All she does anymore is read Fern Michaels books and watch the Young and the Restless, and start **** with everyone basically.
2007-12-12 19:02:07 · update #1
Genie, aha, I know. I tried to tell her that 3 weeks ago. She got pissed off and hung up on me when I told her I didn't appreciate her telling everyone my business, of course she denied it but I know she's doing it. The people have actually came back and told me and people I know. I haven't talked to her since. She wanted to be that childish, I'm not about to call her when she wanted to act like a child. I'm fed up with her.
2007-12-12 19:07:19 · update #2
It is is your life, your family and you should be the one making the decisions. If you have a mother that acts as you mention above, then tell her that if she keeps up the attitude, you will not want her to be a part of your anymore.
Set down rules, and tell her what they are. If she tells you NO. then say, well let us know whether you change your mind,. and then you can come back into our lives, but until that time, stay away from my family.
It is your choice to take control of the situation and it is her choice if she goes along with you or not. If you do not do this your life is going to be miserable, and your children are going to living in a very argumentative home environment.
You do not have to put up with her behavior. This is all up to you, not your husband or anybody else, but you.
Make a choice to give your own family a more peaceful life, if she doesn't want to change.
I DISAGREE WITH THE ANSWER ABOVE MINE THAT IS NOT WHAT GOOD MOTHERS DO AND THIS IS NOT WHAT LOVING MOTHERS DO - I DON'T AND WILL NEVER ACT LIKE THAT TOWARDS MY LOVED ONES/
2007-12-12 22:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gee she really needs to seek help and above all get a life of her own, she obviously has major issues, has our dad said anything to her?, maybe you need to disconnect with her for w while as in dont take her calss etc etc so that she can have time out ...like a child to re think her actions and how she is behaving, for a woman of her age she should lnow better and to think she is actually your mother not you M.I.L hmmmm it may be hard but gee if she is that annoying maybe it will be easier just to cut he roff till she comes to her senses if at all....good luck
2007-12-13 19:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing much you can do. i think all she wants is authority. There's someone at my job like that. First try saying this to her the next time you 2 are face to face. say it in a firm, angry adn slightly louder voice. "MOM!! My LIFE!! My KIDS!! My HUSBAND!! My PROBLEMS!! My RESPONSIBILITY!!! NOT YOURS!! GET A LIFE!!" If she doesn't stop try cutting her off for a little while. No mother's day, no Christmas, etc. Maybe a year. Hopefully she notices the damage she's causing.
2007-12-13 03:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by christigmc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks that she is craving for authority. She has taken up a negative approach for being an authoritative figure. She thinks that finding faults is one of the easiest thing to intimidate others. She is absolutely wrong. But you cannot alter her way of thinking.She is close to 60 years of age and not likely to listen to any persuasion to change.
You should completely ignore her remarks and laziness
2007-12-13 03:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be a good time to suggest to your father that he take her to see a therapist. she might need someone who is objective to talk to, someone who doesnt know her family and friends personally, and who will listen to her griping, then suggest healthy ways for her to deal with her gripes. she may also have a chemical imbalance that a therapist would be able to prescribe her medication for. have your dad get your mom involved in charity work, going to church, and getting into arts and crafts.
2007-12-13 03:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That is some pretty heavy stuff to deal with. Especially with her giving misleading info to practically strangers...
Try to talk to her and tell her it hurts your feelings. Explain that your family relationship, although not to her standards, works perfectly for you. Try to get her on your side by asking her to understand, it is easier than being defensive (although you have EVERY right to be!!!)
**Good Luck!!**
2007-12-13 03:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by Genie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause that's what mothers do.
2007-12-13 05:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋