I hate my dad so much. He's an egotistic, drunken b****** who needs to get a life. He abuses me when he thinks I've done something wrong. Yesterday, I missed my bus, so he started screaming at me saying that I'm horrible, stupid, lazy, that I should never be alive. I hate his guts.
I went to my friend's house to hang out, and he came to pick me up. I asked him if I could sleepover. He flipped out and told me no on the phone. Then when I got in his car, he started building up his anger toward me by reminding himself how worthless I am. He brought up stuff from 2-3 weeks ago, little things that pointed towards how lazy I am. He got so angry he grabbed my wrist and started twisting it and yelling. When we got out, he started kicking and hitting me. I had not said a word. He supplied all of them.
I yelled at him, "what did I do wrong!???" That lead to more troubles. I cried that night for hours that night. My question is...next time should I run and lock myself in a room in the house?
2007-12-15 04:42:44 · 11 answers · asked by Nina is here! :D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm so tired of this. It's so unfair. All he thinks about is his appearance. He's on his best behavior around other people, and never mentions abusing me or my sisters. I apparently ruin his "image".
My mom always agree with him, because she's too afraid to disobey him. They always fight if she does. I am too afraid to directly disobey. I might ignore him and scowl, but I can't do anything but let him yell and hit me. If I walk away, I will feel the beating again tomorrow.
I cannot call the police, I feel it will ruin our lives. I don't want to be split apart. I just want to know...should I run? Disobey him? Lock myself in a room and yell everything I'm thinking of in my mind that I've kept quiet for so long? It will lead to more problems...but should I?
2007-12-15 04:48:32 · update #1
I am 14
He did not suddenly appear this way..
It's been going on since I was a toddler.
2007-12-15 05:14:00 · update #2
You do not say how old you are? If you are a teenager, and this abuse is going on quite frequently, if I were you I would have summoned the proper Authorities so, that they can help you with this big problem. Don't you have a Mom who can come to your rescue when he is being abusing to you? Or does she find it better for you to take all the hostility your Father bestowed on you and not her? I feel for you, why on Earth does this Man take it into his hands to abuse you physically, as well as mentally? He should pick on someone his own size, find a Relative, who might be able to help you or guide you to where you can find help for what you are enduring, if you think that hiding in your Room or somewhere else is going to help you, I do not think so, your father must be stopped for what he is doing to you, or someday he might maim, or Kill you, so why don't you call Child Protective services, they are there for Kids who are abused, Mentally and physically, which your dad is doing to you. No amount of apologies can rectify what he is doing to you, you need someone who cares for you and Loves you just because you are you. I have always said that why? does God, give children to those who do not appreciate being called Father or Mother. I hope you will be able to get help with your problem, I feel for you.
2007-12-15 05:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try doing what you are told and being responsible for getting yourself out of bed and to school.
If you really feel your father is abusing you and your family, then report it. Talk to a school counselor, your minister or just call the cops.
I guess my question is, has he been like this all through your childhood or did it suddenly appear out of nowhere when you became a scowling surly teen? Been there, done that, and there are two sides to every story.
Again, if you are in danger, you have to protect yourself, and allowing the police to do their job is the right thing to do.
2007-12-15 05:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go see your school councelor. Hopefully she is a good one.
You don't say how old you are, but in alot of your words, I feel your also being a stubborn young teen. Very defient. Tyr and change your behavior and see if this opens your fathers eyes. Your mom is a mouse and needs backbone! Go ahead and try running to a locked door. I have a feeling though that there will be more hell, because if his temper is so bad, there will be alot of broken doors!
2007-12-15 05:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the cops or child services and have him removed from the home.
If he's abusing you, then he's probably abusing everyone in the household.
Just a side note.... put some saline eye drops in his booze. It will give him the runs.
See what that does to his self image........
2007-12-15 04:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ohmygod you should never feel bad about yourself even if you cant help it. having a positive attitude changes everything! if they laugh at you just brush it off. you're better than them. and most of them bullies just cause they dont have what you have or their lives is just messed up. you said you tried to be confident right? maybe because your timid and shy all the time when you suddenly become confident you get teased for it. just take one step at a time and dont overdo it. cosmopolitan, seventeen have guides to be confident. when you walk, lift your head and roll your shoulders back. and find something bout your self to feel good about.
2016-05-24 02:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would get the hell out of there and try to move in with another family member that i feel safe with. you should never have a go through abuse like that ever.
2007-12-15 04:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by bumblebee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yea you should go lock yourself in a room and call the cops no one deserves to be beat up like that when its somthing so little your dad has problems and needs to seek help
2007-12-15 04:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by joe642 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops I'm like serious or tell ur friends mom
2007-12-15 04:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by tiffinynb93 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't bother locking yourself up in your room. Go to the police and have him arrested for assult!...Get out while you can before it gets worse. TRUST ME!....Call CPS if need be....or go and stay somewhere where you will be safe...you don't have to be subjected to that violence it isn't right!
2007-12-15 04:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Next time you should call the police and report him for abuse. Or call and abuse hotline now and don't wait for next time. Google search "abuse hotline" and it will bring up what you need.
2007-12-15 04:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by Rachael . 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋