Family - December 2007

I'm 18 and I live at home with my dad and brother, mum died when I was 9 and ever since then my dad looked after me and my brother but when I was 16 my dad decided to go back to work and he has a great job and he said he loves it but he gets tired alot. He broke up for christmas last week but this weekend I really dont know whats happened because he went out on Friday drinking with his friends which he does often but he didnt get back till 3am in the morning and then today he woke up at 11am and then about 12pm he went out again but said he wasnt going to drink many and then he never came back and he just came back now and said hes going back out again so he has gone. Obviously I cant tell him what to do cause hes old enough to look after himself and i'm 18 so I can look after myself now. I;m just worried that hes drinking too much. He use to go out on a regular thing on Friday nights and Sunday dinners to see his friends but he stopped bcause he was really tired with working alot.

2007-12-15 08:50:00 · 8 answers · asked by Jodie 1

My mom and I were best friends up until Thursday. She showed up to my sports practice with my aunt and my grandma to watch and take pictures. I asked them to leave because I had told my mom before that I would rather she not come to my practices, but only come on the days that I compete. So I asked them to leave, but they stayed to watch. I put up my hood because they were trying to take pictures of me. Whenever I looked over to where they were, they all just turned away laughing, like I didn't see them looking at me. Then, when I got home, my mother did not say anything to me at all. She told me to get out of bed the day after and then a sentence after that. She didn't talk to me for the rest of the day. When I tried to call her on the phone, my dad picked up. I know she just told him to because she didn't want to talk to me. Today, she hasn't talked to me at all. I have no idea why she is so upset. My brother doesn't think anything is wrong. What's the matter with her?

2007-12-15 08:48:29 · 7 answers · asked by >=< 3

One of my mom's friends has 2 kids, a son and a daughter, and she is dropping $400 for them for christmas. Isn't that really bad? I thought the point of Christmas was to be with your family.

2007-12-15 08:35:18 · 9 answers · asked by ■ Jessie ■ 5

I am in 6th grade and Im having the worst day ever and I have to dress up and go in 10 minutes so i dont have time to do anything im really mad cheer me up plz anything

2007-12-15 08:28:47 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

OKay I'm a 14 year old and my parents always embarrass me. everytime we go somewhere i have to translate and i always lose face. My dad is the worst he always yells at me saying I'm the one
that doen's speak snglish and he's just a asshole. He donesn't know how much stress I'm in with school since hes never been to scholl. He dropped out whe n he was in middle scholl because his parednts couldn't afford it. How do i cope with this

2007-12-15 08:26:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

i hate my mam and have done since i was 10 ( i'm now 13) she has just told me to my face that she depises me and she doesnt care what happens to me and she keeps threatning me by saying i will go into care all because she is on a diet and she blackmailed me into giving her a sweet because i had said its for her own good. i have considred killing her twice now what can i do to keep positive until i go to university and i am free from her, also why is she like this ?

2007-12-15 08:02:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am moving house next week and told my sons that I would appreciate their help but tried not to put guilt on them. My 22 yr old son has 2 days off work and would have to travel 4 hrs to get here, at first he said he'd help but now does not want to. His 19 yr old brother is coming over for midday on the move day, my sister will be here the day before, my husband is totally disabled and cannot do anything. Should adult children be expected to help out?

2007-12-15 07:59:38 · 11 answers · asked by youdancin 2

My relationship with my 25 yr. old daughter has always been strained, very difficult. As a baby, she seemed to hate me. When I nursed her, she would claw my sides and bite my nipples, with a look in her eyes that suggested she was intentionally being mean. I told myself, she's a baby, not capable of WANTING to be mean. I breastfed her till she was 11 mos. old. I also have 2 son's, the first 15 mos. older, the 2nd 5 yrs younger than her. All 3 have very high IQ's. I was a stay at home Mom till I divorced their dad after 18 yr. marriage. All my friends say I was an excellent Mom but we had challenges. My 2 oldest kids really acted out after the divorce. Rivalry between 1st son and daughter has never ended with daughter. She's as cruel to him as she is to me. I'm naturally very slender. Daughter struggles with weight but is not fat, she's beautiful. She had a daughter at 19 and she's always been jealous of my relationship with my grandaughter. I moved 1 state away in '03.

2007-12-15 07:16:25 · 9 answers · asked by Horserider75 4

KIDS

2007-12-15 07:10:29 · 12 answers · asked by Simba Lhumjilgney 1

Now I know growing up gives you more priveleges, but stop and think about all of the memories you had when you were a kid. It really makes me upset that we can't go back in time and re-live such great memories. Would you love to re-live your childhood?

2007-12-15 06:23:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

In my family there are 4 kids, and one of them is very rude to our family (and just plain mean sometimes), she doesn't help much or when she does she'll do a bad job (usually on purpose or because she's distracted by her iPod or the phone), and she's very ungrateful about things. Although we love her, she's put a lot of stress on our family this year. The other 3 kids are very nice and well behaved. Is it OK to give the more difficult kid less presents for Christmas when she doesn't necessarily deserve them like the other kids do, or should it be equal for everybody? Thanks.

2007-12-15 06:17:45 · 12 answers · asked by doodle 2

My brother died before his son was born. Now my sister-in-law is remarried and wants my nephew to eb adopted by her new husband. What is the process for adoption in this case? Do my mother and I have any say in it? I know it might sound selfish, but he will be my only nephew , and I would like to still legally be his aunt. Is there anyhing I can do to prevent this from happening?

2007-12-15 05:50:11 · 5 answers · asked by vmparmand89 2

why is this person your least mine is my cousin she made me leaglly blind in the right eye.

2007-12-15 05:23:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im 17 almost 18 so naturally i'd like some privacy when it comes to my room. But the thing is I dont have any. My mom goes through my room all when I leave the house. Recently today my sister told me she spent a good hour in my room going through it, and I was looking to see if she took anything and some PRIVATE letters I had in my nightstand from my boyfriend went missing, which i found in her room later. She knows im sexually active, and knows that im on the pill and we have dicussed issues such as this openly before so I dont think shes searching my room for that reason. We normally have a very open line of communication. Usually if shes concerned about something she just asks me and Ive tried the whole calmly talking to her. However being 17 I do have letters and things I'd like to keep private. But she searches my room all the time and it really bothers me. I understand i live in her house but how can I talk to her to get her to stop constantly searching my room for no reason?

2007-12-15 05:15:50 · 3 answers · asked by TeddyBear6 2

i have had alot of problems with my parents in the past couple of years, i am 15, 16 in june.
i used to smoke and stopped about a month ago, this caused alot of problems between myself and my parents which i understand but i used to always be grounded + didn't have much of a relationship with them but since i have stopped smoking we have been ok...
they are quite strict with me, such as times i have to be in, i have to be in at 10 on a weekend half 10 if i'm lucky, i would love abit longer.
i know i'm their little girl (i have two much older brothers) but i just want them to let go a little bit, i am mature for my age and that isn't just a teenager trying to be big and thinking that i am, i actually am.
i do realise some people have much more strict parents.

a few tips would be appreciated. thanks x

2007-12-15 05:05:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I find this term VERY negative. Aren't we in fact ALL from dysfunctional families? Everyone's parents made mistakes, as did their parents and so on down the line. And - if we ARE all dysfunctional, what could possibly be the definition of a Functional family - because I've never heard THAT term in describing someone's family life?

2007-12-15 05:04:57 · 12 answers · asked by Dana C 4

I hate my dad so much. He's an egotistic, drunken b****** who needs to get a life. He abuses me when he thinks I've done something wrong. Yesterday, I missed my bus, so he started screaming at me saying that I'm horrible, stupid, lazy, that I should never be alive. I hate his guts.
I went to my friend's house to hang out, and he came to pick me up. I asked him if I could sleepover. He flipped out and told me no on the phone. Then when I got in his car, he started building up his anger toward me by reminding himself how worthless I am. He brought up stuff from 2-3 weeks ago, little things that pointed towards how lazy I am. He got so angry he grabbed my wrist and started twisting it and yelling. When we got out, he started kicking and hitting me. I had not said a word. He supplied all of them.
I yelled at him, "what did I do wrong!???" That lead to more troubles. I cried that night for hours that night. My question is...next time should I run and lock myself in a room in the house?

2007-12-15 04:42:44 · 11 answers · asked by Nina is here! :D 4

if a thirteen year old girl was abused by her dad, who would she need to report it to to make it stop? if she did report it, would she need to go to a foster home? please help!

2007-12-15 04:40:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sorry if this is a stupid question but it's been bugging me all day!!!

I don't have children so I don't know how hard it is either.

I'm friends/acquaintances with the people downstairs. They're cool & friendly, but I don't see them enough to really say we're friends yet. But I've chilled in their home, they're so nice and each time I'm invited in their home their son (age 5/6?) gets so ticked off. He gives his mom a look like "get her out of here" and I'll be talking to them and he screams "Bye Jodie!" like - ok, leave now.

Today I was invited in at first he was fine. Then he pulled the "Bye Jodie!" thing again and 5 minutes later was "Do you live here now? Why don't you just go home?!" - The parents laughed but I felt uncomfortable. Rather then them saying he was being rude the father followed him as he flew into a hissy in the other room without any sign of what he did was wrong.

Should I say something to them? Their child is really rude to me stupidly it hurts my feelings!

2007-12-15 04:36:32 · 9 answers · asked by Raj 1

My mother became mentally ill yesterday night. It is possible that it could have been a sideffect to medicine or other. She is currently evaluation at the hospital. I don't know what to do. She blamed me in her random talks and screams. am I'm currently living at home with 2 youngerr sisters And I need advise. Should I leave, how can assist my mother.

2007-12-15 04:27:48 · 7 answers · asked by chamuco 1

My mother stays at nere partners house down the road alot as christmas dinner there with here partners kids dosent invite me and dont let me make my own food. Dosent get me christmas or birthday presents If I ask for any she says get lost I give her 100£ bord a week clean the house get no thanks for it work allday come home get small meals. My fiend took me to a market with his perents one morning and when I come home my mum said have you had anyting I said yes a bacon sandwitch she said that will do you for the day.Took her partner and his kids away and dident invite me. On my 18th and 21st birthday I got nothing and they didnt say happy bithday.There tv broke took my tv and wouldnt let me use my ps2 down stairs. I went to work got hit by a car and they said you will do anyting to get out of work. I got her a mothers day card and some flowers and she said why bother. and sat down and said why do you treat like this she said thats the way it is.

2007-12-15 00:16:55 · 9 answers · asked by Phillip K 1

You cannot live with it so DENY it.....But it keeps coming back.....it won't go away !!!!!!!!!!.Have you tried covering your guilt under a pile of good deals It maybe just be that you feel guilt because you are guilty.But you can ge rid of it by experiencing forgiveness of your guiltiness.

2007-12-15 00:07:37 · 3 answers · asked by BitchEmpress 1

Do you feel more free to write with computer to people than to talk to them?
What is the positive things it makes you feel?

2007-12-14 23:00:17 · 6 answers · asked by Positive P 6

2007-12-14 21:10:32 · 2 answers · asked by Rochel 1

I'm 18, I got in trouble. My dad grounds me and makes me start to pay rent. I don't mind that much. It gives me an extra incentive to move my bum *** out right? Anyway... He wants me to go on a family vacation later this month. I can't go because I need to pay the rent. But then he says he would pay for me to go. I'm really confused. Is he doing the right thing? I mean he wants me to pay rent and then he's gonna pay some of the rent for me if I go on the trip.... Is this confusing anybody else? I'm so confused. So my question is what should I do? Should I go on the trip or should I stay and work?

2007-12-14 20:02:53 · 7 answers · asked by andrewmikol 3

since my son was born which he just turned 1 in Novemeber I feel so bad but dont know how to call her what to say or what to do ?? We used to be close but just drifted apart over the last 4 to 5 years Ive been thinking about her and I just cant believe it The doctor kept saying nothing showed on her lab results until recently now shes really sick What should I say or do ???

2007-12-14 18:41:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

There are a total of 3 boys, 22,21,19. They have all lived out of the house for years now, and two of them are married and starting there own families. My mother in law constantly calls, and refers to herself as their mommy. She is really nosey, which i expect, but it just seems to me like she can't accept that shes not there to take care of them like they are her babies anymore. Which i understand, but it gets to the point where i am uncomfortable with how much she calls, and how much she thinks she needs to know. Please don't get me wrong, I am a mother too. Example... my husband had surgery on his hand, he called and told her, but didn’t give her enough time to actually make it to the surgery, because he didn’t want her to go, but didn’t want to tell her that. She threw a fit. she will call my husband, constantly, i am talking 3 times a day everyday, and he doesn't want to be rude to her, but he doesn't want her calling so much. There is more, but I just don't know what to do as far as with myself. I don’t care to talk to her about it, but I just want to try to maybe not be so uncomfortable with it. He sees the problem, but we both know that it will really hurt her if he says something. I myself do not like people knowing my business, money, anything unless I choose to tell them. She asks about everything, bills, anything. I wouldn’t have a problem with it if she was asking my husband, and it was his personal business, and I wasn’t included, but this is now OUR business, and anytime we try to avoid tellin her, she throws a fit and complains to the oldest son. It just stresses me out. It shouldn’t but it does.

2007-12-14 17:49:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother pretends hes a gangster and acts 'black' (sort of like J-roc from trailer park boys) all of the time. Its been happening for months now and hes making me mad. His attitude has changed too, and it seems hes not interested in anything except getting 'crunk' What should I do?

2007-12-14 17:27:00 · 23 answers · asked by WHAT THE HELL 4

my sister is the cheapest person in the world yet she is obssesed with chanel and all that duche bag ****. she cant afford none of that **** ans yet shes always showing off thinking shes better being very controlling and calling people wetbacks when she herself is mexican. Shes getting on my nerves...

2007-12-14 17:21:52 · 2 answers · asked by Juice 2

I am a 13 year old female who is experiencing problems with an alcoholic father. Ever since my mother left he has been relying on drinks to make him happy.

Everyday when I come home from school my father is heavily drunk. He immediately yells at me for the most unimportant reasons, i.e.; (I am 1 or 2 minutes late because of the school bus) He will nag on for sometimes a whole hour, repeating himself over and over again, and strike me with his belt or shove me into a wall. He sprained our dog’s ankle last week when he was upset and pushed him down a flight of stairs.

It is obviously my parent’s house, not mine. I have no authority over my father's actions, or his decisions to drink alcohol. I was just wondering if there is an appropriate way to confront my father about the issue, without abusing my privileges and overstepping my boundaries as a teenager.

I have no relatives to contact, as my father has isolated himself from the outside world, all of them have grown distant or given up completely

2007-12-14 16:44:45 · 9 answers · asked by Girl Dyslexic 1