I'll give you the "Readers Digest" version: My Dad's rich, I'm not. He doesn't really care about me, and I don't really care about him. We still exchange xmas presents just to keep up appearances. Every year all he does is send me $200, and I kill myself trying to come up with something, ANYTHING that isn't the same old crap I get him every year (booze, cigars, last year, if I recall correctly, I got him Omaha steaks). I haven't the care or the energy to try anymore. Anyone have any ideas?
He's retired so he doesn't need a tie or anything like that.
And a picture of me is out of the question because despite how many pictures my sister and I have given him over the years (school, my wedding and such) he hasn't put one up in his house. He only has pictures of himself and wife #3.
I should just send him a check for $200, shouldn't I? That would be funny.
2007-12-13 09:58:19 · 6 answers · asked by Dolyn 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Racer 51: That would seem logical if I lived in a perfect world. But, 1. I don't call my Dad. We don't speak. And, 2, like I said, we keep up civil appearances.
2007-12-13 10:05:09 · update #1
hi. i understand what you mean, i come from a rich family too, but of course since i left my home and started working on my own, i have never asked them for money and im not rich at all.we get along great though , but they give me a check for $1000 every year, one for me + one for my husband for xmas, and no matter what i get them it all seems crappy.
my sugestion, does he listen to music? i seem to get a smile from my dad when i buy him a music dvd from his younger days. (does your dad like rock, or classical music etc ?) also a good book about something he likes, either wines, or cars, or golfing and so on.
hope this helps. good luck.
2007-12-13 10:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by worldpeace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might get them the two something small. you mustn't sense compelled to spend a ton of money on human beings you not often be attentive to! Thats in simple terms stupid! the trip journeys are approximately family contributors and not presents! i be attentive to you sense such as you should get them something because of the fact he would be there. in simple terms make it a small present like an RC automobile or a sport of somekind. save it common and coach the linked fee of $ and how not uncomplicated it fairly is to earn!
2016-11-03 04:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by sachiko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with those who said just call him and agree no gifts because they dont mean anything and gift giving should be thoughtful.
LMAO at Hedda Lettuce because that is a great idea just to give a pic of everybody mooning him...LOL.
2007-12-13 10:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by sandra e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm kinda confused, if you don't speak, you don't call him and you "keep up the appearance"...i don't get that...if he wants to send you money, i say let him, but why should you stress about what to get somebody that maybe your bio father but not your dad...if anything, send him a card and be done with it. but i wouldn't send anything...why pretend?
2007-12-13 10:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So tell him enough with the facade.
No more gifts.
That way neither one of you waste any money on each other.
You know what would be funny.........if your family members got together for a "family" picture, and instead all of you are mooning him.
Bet he never got that for X-Mas!
2007-12-13 10:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
why not just call him and agree to not exchange gifts? sounds like they don't mean anything anyway.
2007-12-13 10:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋