My family is Unstable , what do I do ???

Question

Ok my life is in dissere ( not sure if that's the right spelling , or the meaning for that matter )

I am 25- I have no life. - My parents are to blame- But I just wanna survive now - Forget them !
I am sick and tired of my father who is an emotionally abusive a-hol@ , and my mom just goes along with it as if there is nothing wrong.

Now my brother . he's the biggest a-ho#e of all of them ,( Also an emotional blackmailer like my mom and dad ) Recently my dad tried to get mad at me for the simplest thing and then he chased after me with a knife scaring me . So i called the cops on him . They came and arrested him and found out the knife that he was holding.

This happened few months ago on september.The Court gave me an order of protection against him . Today I was talking to my mother after along time because I was in serious need for some money and she helped me in the morning. I took the help only because I felt like using her once for everything I went thru and

trust ME-- I dn't feel a bit guilty for it.

So my brother is listenin to me and my mom's converstation and He gets angry and he's yelling at her saying Don't talk to him , Momm !!! "I told you before he's a badd seed . dont' talk to him " He's cursing at her because she's talking to me " . This guy is like so pissed off cuz i am talking to my mother and Finally he comes and turns off the tv in the kitchen ( thats where I was talking to my mom )
So i went up to him ( we haven't talked in months ) ..
So i asked him . Why did you turn off the tv ?..In a calm and nice manner ( i had my mp3 recorder running , cuz in a family of pathological liers , i need to survive too , and this will be my evidence )

So he goes ( IN LOUD NOISE ) " Do not talk to me man "
and i am going , i am just asking why did u turn off the tv..
He starts raising his voice, Gets up from his seat , almost as if he's scared that I am gona take him to jail too..
anyway

..I Hate this a-h##le .. because of reasons i dn't wanna go into right now..

I know you guys are thinking " Move out man , u r 25 ," yeah i know . that's why I got a job , and iam having an interview
tommorow for this other part time job .

But it seems like beacuse i asked my mom for help ( I felt like talking to her )
But i wish i hadn't asked her for money , because then I could have been living here for longer ( Not talking to any of these bi3##es in this house ) ..

But now the eco - system of the house is unbalanced. [ i had a plan to keep this scare that I will call the cops any time if they did somethign that threatens me or intimidates me even in the slightest way , but i wasn't gona cuz I still need a place to stay for 2-3 months ]now i am living in the midst of some unbalanced people , it's concerning me . Should I be concerned ,[ For me ], in every survival way i mean .??

Answer 1

are you 25 and still living at home?

If so get out then there won't be all the trama, or if there is, all you have to do is go home.

don't be around it and it won't be around you.

Answer 2

Hmmm. I'm not sure what you are asking here. You seemed to be more bent on telling us all what a rotten family you have than asking a direct & answerable question.

You asked "what do I do?" Well so far you seem to be doing a pretty good job of looking after yourself. Getting that order of protection was probably a smart move.

But blaming your family for your situation isn't a healthy way to view things. Start taking responsibility for your life. The people that are a part of your inner circle are either detractors, or contributors. You can reject the detractors, & keep the contributors, & all you have to remember is that they only have an effect on you. The only person who is in charge of your life is YOU!

Answer 3

Disarray: meaning confusion: a mental state characterized by a lack of clear and orderly thought and behavior;

#1. Don't blame your parents. My ex blames everyone for why this and that..... you can chose to be a victim or you can chose to be a better person for it.

#2. Learn from the crap your parents are dishing out on how NOT to be.

#3. Learn to forgive your parents so you can be emotionally stable in the long run.

Now with that said....Get counseling....you are on an emotional roller coaster yourself. You can and will get through this if you chose to do so the right way but using your family for pay back is not the way.

Get your own place and be self sufficient. And, it doesn't hurt to go to church. My pastor has been a great therapist to me (I was in a similar situation with my family).

Answer 4

You need to find yourself and a balance in your life. With all this emotional stuff you will have scars but you can't spend the rest of your life blaming them. They are not responsible for choices you can make today to better yourself and make a good life for yourself. You have to surround yourself with people you want to be like and learn healthy behaviors. You can do it. Take the power back and don't blame them just try and understand why they are the way they are. You will be alright if you can do that. Good luck!!!!!!

Answer 5

Good Grief!! LEAVE ALL FAMILY MEMBERS and go-it-alone!! SURVIVE on your own, no matter what that takes!! There is no way under the sun that you could EVER straighten these people out!!! The real Qu is--CAN YOU GET OUT OF THIS DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY and make your own unique way?????? Do hope you can!!!!

Answer 6

that sux, we'll try finding an apartment, then a job. try going to church and avoid ur family if they gonna be like that to u. and make some friends to rely on