I have an annoying mother and I do not know what to do?

Question

I'm 25 and I have huge student loan. I moved home after university, and found a job I really enjoy (I can see myself doing this for the rest of my life). However the job is only part-time, I can not get full time status until the company I work for "gets to know me". So my plan was to live at home, help pay the bills, and put as much money on my loan as possible. But my Mother recognizes no privacy. She still treats me like a child. She goes through my bank transaction slips, goes through my room, looks at anything that I keep private, asks nosy questions, and tries to influence my career decisions. I ignore her, but she knows people I work with, and she uses them as pawns to get me to make career decisions that she would have made. When I have talked to her, argued with her, or ignored her, we have huge fights, or she plays a guilt trip on me. I have thought about moving out to the city, but then I would lose everything I have worked for, and enjoy. What do I do?

Answer 1

move to some cheap apartament nearby

Answer 2

Hmmm...normally I would suggest just locking your stuff up so that she can't get to it, but it sounds like your mom is so far out there that she won't recognize any boundaries, and she might mess up your career by meddling with people you work with. I think your only solution is to find somewhere else to live! she's been this way all her life, and chances are she's not going to change now.

Answer 3

Find a buddy to move in with and get a second job to help pay the rest of the bills

Answer 4

Since your only working part time, get another part time job and find a place to rent.

Answer 5

be grateful that u at least have a place ot go and parents that care about u. my gf just lost her mom a few months ago and her dad when she was 10 (shes 23).. she'd take that ne day... talk to her.. its not sumthin that can't be resolved.

Answer 6

stick it out.